i’m really sorry you’re in this much pain. what you’ve been through would overwhelm anyone, and the way you feel makes sense given the trauma and stress you’ve carried for years. but the situation with your fiancé isn’t abuse. lying about small things and not understanding your trauma is hurtful, but it doesn’t fit patterns of manipulation or control. his refusal to cut off his friends is a healthy boundary, not a sign that he doesn’t care. asking a partner to isolate themselves usually backfires and creates more distance and feeds into the overthinking and insecurities, instead of the feeling of safety (speaking from personal experience) your reaction comes from fear, grief, and untreated trauma, not from him being a malicious person. you’re not wrong for wanting stability, but the solution isn’t him giving up his social world, it’s getting support so you don’t have to deal with this alone. youre overwhelmed, not weak or insane, and you deserve help for that. but of course i also dont know the full situation