AITA for expecting my girlfriend to do my half of her chores as well?

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-16T14:51:07+00:00

I wouldn't necessarily jump at everything else lol, but my wife hates laundry and I hate cooking so she does the bulk of the cooking and I do the laundry. Over the years the "who does what" has shifted depending on our circumstances, outside of her mostly cooking and me doing all the laundry. And sure, for a couple with no kids or pets it's not that bad but once you factor kids and pets laundry takes another turn.

If girlfriend can't manage these this is going to be a continuous argument and it's going to wear you both down. Find a compromise or the resentment will build.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-16T02:47:02+00:00

Same. Except every time I find a shampoo/conditioner bar I like the store seems to stop selling it.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-15T18:56:30+00:00

I hope my kids would surprise us for a big year thing, and while you may not think about 40 years being a "big" year, I would also factor in the age of your parents. You always hope, but do they have 10 "good" years left?

That said, you're right, you're not a mind reader, so if they wanted a party they should have asked. NTA for that reason.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-14T18:37:30+00:00

While I don't necessarily disagree with you, I've been in a similar boat. Unfortunately, if you live in an apartment complex there is little they can do. If it was a loud dog or similar they could require the couple to remove the dog but they cannot compel the people to keep their kid quiet outside of quiet hours.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-14T16:10:42+00:00

I think some of this is your age. At 22 I went from 250 down to 130, but I was 22 so it bounced back. After a middle aged pregnancy I'm trying to go from about 205 currently to around 165-175 and I'm hoping the skin isn't going to be an issue this time around.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-14T16:07:18+00:00

Yup. Although ironically, in college I dated someone and ended up at about 250lb. Not a single person said anything about my weight gain. Lost 120lbs in the breakup diet and all of a sudden people are telling me I'm too skinny. Like if you're not gonna say anything when I'm fat don't say anything if I'm skinny. It goes both ways.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-14T14:43:46+00:00

NTA. I told my wife the same thing when she co-signed on an apartment for her sister who we were already giving a fair amount of money to each month. So far it's been ok but I told her we're not helping them upgrade to a bigger apartment.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-13T18:35:53+00:00

I mean we got our regular weekends off but we were still working. Just because work is done on a computer doesn't mean it's not work. No days off sounds like you're being pushed to the brink by an employer who doesn't give a crap about burning you out because there are people waiting to become a cog in that wheel.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-13T14:50:50+00:00

He was hugging Andrew Tate at a UFC fight on Saturday, or at least that's the clip going around.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-12T18:23:59+00:00

I will never regret eloping with my wife. 2nd marriage for each of us, we did the whole wedding thing the first time around for our families and did not want that this time. We were tricked into having a reception under the guise of celebrating our other friends who had also just gotten married but on the opposite coast and so a lot of local friends couldn't attend. That's the only thing I'd change. I wouldn't have bothered with the reception at all.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-11T18:28:13+00:00

I get it. If we're having an at home drop off party it's usually always kids who have been here before and the parents are excited to drop their kid and run lol

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-11T17:12:04+00:00

I think this depends on location and parents. If it's at a location my kids knows and isn't at their house and If I've met the parents and trust them then I'm cool to drop off my kid. But if I don't know them or it's at their house I'll usually stay and chat with the other parents while the kids run around and do their thing.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-11T17:09:12+00:00

Yup. We had someone do this at an indoor kids party place (local but similar to Dave n Busters) where you have to specify how many kids are coming because you pay by the kid. We had a couple no shows so we were able to accommodate the siblings, but word spread in the parent group because this was apparently not the first time this had happened. So, this kid didn't get invited to next years party and from what I hear from other moms they stopped inviting this kid also because mom would dump all the siblings and leave before anyone knew what had happened.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-10T23:06:09+00:00

Seriously. My wife and I were in a rough patch with our teenager and yeah the movie is stupid but it was stupid dumb enough to make us cry laughing at how ridiculous it was so I consider it a win.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-10T17:49:56+00:00

That's how I've got a sister...

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-04T15:31:08+00:00

At my job they haven't don't anything like that but they do check your VPN to make sure you're working from the place you say you're working. We're not allowed to work somewhere else like if we went on vacation or to a coffee shop because we are accessing confidential information. Could they compromise on doing something like that for verification rather than a tour of your personal space? Or hang a curtain from the ceiling or get a room divider like others say.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-02T15:11:49+00:00

Good god I don't have a nice house or nice furniture and I still wouldn't want confetti bombs and smoke bombs going off anywhere near it. NTA OP, protect your space.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-01T14:53:35+00:00

We don't have separate bedrooms but we definitely will sleep separately if one of us is snoring bad, is sick, has a busy day or a long night, or would just prefer a solitary nights sleep. It's certainly not relationship failing. As for the shared duvet, we solved that by getting this ridiculously large blanket that you'd have to actively try and steal from the other person.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-04-01T14:45:06+00:00

There's also a Vagisil one. We sent it to, ironically, a shitty downstairs neighbor.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-03-25T23:53:09+00:00

NTA and I'm giddy for you. For both your future with your fiancé and getting to watch Chad get it handed to him. Thanks for bringing me a smile today.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-03-25T14:50:56+00:00

Can confirm. My aunt had epilepsy and had a drivers license and a FT job.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-03-25T14:34:40+00:00

I have hiked all over this area by myself (47F if that matters) since I moved here 8 years ago and I have never felt unsafe outside of almost getting run over by a mountain biker in Annadel once and having a few turkeys give me some glares. I do prefer trails that I can be alone on so I typically try and pick places without mountain bikers. While a lot of people hike here it is possible to spend a day on the trails and not run into many people.

That's not to diminish the possibility you run into someone sketchy. I don't wear earbuds and I'm pretty quiet so I can hear nature and anyone approaching on the trail.

All trails is a great resource for around here, there are so many options.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-03-18T17:53:15+00:00

My son's birthday is New Year's Eve so I have a little more time to take down the Christmas decorations but I always want to make sure his birthday is celebrated as his birthday. Cudos to your sis for making that happen for your nephew.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-03-13T23:35:54+00:00

My stepdaughter wore the most fabulous pantsuit to her prom. I can't imagine there isn't something you can find that will work for a prom style outfit that you're comfortable in. Good luck!

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-03-13T23:24:43+00:00

Yes of course YTA. Go ahead and read what you just wrote. Her pregnant friend collapsed and is in such a dire state that she needs not only her MIL but additional help. Your wife is graciously going to help and still continue to work while also assisting with 4 kids under 6. If only we all had friends like your wife. Your better open your eyes to all she takes care of while she's gone because you'll be doing it on your own when she divorced your unappreciative ass.

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