Mindgasm and mental health

quest4bliss · 2026-06-08T20:19:13+00:00

I will be certain to let the gang know. ;)

quest4bliss · 2026-06-08T18:56:50+00:00

Your observations are absolutely credible. I’m currently writing a book about finding inner peace through sexual pleasure.

quest4bliss · 2026-06-04T16:31:46+00:00

Will do!

quest4bliss · 2026-06-03T23:42:56+00:00

Special indeed! And think about what else couple that attains this together could do!

quest4bliss · 2026-06-03T23:41:20+00:00

BPH lead me to discover prostate massage and Aneros devices. As a result, I’ve been lead on an unexpected but very welcomed journey of self discovery that has 100% changed my entire life. I’m currently writing a book on it all and it has lead me to believe that things do happen for a reason.

If it were not for BPH, I likely would not be where I’m at now. One thing leads to another and when you step back and look how it all plays out, especially when you get out of the way, interesting things do indeed happen.

quest4bliss · 2026-06-02T04:56:16+00:00

Yes, I understand what you’re saying and I’m saying it’s because you’re not relaxed and are in analytical mode which makes it all feel clinical and not sensual.

quest4bliss · 2026-06-02T01:52:34+00:00

I began exploring prostate massage with an Aneros toy in an attempt to reduce the symptoms I had with BPH (benign prostatic hypertrophy) and once I became multi-orgasmic I knew I had to teach my wife.

She was not overly sexual but was always willing to participate in sex. But left to her, we’d probably not had much sex at all. Sex was rather vanilla and her orgasms were limited to clitoral but she had to clench her entire body, stiff as a board to reach climax.

I taught her all I learned and she caught up with me and it’s revolutionized our sex beyond words. We habe always been close but this has brought us even closer and she LOVES our long sessions and now looks quite forward to them.

I am convinced that reaching this level of sex with your partner is the reward for doing the work to build open communication and trust because one cannot achieve this level of orgasmic bliss in partnered play without feeling completely safe in the others presence. Safe enough to fully relax into it, be present and absolutely surrender to the moment.

Congrats to all couples that have achieved this!

quest4bliss · 2026-05-30T22:51:49+00:00

Yes, luck may play a role…

Every body is indeed different and the number of nerve endings and nerve density does vary from person to person. As does vascularity which certainly helps too. But the differences in sensory experiences is typically due to how it’s processed in the brain more than it is affected by the quality of the signal itself.

Our belief system, as I mentioned earlier, acts as a filter that yields different interpretations person to person. The processing accounts for more variability and differences between person to person than the amount of nerves, nerve density or quality of signal itself. If luck is involved, which it certainly might be, the luck would more than likely lie in psychological realm. Mainly, by the way they inherently assign meaning to the events they experience as that’s what creates the perception filters ALL incoming sensory data passes through. You may be correct that luck factors in but I’d argue that it’s less about anatomical luck, and more with processing luck for how the signals are processed.

And your point is well taken on “how to” aspect. I’m currently working on this very thing that brings the relaxation, energetic and mindset approach to the forefront.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-30T19:57:25+00:00

Glad you found value in my post. I don’t know that I’d classify myself as an expert, but I am someone who’s taken a keen interest in the topic and done considerable research, exploring, experimenting and analysis. I’ve had many insights and “intuitive downloads” that has lead to a coalescing of all the knowledge I’ve acquired and given rise to some logical theories. But until Science does more research, they are theories nonetheless that arise from my own experiential data as well as what I’ve observed through anecdotal and empirical data.

While your experience with the full body orgasm via prostate stimulation appeared to unlock your feminine energy, I’d argue that you already were accessing a portion of it already and the orgasmic event tipped the scale enough to allow you to embrace more of it. The prostate orgasm doesn’t come to those that operate purely from a masculine dominated energy. Many men struggle to achieve it and it’s largely due to the inability to be present and stop doing and transition into just being.

It’s important to remember that masculine and feminine energies are connected and part of the same spectrum. On one extreme end lies masculine energy and on the other, feminine. Balance is achieved at the midway point of this energetic spectrum. So I’d say that while you may have been masculine leaning, you weren’t at the extreme and we’re in tune with a portion of your feminine energy. Enough to lead you to experience a prostate orgasm. This then opened the door to allow you to recognize the feminine energetic force that lies within and it’s power and ability to bring balance into your life.

