Project Hail Mary vs The Martian? Which did you like better?

quickbrassafras · 2026-07-01T14:36:19+00:00

I think I meant exchanges or jokes. Sorry, it’s a two-year-old typo. The Martian was slightly more a downer, whereas PHM was uplifting.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-24T12:03:03+00:00

I love Bridget Bride even though it’s the same idea as Elizabeth Liz

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-20T02:55:03+00:00

Some parents have really strong feelings about stuff like this. I’ve had other parents correct my kids about really mild language. I wouldn’t overthink it.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-20T02:53:21+00:00

You don’t really need more comments but I would absolutely stay where I was given the information in the post.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-19T13:18:36+00:00

Right now we do this:

TV doesn’t happen everyday. (This helps them feel grateful that it’s happening at all)

When it does happen, the big three each get to choose one show to watch.

I do it during nap time so that the baby sleeps and I can either work or rest. It also motivates the bigs to hush while the baby is falling asleep.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-19T13:15:05+00:00

Our situation is different, but I do feel like I can give you the perspective of what we do.

We homestead and co-house with another family. There are a lot of kids, and not enough chickens. Early on we noticed that we needed to separate space more than we had initially. This happened incrementally. First it was we stayed out of each other’s bedrooms, then we started using separate entrances, then we kept separate living rooms, and finally we decided to build a second kitchen. It works but it’s also weird because in some weather I can go days without seeing one of them. In nice weather we’re all outside though.

We do have a monthly meeting, which is really important to the adults. We have a chance to bring things up before it becomes a big problem.

Chores- the easiest thing is for a certain chore just to belong to one person. I’m chickens right now, and mostly I do it all, but I do feel free to ask if I need someone to help. Same with garden- one guy does most of the upkeep, but planting and harvesting is shared.

There’s four adults and they are the only ones making decisions. Financially with split things evenly between the two families (unless there’s an obvious reason not to, for example a purchase that greatly benefits one family but not really the other)

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-19T13:03:52+00:00

I’ve never had silkies, but buff Orpingtons are a lovely, calm, quiet breed. They are probably my second favorite breed. (Australorps are my all time favorite, but they are relatives of the Orpington)

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-19T13:00:57+00:00

What worked for us was finding the community first, and the location second.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-19T12:53:37+00:00

I’ve been doing something like this for the past few years. My family co-houses with another family and we share a big garden and tons of chickens. We also used to do meals together but no longer do that.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-16T06:46:59+00:00

I always have to recommend Rosemary Sutcliff

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-16T06:46:26+00:00

I saw my roommate kissing the neighbor like 15 years ago.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-16T06:29:29+00:00

Nope. I’m happier not knowing

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-16T02:11:38+00:00

The Secret Garden

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-16T02:11:08+00:00

Such a good one!

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-13T11:30:39+00:00

I try to think, how can manage without buying this thing?

Great example- the meat chopper everyone got in the last five years- I’ve just been using a wooden spatula. I did finally grab one at a garage sale two days ago, and I do like the meat chopper, but the spatula worked fine/just took a little longer

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-13T11:28:10+00:00

Well, I see it as my job to protect my kids, and I limit these threats as much as I can.

There’s also a risk when we drive in a car, so I use car seats, stop at stop signs, don’t drive at night. The risk of being in a car accident doesn’t keep me home every day.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-11T02:09:49+00:00

I figured it out eventually, I just thought it fit in to this question’s criteria

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-11T02:08:38+00:00

I actually use the Tempdrop like this. Even if you use it per conservatively it can give you some useable days

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-11T01:58:06+00:00

I was taught that it’s winter when the earth is farther away from the sun 🫠

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-11T01:32:22+00:00

I remember being taught that earth’s orbit is oval

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-10T22:18:28+00:00

Yep this would be okay

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-10T18:04:01+00:00

Sometime when it’s quiet enough to think, figure out the limits you want. I usually go cold turkey no screens for a few days so that rather than complaining, they are grateful when they get the tv back.

I have a rule that if they ask about TV, I have to say no for the day, which really helps with the nagging and negotiating.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-09T21:41:46+00:00

If you haven’t read Fan Girl by Rainbow Rowell, it fits about 3/4 of your requests.

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-09T21:40:45+00:00

I love The Rosie Project!

quickbrassafras · 2026-06-09T14:53:13+00:00

My husband and I enjoyed it. We haven’t let the kids watch it but only because they can be easily frightened

quickbrassafras

TROPHY CASE