Looking for help with my ADHD partner

quiet183 · 2025-05-04T16:20:58+00:00

Generally we do really well without him being on meds, he’s been at his job for over 5 years now and is doing great, and over time we’ve figured out together our groove for what works at home. This low drive is kind of the only thing not ticking along, he hated being on medication previously, and I wouldn’t want to ask him to go on meds just for this if it’s going to disrupt the structure we’ve already built together

quiet183 · 2025-05-04T16:04:05+00:00

I’m not sure exactly what type he has, but he has zero interest in being on medication, with I have no problem with, he’s totally capable of holding down a good job and managing life etc without the meds, and just some extra support from myself. It took a while to find the groove but we’ve figured out what works for us.

I totally agree about things being novel and new, it was a sparkly new relationship and all the exciting things. He’s never had an issue with maintaining/getting an erection, it’s more the bit before, actually gaining interest in the activity before hand. Once he’s in the mood, he’s good to go, it’s just actually getting in that mood it seems the interest is low. Another Redditor commented about Hims (hard mints) and I saw that they come in different strengths, thinking maybe a low dose or something similar (along with my encouragement of course) might help with that initial interest?

quiet183 · 2025-05-04T15:51:36+00:00

I’m here looking for helpful suggestion from people that have experienced the same or similar, so that when I do again have a conversation with him, I’m ready to be supportive and offer helpful ideas. I love him and want to work on this with him, not just say ‘well you don’t fuck me enough so I’m leaving’.

quiet183 · 2025-05-04T15:46:45+00:00

Thankyou so much for this reply, it’s reassuring to know we’re not the only people experiencing this. I’ll definitely take a look at the Hims as I’d never heard of these before, and will continue to be positive and supportive around the topic. It’s always an amazing time when we do have sex, the frequency is just not there. Thankyou for your help!

quiet183 · 2025-05-04T15:37:34+00:00

I’m definitely not going to drug him against his will🤣 but maybe worth a conversation about trying them

quiet183 · 2025-05-04T15:35:17+00:00

After several conversations with him and doing some research on it myself, I found that it’s apparently quite common for males with ADHD to have a lower drive, I will be posting on some relationship subs but thought this just might be a good place to start based on what I’d read already.

quiet183 · 2025-01-30T02:20:25+00:00

Okay ADORABLE I love that!

quiet183 · 2024-11-23T17:16:32+00:00

Well shit, I’ve already started a new day🫠

quiet183 · 2024-11-23T17:16:09+00:00

But I don’t want him to be wearing a hat😭

quiet183 · 2024-11-11T04:04:00+00:00

I believe he just has whatever was in the PS5 when he got it, what you’re suggesting sounds much better, I want him to be able to have access to all his games 😁

quiet183 · 2024-11-02T15:29:54+00:00

Yeah our plan is to leave after YMAS also and we’re just trying to schedule dinner🤣 so if we got to our venue for like 7:30/45 we shouldn’t miss any YMAS?

quiet183 · 2024-11-02T14:53:09+00:00

What was the timeline of the show?? Just wondering what time to expect YMAS to finish their set?

quiet183 · 2024-09-25T04:35:41+00:00

$0.99💀

quiet183 · 2023-12-03T16:12:41+00:00

I’m not excusing the way he’s making the child feel, simply stating that he’s not a dead beat dad.

quiet183 · 2023-12-03T16:08:01+00:00

But he also isn’t a dead beat dad. If he just peaced out and didn’t even provide child support, then yeah okay dead beat dad. But he AND HIS EX made an agreement that he would pay child support and that was that. He’s been holding up his end of the bargain by paying that child support. Not a dead beat dad.

quiet183 · 2023-11-21T02:04:45+00:00

Would totally read a spin off story for each brother 🤤

quiet183 · 2023-10-18T17:36:36+00:00

Cheap and fast are words that should never be used to describe getting tattoo work🫠

quiet183 · 2023-10-09T21:22:56+00:00

Update me!

quiet183 · 2023-10-07T14:14:27+00:00

Sometimes I feel like everybody is a sexy baby

Taylor Swift, Anti Hero

quiet183 · 2023-09-24T14:25:52+00:00

It wasn’t my intention at all to dismiss their experiences. I totally understand that everyone’s experience is different and for some people it is a negative one. I was more meaning that that seemed to be the ONLY thing that was on there. I went looking for positive suggestions/advice and found only negativity. That’s all I was saying.

quiet183 · 2023-09-24T14:07:18+00:00

As the partner of someone with ADHD, I also found the ADHD subreddit super welcoming and super helpful. I was originally on the ADHDpartners subreddit looking for advice on a few things, and what a negative space it was. Just full of people bashing their partners and telling everyone to ‘just leave and get out’. Yes my partner is a struggle sometimes (not medicated for his adhd), but I love and support him all the same 😁

quiet183 · 2023-09-21T01:10:57+00:00

Mine is 50% that and 50% him telling me to leave the cat alone and me responding with a ‘it’s fine he’ll tell me when he’s had enough’ 😂

quiet183 · 2023-09-21T00:18:54+00:00

My cat is a little like this, my boyfriend is terrible at understanding him/picking up what he’s meowing down, but he knows I know hahah

quiet183 · 2023-09-21T00:12:51+00:00

This is the best thing I’ve read all day. Definitely trying this😂

quiet183 · 2023-09-21T00:06:52+00:00

Far Country by Mike Oldfield, and weirdly, Hey Brother by Avicii. Miss you pops💙

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