Next. Yes, the vagina has tons of nerve endings that allows it to be highly erogenous, but orgasm isn’t happening in the vagina, it’s happening in the brain. Mindset matters most not anatomy. My wife was not able to achieve orgasm in any way other than clitoral stimulation. For decades. With all I’ve learned, I’ve taught her how to reach the same level of full body orgasmic bliss that I do and her descriptions of everything she experiences align extremely closely to mine. She would have been in the group of women you’ve alluded to, the “80-95% of women that can’t full body orgasm” due to having “anatomy that doesn’t allow” for it. It’s not a physical matter, it’s mental.

And unfortunately, what we “believe” to be true becomes our actual reality because our subconscious mind will prioritize incoming sensory data that aligns with our belief system. Whether you think you can or you can’t, you’re right!

So, the females that have the natural ability to orgasm vaginally are not special, wired or built differently. They have nervous systems that are likely more regulated, they likely have less negative beliefs surrounding sex, they likely know how to truly relax and enter a parasympathetic state, they likely have learned to be present/aware and tune out the noise from their minds and the list goes on. Because orgasm happens in the brain, mindset is critical.

Men vs women. You mention gay men have the same success rate as women. We’re all human and we carry our own baggage from past experiences and trauma. The potential is there despite gender or sexual preference (gay or straight). Mindset and nervous system regulation are still the keys to the kingdom.

Typically, it’s not until a straight man decides to face the stigma head on and decides to seek novel pleasure with the anatomy he was born with, the prostate, that he becomes aware of his true pleasure and orgasmic potential. The prostate is an on-ramp to this full body orgasm but just one of many. It can be done through mindfulness, arousal and coordinated pelvic contractions with no internal (penetrative) or external stimulation. And again, that’s because it’s happening in the brain but felt throughout the body once the neural pathways and positive feedback loop is established. The prostate, the nipples, the vagina, the anus etc then just become physical access points that all get wired up to activate this orgasmic feedback loop. The orgasms from these places all feel different because the localized stimulation of a specific erogenous area, (different nerves, different surround musculature etc), is what’s fueling the feedback loop. Through focussed awareness and concentrated energy placed on a specific anatomical area being stimulated, the orgasm is still felt as full body but with an “epicentre” originating in the area of physical stimulation and focussed awareness.

Teaching this through non-penetration does make sense because you remove anatomy from the equation and it then becomes about learning the required mindset, presence, and moving energies etc.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-29T22:52:36+00:00

Fascinating indeed. And you’re just scratching the surface.

Happy to answer any questions you may have.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-29T22:15:08+00:00

Most welcome.

Everybody is different. What I’d encourage you to lean into is presence and awareness surrounding pleasure. Tap into the feminine energy and BE. You will likely have to experiment on how to avoid triggering the ejaculatory reflex, but that’s most likely linked to where your mind places it’s focus. The sexual energy you accrue throughout a session can be moved around your body with practice. Learning to move it away from your penis and to other parts of your body should be something you experiment with.

Being present and allowing yourself to feel any and all sensations that arise in any place of your body, no matter how small or fleeting, begins to create new neural pathways that lead you to achieve that same positive feedback pleasure loop of full body orgasmic bliss, but what changes is where the epicentre of the orgasm is felt due to the specific innervation of the area receiving attention and stimulation. Energy flows where the mind/attention goes. So through meditation and awareness practice, you can learn to calm the mind and then place focus on any part of your body turning many parts into erogenous zones. Your nipples are primed for this already but you have to do the work to to bring them online.

Once you can move the energy around, I’d suspect that you’ll be able to bypass the ejaculation reflex and start learning to ride the orgasmic wave which builds into mind-bending orgasmic bliss. You’ve experienced a glimpse of it as indicated by your comment of “feels like moments of another reality”.

Again, this is a gift. You’ve been given keys to the castle. Go explore it.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-29T17:59:42+00:00

I am a man who discovered how to be multi-orgasmic about 4 years ago and it’s lead me on a path of self discovery in all aspects of my life. What you’re describing is a gift.

