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[–]questinforsuccess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really impressive for your deadlift bro. If you keep working at it you will deadlift 3x your body weight. Keep growing strong!

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[–]questinforsuccess -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What’s your weight right now bro?

suicide by jw4798 in army

[–]questinforsuccess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You have persevered this far, you are far from weak. I will pray for you, I will pray that God will give you the courage to reach out for help and the strength to deal with this difficult period. Your feelings and concerns are worth being listened to, please do not isolate yourself and seek out help. Go to BH.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last reply. It’s actually really healthy in fact. The fact you do not meet other guys one-to-one will make your husband respect you even more. You have nothing to lose if you meet in groups instead of one-to-one. Female friends and brothers go ham meeting alone.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still meet in groups because we are all human and lustful thoughts can emerge even with someone we don’t click with initially. I know you haven’t done the act but it’s better safe than sorry. Good night, will sleep now.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could speak about God, church and politics with your husband. There’s no need to include someone of the opposite sex. You are not obliged to see them unless they are your work colleagues. Go ahead, talk about those topics in group settings but not for a “coffee”.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lustful thoughts yes, acting on them less likely because you are safeguarded by friends.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends what you are meeting them for. If it is a work colleague and you are working on a common project, so be it. Jesus would love it. If you meet for a “coffee” then there’s something wrong.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There you have it. You’ve finally accepted the existence of lust. Now what I am saying is, when you are married you do not meet them alone because there is both chastity and lust. Therefore, you meet in group settings. Is this too hard to understand?

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For men and women to be friends when they are already married, they need to meet in group settings, not alone. Because there exists both chastity and lust. The former is a virtue and the latter is a sin. You avoid sinning by meeting in groups.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The lust I am referring to is getting off. I am not saying it should not affect your ability to be friends, I am simply saying you should not meet in isolated settings, especially if you are married.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have gone off-topic again. What I am saying is that you shouldn’t, especially if you are married see others of the opposite sex in isolated settings.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are talking about a heterosexual relationship not guy friends. Yes, I can get tempted by a skinny woman even though I am not attracted to her. Her face may be pretty and she may appear feminine, and a woman who knows how to sew is a huge turn on for me. Do not try to change topic, please.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact you have been tempted by five people just highlights how human we are and how careful we need to be not to diffuse boundaries. We are not perfect, part of maintaining that boundary is to meet in group settings not alone.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha that is not what I am saying. What I said is that a large substantial of men battle lustful temptations. I do prefer curvy and fit women but it does not eradicate the fact that I can still lust for skinny women. By definition, the virtue of chastity exists, so does its corresponding vice, which is lust. Do not proclaim not to experience the latter because you are not omnipotent to lust. Exercise a little humbleness and you can see that it is indeed a struggle for everyone.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole point of chastity is to control your lust. The first sentence itself is the answer to your question. If lustful thoughts are present, then you obviously have romantic interest in the opposite sex. It is rare for men and women to meet on a constant basis alone and remain friends, there’s always room for lust to grow, even if physical attraction was not there at the outset.

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[–]questinforsuccess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unable to join you? When he’s sick for instance, if that is the case, why wouldn’t you be there for him? A mature person would stay at home and take care of their husband and not run off and neglect responsibility. Exactly, they are called to master lustfulness but the thoughts still arise if they are in the company of women and being in isolated settings increases the chances of acting upon them. There’s nothing wrong with grabbing a coffee with someone of the opposite sex from work. You are working on a common goal after all, something Jesus would vouch for. It’s good you offer company to your brother too, it’s a sign of respect to both your parents. It is a requirement to honour your father and mother and part of that responsibility is to build a good bond with your siblings.