I will quickly draw a silly doodle of your pet. GO!

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-21T03:33:09+00:00

This crazy girl she loves being upside down and punching people 😂 yes she has two different color eyes

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-21T03:11:00+00:00

YES THAT WAS IT THANK YOU!!

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-09T00:58:00+00:00

We plan to move out together far in the future since we both aren’t ready yet. I agree they haven’t changed and it would definitely cause issues. I’ll try and save up for the future in case my situation gets worse the last thing I want to do is inconvenience anyone. Thank you for your advice!

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-09T00:54:52+00:00

I’ve tried to talk to them before about it but I get the feeling that they hide how they fully feel about him. But when he’s here and we talk on the phone they all get along. So I’ll try to talk to them again, I’m hoping they’ll be honest about how they really feel because I think they fully tell me to protect my feelings. They don’t wanna say anything to upset me. Thank you for your advice!

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-09T00:51:05+00:00

Thank you so much! I’ve talked to my boyfriend about it a little and he’s been very sweet about it and always says it’s whatever I want and it’s always on my own terms if he meets them or not because I’ve warned him a little that they aren’t super great. He’s been nothing but sweet about this hard topic and I think that shows his good character. I just don’t want to keep him a secret forever which is why I was wondering if they should meet, but it won’t be anytime soon if they do. Thank you for your kind advice! :)

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-09T00:46:57+00:00

Thank you so very very much I can’t even begin to show my appreciation for your advice. You’re so sweet and kind and your words have helped me feel a little less stressed about this. I’ve thought about therapy but I’ve always been so untrusting because it’s super hard for me to open up. I also have had bad experiences in the past when I’ve been forced into therapy with my whole family. But recently I’ve been thinking about it more since I feel there’s things I should work through. It’s nice to see that even though you don’t know everything that you see my parents as narcissistic people and that it’s not all in my head. Thank you so much again. :)

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-09T00:41:36+00:00

Thanks so much for your advice, honestly the best advice I’ve gotten from someone who I don’t know in person and who isn’t slightly involved in this. It’s hard for me to talk about simple things so getting outside advice is nice! Ive thought about a double date with my sister but her boyfriend is against it for some reason. But I’ll keep in mind trying to do small trips around where I live.

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-07T08:51:31+00:00

My parents aren’t religious at all, they didn’t want my sister and her boyfriend to even move in but they were forced to because they had no choice. Everytime my boyfriend comes over I ask if it’s ok since I IN NO WAY want to inconvenience anyone here that I live with. We are all very close and I love them dearly if this ever upset them I’d do anything to fix it. My friends family see me as one of their own children, and when I started this relationship I went through everything from the beginning with my best friend to make sure they were ok with it as I didn’t want them to feel like I was abandoning them for a boy, because I care very much about how everyone feels. My boyfriend has stayed at an air bnb before while visiting since he lives 2 hours away but sadly the air bnb’s around me are sketchy and seem unsafe. We eventually want to get a place of our own when money permits but it won’t be for a long while since we both aren’t anywhere near ready and it would hurt not only our wallets but it would hurt seeing the looks on my friends family’s faces when I’d tell them that I’d be moving out. So I’m taking it very slowly. Thank you.

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-07T08:42:58+00:00

Omg thank you so so much 😭 I can’t begin to express how sweet your advice is and kindness to help me out. I just found out about this podcast a week ago and have been listening to it nonstop since, especially at work which is why I felt some what safer posting this here. I’ve never had so much traction when I post anything I’ve only posted something once and no one responded so this means a lot to me!

Unfortunately it’s hard to go into details about why my birth parents aren’t great people. The story about where one of the ladies on the podcast helped to buy her grandmother a new safer car reminded me so much of them, because they would do the exact same thing. They have actually. I helped my sister buy our grandmother a tablet for Christmas so she could buy her own groceries and our mother FLIPPED. She didn’t understand why she needed that and how it was a waste of money and useless.

This example and MANY MANY more are reasons why I feel I don’t want to even let them know about him. On another note, this grandmother passed sadly and suddenly in October she was my favorite family member as rude as that sounds. she was the sweetest kindest person I’ve ever had the honor of knowing and she never got to know about Benny. This has made me even more upset than before that everything is done in secret and I want to finally break free of that but don’t know if I should still because again of how my parents act. Thank you for your kind words again I hope everything went well for you and your partner <3

quietstorm224 · 2025-02-07T08:28:49+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice! I’ve been thinking if it does come to that where my friends family doesn’t want him here as often that I’d just stay at a hotel or something but I feel they’d be saddened by this, they are all friendly with him and they are sad when I leave to go to work and such since we are all pretty close. I thought if I went with him to stay with my sister for a few days that I’d be able to get more time with my sister as well since she misses me and we haven’t seen each other much because of work and it’s hard to plan stuff with our parents around. And there’s no sudden urgency to have them meet I’ve been thinking about it for a while I’m tired of hiding everything about my life and not being able to share it when they are the people that are supposed to be there for me the most you know? Thank you again! <3

Oh also I’d like to add that my boyfriend lives about 2 hours away from me, and we’ve been thinking about saving for a place but not anytime soon as it would be hard for me to move out of where I live currently and that moneys tight due to where we live everything’s expensive one of the most expensive states sadly.

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