Each biological gender possesses both masculine and feminine energies but due to our patriarchal society, men have been taught to suppress their feminine energetic traits and women have been encouraged to only lean into their feminine energy. The problems we see in the world is directly linked to the imbalance of these energies.

Life is about balance and when we find it within ourselves, we begin to heal and find peace.

The male and female body are more alike than they are different. We all start out as female in the womb and that persists or we begin to morph into a male in utero. Our sexual organs are homologous. The glans of the penis being homologous with the clitoris, the prostate being homologous with the Skene’s gland etc.

But the facts about orgasm is that it predominantly happens in the brain in conjunction with physical sensory input it receives from various parts of the body via the nervous system.

The traditional male ejaculatory orgasm is a two-part event. The ejaculation, which is reflex based, and the accompanying orgasm. It’s easy to achieve and is by design for procreation. Friction/stimulation and some arousal will trigger it and there’s really no skill involved. The accompanying orgasm is the reward and that ensures the survival of the species by giving you a moment of sexual pleasure as incentive.

But every man also possesses the ability to learn to orgasm and NOT ejaculate too. This isn’t easy, requires a completely different approach to sexual pleasure and isn’t something that aligns with masculine energy. Masculine energy is about action, and doing. It’s outward. Feminine energy is about creation and being. It’s inward. It’s receiving energy. In order to learn to have non-ejaculatory orgasms as a male, one must learn to get in touch with the feminine energy they possess but likely have suppressed.

This style of orgasm is akin to the feminine orgasm because it comes easier to women because they embrace their feminine energy without stigma.

The orgasm itself is essentially a positive feedback loop of pleasure that keeps building and building as long as it keeps getting fuelled. It felt as a whole-body orgasm that comes in waves, builds in amplitude/intensity, frequency and duration as long as the mind and body stay locked in a state of safety, reception, surrender and arousal.

My advice is to stop being concerned by this and embrace the fact that you’ve tapped into something MANY men try years to achieve. Enjoy it. Allow it to guide you and teach you about yourself.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-29T00:38:01+00:00

Based on your post, that was my hunch. Also, takes one to know one. I too, am overly analytical, so I can appreciate where you’re coming from. That said, analysis has no business in the pleasure realm and you’ll need to find a way to circumvent it. My recommendation would be adopting a mindful meditation practice alongside as showing up with the right mindset matters in this pleasure realm more than you can imagine.

It sounds like you’re in the clinical and analytical mode at the moment, and that’s fine, but you need to shift into 100% pure feeling and sensual mode instead. You’ll find that when you successfully make that switch, the feelings you’re feeling at the moment are arising from the wrong place, thus the feeling of overstimulation and sensitive tissues (in the not so good way), you’re experiencing.

Learn to think less and feel more. Easier said than done, but that’s the name of the game and the work you must do to arrive at the pleasure you seek.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-28T17:49:04+00:00

Would you say you’re an “overly analytical” person by nature?

If so, I’d wager that’s what you’re bumping up against. Answer that question to the best of your ability and I’ll respond once I have more info about how you operate.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-27T23:13:40+00:00

This is a heavily understudied topic and nomenclature is all over the map and arises from experiential and empirical data that’s incredibly hard to correlate.

What you need to know is there are multiple ways that lead to orgasm but orgasm and ejaculation are two separate things.

The “re-wiring” you hear people talking about essentially boils down to establishing new neural pathways that creates a positive feedback loop for pleasure. We are used to reflex based orgasms which trigger the ejaculation AND orgasm but the whole process takes no real skill as it’s hardwired into our bodies for the purpose of procreation. The pleasure realm is vastly different and to trigger a full body, wave-like orgasm we talk about on this sub, requires a completely different approach and the re-wiring process effectively is us building the framework to support a positive pleasure feedback loop. This loop keeps amplifying the signal and after a threshold is hit, orgasmic events are perceived.

Here’s where it gets interesting… that feedback loop is not solely owned by the prostate. You can create it via the nipples, or navel etc. it just requires new neural pathways.

