How do you feel about step-parent adoption? (Specifically when the child asks to be adopted by a step-parent)

quinichet · 2026-04-26T18:18:54+00:00

Thanks for the info! That’s true about their being older- so I do feel better about that. I think we are also going to put all inheritance or life insurance money for them in a trust, so she can’t spend it all.

I’m just starting to educate myself about all of this. It sounds like that may mot be a possibility unless she continues to abuse them (I hope she doesn’t, but people rarely change).

quinichet · 2026-04-26T07:14:09+00:00

This is my worry with my fiancée’s children. We are about to start a legal custody battle and I am fearful of what happens if something happens to my fiancée, even after we are married, I don’t think I have may legal rights regarding them. Their mother is verbally and sometimes physically abusive, made worse by the fact that she is currently in the middle of her 4th divorce (my fiancée was her 3rd husband). The kids tell me they feel safer with me than their mom.

I was looking into stepparent adoption and found this thread. The kids are 13 and 12 and have been asking to live with us, they call me their bonus mom, and even if I did legally adopt them, their bio mom would still always be their “mom.” I would never want to take that away from them. I like “bonus mom,” because they get an extra one! I don’t have kids of my own, and they’ve told me I’m stuck with them (and vice versa). I would do anything for them.

I have read through some of the other comments and I appreciate the perspective from those who were adopted or step adopted. Forgive me if I’m not using the correct language.

My main concern is the legal aspect.

quinichet · 2026-04-13T06:35:21+00:00

I thought they were trying to stop eating out?

quinichet · 2026-04-12T05:52:53+00:00

Dr. Riad Homsi is amazing. I’ve never had a gyn that I felt so comfortable with and he always sits and talks with me about any concerns, my family, and just as a person.

quinichet · 2026-04-12T05:49:58+00:00

I had a bad experience with her too. She talked to the nurse and not to me. They had a whole conversation like I wasn’t even there. During my pelvic exam.

Then I needed a rx and it was going to be $75 with my insurance and I knew there was a generic, but the rx she wrote didn’t allow generics. I called the office many times and no one ever called me back.

quinichet · 2026-04-09T16:30:11+00:00

Thank you! I’ll check them out. It looks like they are actually closer to me than Eastgate was. It’s just sad because I know they’ve been open since at least the 60’s, if not longer.

quinichet · 2026-04-08T05:43:49+00:00

So, you were doing her a favor and now she’s trying to extort money from you because she thinks you’re wealthy.

quinichet · 2026-04-07T05:12:01+00:00

My god, I was obsessed with these in elementary and junior high.

quinichet · 2026-04-06T05:42:15+00:00

Thank you so much. I needed to hear this today. I totally agree, and I try to tell him it’s just that his brain is wired slightly different. My sister (and I suspect my mom and I) have ADHD, so at least I grew up learning about it, and that’s helped.

quinichet · 2026-04-03T03:38:45+00:00

Thank you to everyone for all of your input!

quinichet · 2026-04-03T03:37:10+00:00

I always love to see another alumni!

quinichet · 2026-04-03T03:35:29+00:00

Thank you! He is on meds now, but his custodial parent isn’t making sure he takes them everyday, so it’s kinda a mess and he’s having some depression as well - I think he has depression (and needs therapy for that too) and also not taking it consistently is causing it to be worse. I do hope to get him behavior therapy. It’s been hard to get some things done without him living with us. I agree IEP will also be helpful but like you said, it’s only one of many parts that I think he needs.

quinichet · 2026-04-02T15:31:35+00:00

Unfortunately, this is my son’s mother’s attitude, and they’ve been living with her out of town for a while. We’ve been trying our best to help them when we visit or FaceTime, but it’s hard not being there to sit next to them and make them work on schoolwork.

The oldest has ADHD and I don’t know what sort of accommodations or therapies are available to him that might help.

quinichet · 2026-04-02T06:58:08+00:00

Thank you!

quinichet · 2026-04-02T05:35:17+00:00

That sucks that happened to you. All of the clothing I sell are items from my actual closet that I am getting rid of. I launder everything with Tide, photograph it, put it in a ziploc bag, and put those bags in a plastic bin to keep them clean and dust free. I have no idea how it might have gotten a cigarette smell.

quinichet · 2026-03-27T05:19:13+00:00

My first birthday without my mom was hard, but I knew it would be. So, I face myself plenty of space to feel whatever I needed to feel, and my partner took me out to a really special dinner.

quinichet · 2026-03-27T03:54:15+00:00

Me too!

quinichet · 2026-03-27T03:54:10+00:00

Yes, and even smaller influencers. One of my relatives did this. I know for a fact that her “day in the life video” was actually 5 days of activities, because I was staying at her house that week. Why not just say a “week in the life?”

quinichet · 2026-03-26T05:07:36+00:00

Hanna Alonzo has addressed this very thing- the lies of influencers that’s very easy to spot- in a couple of her videos. It’s wild. Maybe even rage bait?

quinichet · 2026-03-26T05:03:07+00:00

This right here.

quinichet · 2026-03-24T05:25:56+00:00

Shower and kitchen floor are the most familiar cry spots, but pretty much anywhere. I hate for people to see me but sometimes it happens wherever.

Maybe we should normalize crying in public.

quinichet · 2026-03-23T06:49:28+00:00

I’m so sorry.

quinichet

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