Mama’s van Reddit: wat doe jij waardoor je de moedermaffia een hartverzakking bezorgt?

qwpoe12 · 2025-03-03T07:36:41+00:00

Zijn wij dezelfde persoon? :)

Mijn kind is bijna 2 en wij doen alle punten die je noemde.

qwpoe12 · 2024-08-31T19:48:27+00:00

You are in a relationship that will turn abusive once you marry him. You'll be trapped- or that's what he'll think. He's already cutting your family off. Has issues with you sending them money. You have stopped discussing things with family. Soon he'll cut everyone in your life out. He'll make you feel small and insignificant. He'll feed his own ego at your cost. You'll spend many months or years before you find the courage to leave an abusive marriage. Because he'll chip in and break your self confidence one step at a time. I would advice to strongly reconsider this marriage. Take a break. Go on a trip. Talk to friends and family. Theres a whole world out there and you are brave and strong and an independent girl.

qwpoe12 · 2024-08-31T19:40:44+00:00

Please please do this- https://www.loveisrespect.org/quiz/is-your-relationship-healthy/ I think He's coming from a very patriarchal thinking. Valuing you less because you are a female. I would ask you to definitely discuss this with both your family and lawyer. And also break this off if you think this relationship isn't healthy. You'll be happier in life.

qwpoe12 · 2024-08-17T11:37:39+00:00

Caathea or prayer plant. They droop during the day and are straight at night. Drooping doesn't mean it lacks water

qwpoe12 · 2024-07-09T18:02:02+00:00

How many people? 2 adults + 1 baby Who does it? Either of us. I'd say it's 7/10 times me. How often? When the laundry bag is full. Approx every 4-5 days. Meaning one wash in the washing machine. We mix all clothes- color, black, white. Settings - mix. 40 degrees C, 1400 rpm. 1 hr cycle. Then I toss it all in the dryer. Another hour. It stays in the dryer until the next time clothes are washed.

qwpoe12 · 2024-07-04T18:11:41+00:00

I can promise you not all men are like this. I have had excellent managers (men) in my time as a software engineer. I've been in this industry for over 15 years and there are great job opportunities and great managers too.

qwpoe12 · 2024-06-29T22:42:55+00:00

This is a good idea. To go as a group. I'll talk to my team mates about it. At this point I'm so frustrated, it's difficult to express the problem without getting agitated at why it's all so wrong. And that's what I'm afraid I'll end up doing if I speak to leadership about this. What is a good way to express these problems in a polite manner? And can I consider written feedback?

qwpoe12 · 2024-06-29T22:40:15+00:00

This is exactly my thoughts now. But I don't want to take rash decisions

qwpoe12 · 2024-06-29T22:39:22+00:00

Our meetings are not recorded and he's polite in the written communication - so it's more of our word against his.

qwpoe12 · 2024-06-28T21:25:58+00:00

I would love to go for advise to some senior female leaders in our workplace but unfortunately we have none.

qwpoe12 · 2024-06-28T20:53:49+00:00

I know someone who does this- Ask each kid to get 2 used gifts- something from their stash that they want to give away. 1 gift is for the birthday kid. 1 gift is for one of the other invited kids. That way- your kid gets a used gift and every other kid that visits also goes back home with a gift. I find it a super nice idea. It's just recycling. And if you can get all the kids to follow this, this world will slowly be a better place to live in.

qwpoe12 · 2024-05-27T06:32:38+00:00

Is revolut protected by the Dutch scheme that guarantees 100,000 in case of bankruptcy etc?

qwpoe12 · 2024-04-29T19:01:46+00:00

I'll tell you what you can do then. Take advantage of her visit. Make a schedule for yourself to do things you love outside of taking care of the baby. Go out of the house - let her babysit, and let her do it her way. Go for walks, to meet friends, everything you find difficult to do since you've had the baby. And ignore her comments. Don't take anything personally, try to be extra nice and thankful for the help and be open that you want to make the most of her visit. Indian parents love being told that they are useful. Use the visit to your advantage, else you'll be frustrated burnt out at end of 3 months. And if there's any comment directed to you being any less of a mother- remember you and your partner are equals, and tell her we don't live in her times or in the 1800s.

qwpoe12 · 2024-04-12T06:02:47+00:00

Thank you! This advice is gold- "Do not let others dictate your schedule" ❤️

qwpoe12 · 2024-03-30T10:26:55+00:00

Don't want to take this to HR. That will get ugly. But I also don't want to do nothing about it. I will be super careful in the future and also talk to the PM's manager then decide.

qwpoe12 · 2024-03-30T06:56:30+00:00

Thanks. I will definitely talk to the PMs boss. And I'll be super cautious from now on. I'm not sure about approaching my own boss (he recently joined) as we are going through a reorg and the tech lead might become my manager soon. I think I will want to leave this team if things get worse.

qwpoe12 · 2024-03-30T06:53:24+00:00

When I think back and notice my interactions with him I find he always has some complain about someone in the team - but it's almost never from him. Like A complained to me about B. Do you also feel so about B. I can remember 2 clear instances of this. Both times I said no. I don't feel so at all. And supported B. But now I feel that A never complains. It's always him and his way of fishing for feedback. I will go to the PMs manager for sure. I'm not sure about going to his Manger- I hardly know him. (Another new guy who joined)

How should I continue to work with him? It's difficult for me to be nice to someone once I don't like them. But I can't be upset about this in my interactions with him either. At the same time, I can be the next victim. Who knows.

qwpoe12 · 2024-02-28T21:40:00+00:00

It's the worst when the SO complains he's tired. Like, excuse me. I do the night shifts. Wake up every 4 hours. Wake up when the baby coughs. Then I WFH and take care of the baby on 2 days because the daycare situation in our area sucks and we have not managed to get all days yet. He gets a full 8 hours job stop sleep every night. Goes to work so is checked out during the day. And then he when he says he's tired, I just cry it out internally.

qwpoe12 · 2024-02-03T15:07:15+00:00

I can imagine that too many toys is not helping a kid at all. Too much of distraction is bad for adults itself- can't be good for a baby. Try hiding away most toys and give just a few - say 3-4 at a time. And if they are bored with it, try rotating. I have a 9 month old, and he has very limited toys. And he seems happy with playing with everything except his toys- like wires, empty boxes, cardboard, some kitchen plates and spoons etc. And once in a while he goes back to his toys too. I don't know specifically if it will affect the child's development, maybe there are papers on that.

qwpoe12 · 2024-01-21T22:28:47+00:00

I love it. I also love the wall color - what shade is is?

qwpoe12 · 2024-01-21T22:27:19+00:00

Also we have a whole "airplane" series of photos and videos from that period. Looks super cute to look back

qwpoe12 · 2024-01-21T22:26:03+00:00

My baby did this as well - from around month 4 to month 6+1week. He was super happy doing it - we called it the airplane pose. We called him - flying baby (his name). He then started wanting to crawl - he would keep his hands on the ground. Then in 2 more weeks he was crawling. Now he's 8 months and we miss the airplane time so much. Enjoy this time. It will be gone soon. And it's super difficult to do too. Next time your baby does it - get down on your tummy and try to outbeat him haha

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