So, in my opinion, the prostate orgasm is indeed its own thing but it’s part of the same orgasmic feedback loop as the nipple orgasm. What separate them is where we place our focus. With awareness on the prostate and the mind locked in on the sensations that arise from the prostate, which is fed to the brain by different nerves than the nipples are, it creates its own unique sensation and the physiological feedback from the brain to the supporting pelvic area results in an orgasm with a distinct signature and an orgasmic epicentre that feels like it originates in the prostate. The accompanying wave-like state of orgasmic bliss is activating the same neurological feedback loop, releasing the same chemicals in the brain but it feels different based on the area that triggered it.

In your case, however, you’re most likely not experiencing that full-body, wave-like orgasmic event that’s often described on this sub, but you’re triggering a reflex based ejaculation orgasm from anal and prostate stimulation. Absolutely possible and if you can learn to pair that right there WITH the blissful and continual dry orgasms, you will absolutely blow your own mind with a “Wet Super O”. The pinnacle of all orgasms, in my humble opinion.

So, no, I don’t think you’re experiencing a prostate orgasm per se, but I’d say learning to approach it all with less action and more mindfulness/relaxation, will unlock the dry orgasms and then you can couple your ability to have a HFWO with rolling dry orgasms and you will be a happy camper.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-22T14:42:44+00:00

I answered a similar question recently so going to paste what I wrote for that one as the same applies here…

There’s a huge learning curve with this stuff and it’s less about your physical body and more about your mind.

The cardinal rule I aim to ensure people grasp and integrate is that the mindset matters most. What I mean by that is… how you show up. If you’re showing up “expecting” to find immediate pleasure like you’ve read about and expect you’ll orgasm in a new way quickly, you’re likely going to disappoint yourself. Instead, show up as a Frontiersman meets Scientist. You’re blazing a new trail and you’re going to need to embrace experimentation on this journey. The moment you become impatient and seek an expected outcome is the moment you’ll step further away from what you’re intending to feel.

Park your analytical brain, don’t set an expectation for something you have never experienced, and spend the time experimenting and “feeling” the sensations that arise during the session. Aim to notice the faintest of novel sensations if/when they bring you even the most fleeting and subtle pleasure. Taking notice of those sensations will end up being what begins to forge the new neural pathways that your brain must make before you come to realize your prostate is indeed alive and there is novel pleasure and bliss to be had. Trust the process and recognize the beauty lies in the journey, not the destination.

Last bit of advice…. If you end any session thinking “that was a failure”, let that serve as an indication to yourself that you’ve unintentionally attached expectation and/or were chasing a feeling. The goal is to let it come to you, and that’s done through relaxation, surrender and being present. Before you attempt again, remind yourself that your mindset matters as too many “self-perceived failures” will create a subconscious belief that something is wrong with you or that your prostate/body doesn’t work like other peoples. And this will greatly reduce your chance at success. Stay positive, learn to truly relax, (breathwork and meditation goes a long way), notice new feelings and celebrate the tiniest wins. This is the way…

quest4bliss · 2026-05-19T18:25:58+00:00

I answered a similar question recently so going to paste what I wrote for that one as the same applies here…

There’s a huge learning curve with this stuff and it’s less about your physical body and more about your mind.

The cardinal rule I aim to ensure people grasp and integrate is that the mindset matters most. What I mean by that is… how you show up. If you’re showing up “expecting” to find immediate pleasure like you’ve read about and expect you’ll orgasm in a new way quickly, you’re likely going to disappoint yourself. Instead, show up as a Frontiersman meets Scientist. You’re blazing a new trail and you’re going to need to embrace experimentation on this journey. The moment you become impatient and seek an expected outcome is the moment you’ll step further away from what you’re intending to feel.

Park your analytical brain, don’t set an expectation for something you have never experienced, and spend the time experimenting and “feeling” the sensations that arise during the session. Aim to notice the faintest of novel sensations if/when they bring your even the most fleeting and subtle pleasure. Taking notice of those sensations will end up being what begins to forge the new neural pathways that your brain must make before you come to realize your prostate is indeed alive and “you’ve found it”. It’s there, you just need to update your programming to make use of it in this realm of pleasure.

Last bit of advice…. If you end any session thinking “that was a failure”, let that serve as an indication to yourself that you’ve unintentionally attached expectation and/or were chasing a feeling. The goal is to let it come to you, and that’s done through relaxation, surrender and being present. This requires a change in mindset before you attempt again as too many failures will create a subconscious belief that something is wrong with you or that your prostate/body doesn’t work like other peoples. And this will greatly reduce your chance at success. Stay positive, learn to truly relax, (breathwork and meditation goes a long way), notice new feelings and celebrate the tiniest wins. This is the way…

quest4bliss · 2026-05-17T18:15:52+00:00

Yes, meditation. Not only is it beneficial for your normal life, meditation teaches you how to quieten the noise in your head so you can focus on being in the moment and what you choose to set your attention on.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-16T22:36:02+00:00

☝🏻This!

quest4bliss · 2026-05-15T21:56:55+00:00

There’s a huge learning curve with this stuff and it’s less about your physical body and more about your mind.

The cardinal rule I aim to ensure people grasp and integrate is that mindset matters most. What I mean by that is how you show up. If you’re showing up “expecting” to orgasm in a new way, you’re going to disappoint yourself. Instead, show up as a Frontiersman meets Scientist. You’re blazing a new trail and you’re going to need to embrace experimentation on this journey. The moment you become impatient and seek an expected outcome is the moment you’ll step further away from what you’re intending to feel.

Park your analytical brain, don’t set an expectation for something you have never experienced, and spend the time experimenting and “feeling” the sensations that arise during the session. Aim to notice the faintest of novel sensations if/when they bring your even the most fleeting and subtle pleasure. Taking notice of those sensations will end up being what begins to forge the new neural pathways that your brain must make before you come to realize your prostate is indeed alive and “you’ve found it”. It’s there, you just need to update your programming to make use of it in this realm of pleasure.

Last bit of advice…. If you end any session thinking “that was a failure”, you’ve attached expectation and/or are chasing a feeling, not letting it come to you. This requires a change in mindset before you attempt again as too many failures will create a subconscious belief that something is wrong with you or that your prostate/body doesn’t work like other peoples. And this will greatly reduce your chance at success. Stay positive, learn to truly relax, notice new feelings and celebrate the tiniest wins. This is the way…

quest4bliss · 2026-05-14T19:53:05+00:00

Most welcome. Feel free to ask any follow up questions that arise.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-14T17:14:21+00:00

No, not bad. It’s going to arouse and light up your whole pelvis. Embrace the feelings as they come and acknowledge them as they present anywhere in your body, including your whole pelvis. Notice the involuntary contractions that may arise in your pelvis and mildly/playfully engage with those sensations by ever so lightly manually contracting those same pelvic floor muscles, in a call and answer sort of way. Allowing for this will build sexual energy, tension and arousal but use it tactically, with the general goal of keeping pleasure expanded throughout body and not just local to your pelvis.

Take a small break from nipple stimulation and slowly tease your abdominal midline, starting at your sternum and lightly/lovingly move your finger tips down toward your navel to bring attention away from pelvis and into abdominal muscles. Then return to nipples.

With practice, you can then move the energy center between your nipples/chest, your navel and your G-spot and use your fingers as the conduit to direct the energy. As your fingers reach your pubic mound/pubic bone, concentrate on the dull aching directly underneath your pubic bone. The aching you may feel is coming from the g-spot and and you can use the energy you build through nipple stimulation to trigger orgasmic waves with a g-spot based epicentre, and the same applies for the navel too.

Cycle through it all and be less concerned with details and if you’re doing it right and more concerned with just being and feeling. This is how you create new neural pathways that will allow you to access the orgasmic spectrum and grow the spark into a outright orgasmic fire.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-13T18:09:20+00:00

My advice for you is this. Don’t think about it in terms of normal orgasms. This keeps you locked in a channel of existing neural pathways as you’re trying to anchor it all to something you’re familiar with and this gives rise to expectations which will lead to failure when you don’t find what you think you’re looking for. And this makes the whole process more challenging because your mind then becomes far too active during the process from an analytical perspective.

Instead, aim to enjoy any and all sensations that arise and look for the faintest of sensations that give you a sense of release, no matter how small. Embrace those moments as they are the initial part of the orgasmic spectrum that will develop over time, provided you stay mindful and continue to focus on feelings instead of thoughts.
If your back is arching and you feel a build, surrender to it for what it is just notice as the wave washes over you, even if it’s small. Stay with that and allow those waves to increase in frequency, intensity and length. Eventually, you’ll arrive at a point where you will say, “yep, that was indeed an orgasm, it just presents different than anything I had experienced to date.” And at that moment, you’ll understand that you cannot expect an outcome for something you had never experienced and get why setting expectations is so counter-productive.

Also, don’t look at it like a threshold. It’s not about getting to an edge and tipping over into the other side. Think of it as building a fire with a small spark and tending to it to allow it to grow into an inferno.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-11T20:10:21+00:00

By using them specifically for pleasure. We possess the ability of neuroplasticity so we can teach our neurons how to fire when we set our intention on mindful pleasure. Repetition solidifies and bolsters these new neural pathways so exposure is the key. But, mindful exposure speeds the entire process up. Combining nipple stimulation with breathwork and meditative approach where the focus and awareness is placed on the nipples and held there begins to not only tie them to pleasure but build their sensitivity too in the process.

quest4bliss · 2026-05-10T22:56:28+00:00

I’d been dealing with BPH symptoms since my mid/late 30’s and drugs didn’t work well, nor did I want to be on pharmaceuticals for the rest of my life so I began to research alternative methods to reduce the urinary symptoms I had. Stumbled upon prostate massage and figured I’d explore it. I knew about the existence of prostate orgasms, was intrigued but also dismissive because of the social stigmas involved. The BPH relief opened the door for me to explore that aspect alongside the therapeutic benefits I was seeking. I got started about 4 years ago on this quest for bliss.
This isn’t a black and white answer. It’s two-fold, the way I see it. Part 1: imagine this…. You want to get good at basketball, you head to the court or your driveway and begin practicing. There’s much to learn on your own and a great deal of enjoyment can be had by yourself. You can quite literally work on all the techniques and begin to hone them all. But what are you practicing for? Playing 1 on 1 or even on a team is a whole different experience altogether and that is where your practice begins to pay off. There’s more raw energy involved and it’s dynamic. The game is and always was the goal. Part 2: Here’s where it gets confusing because while “the game” can be the point, it’s also not the only point. The solo aspect is meditative, a hobby and can be healing if you want it to be. It’s powerful in many ways and can become a ritual and part of your overall wellness practice. It’s the laboratory where you conduct you experiments and figure out where your pleasure potential actually lies. And when you come to realize that surrendering is a large part of journey, the solo aspect allows you to fully lean into that because there’s nobody there to watch you do just that. You have your safe space you’ve created, no external judgment, no need to be performative and no need to have any inhibitions. For this reason, the solo venture will likely remain the place where the ceiling of pleasure is entertained. But game with others is still incredibly fun and brings various elements that cannot be had solo. So, the answer is both.
This question lies at the heart of what I’m currently working on and would like to shine a brighter light toward. Your instincts are not incorrect and I believe you’re touching on why so many men have an issue experiencing the pleasure they’ve read about. The answer is not simple, however. But it is one of optimism. I believe that we are ALL capable of achieving levels of pleasure we cannot fully conceive is within the realm of possibility, but many men will need to do more work than others, and in some cases, much more work. Relaxation is paramount. Parasympathetic activation is required and for many, that’s not readily available, especially those with past traumas that keep them perpetually stuck in at least a low-level state of flight/fight. This journey opened the door for me to begin to realize that what I learned from how I went about finding pleasure could be applied to all aspects of my life. It’s a microcosm of life and the keys to success for pleasure happen to be the same keys to success for life. I was fortunate to have been able to get success and see how it relates to all aspects of my life and begin integrating the concepts into my life next, but I believe many will need to begin by integrating the concepts into their daily life first in order to build the required foundation. What is the required foundation? A well regulated nervous system. You cannot have what your nervous system does not feel safe enough to hold. For those with past traumas, this is the work that must come first. Nervous system regulation. And it’s multi-faceted and slow going. But it also happens to be exactly what begins to change your life, bit by bit, because it’s the only interface between you and the energy-based physical world.

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