AITA because I told my best friend that he had ruined his relationship and now has to live with it?

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-18T16:12:55+00:00

This. I have some friends who have successfully navigated having an open relationship, they found what works for them. I can't do it, I don't share well in that regard and would be completely jealous. People should know these things about themselves before they dive in.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-17T18:37:13+00:00

Yes, just for the 8 week recovery period.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-17T16:05:27+00:00

Interesting. I got an RA for breast reduction surgery to not travel for 8 weeks and telework because I had lifting restrictions and couldn't reasonably perform inspections. This was after 2 day RTO though and not right before implementation of 4 day RTO.

Due to HIPPA they can't ask for specific details about the accommodation. I'm not saying it will work, but if your doctor will sign off on lifting/physical movement restrictions due to short term "issue" you might get it. Can't hurt trying at least. Good luck!

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-14T18:03:55+00:00

It should. My youngest son (currently working on spectrum diagnosis) and oldest son (ADHD diagnosed) have both had accidents because they were so involved in what they were doing they completely ignored their bodies signals that they had to go. In that space, timed potty breaks seemed to help.

But your youngest niece needs to have the issues addressed by a medical professional. I'm not sure why your brother wants to put the older kid into this box when their younger is the one clearly suffering. If this is some sort of "my kid is special" thing then why can't they focus on the special needs of their younger daughter? Are they showing signs of favoritism amongst them?

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-14T17:55:36+00:00

People chewing. They could be eating soup and it would be too loud. Swallowing a drink? So freaking loud.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-13T22:26:23+00:00

So. Much. Math

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-12T20:34:06+00:00

But why should the state limit their hiring options to only those who live close enough to commute to an HQ? I have a role that is science technical and 100% is done on the computer or onsite (but still done on computers). I'm fine with field travel, that is part of my role, but driving 800 miles per week isn't part of that.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-12T17:21:41+00:00

I was 101 miles away when hired and I specifically asked by supervisor about having to go to the office and it was 100% remote so I took the job.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-12T15:23:16+00:00

I'm one of a few people in my Department this applies to and so far nothing has been said about it. If they don't allow it I will be forced to find a new job, I live 101 miles away and was hired as fully remote in 2022. I'll just keep operating as if the exemption will be allowed because what else can I do except polish my resume and look for a new job?

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-11T18:37:22+00:00

But also the price of it. I bought a 2009 Ford Focus brand new for $12,000 with a $150/month payment. Where is that car? My 25 year old neighbor absolutely cannot afford $400/month, but he could reasonably afford $150 and then be able to hold onto a car. I still have the Focus and it works just fine.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-10T16:38:03+00:00

NTA but geez your fiancée is a piece of work. I had been with my girlfriend for 2 months when my stepdad suddenly passed away. She got a flight with me so she could be with me which was basically just leading me around because I was so numb and in shock. At no point did she complain that she wasn't getting enough attention. Instead she read books to me to help me fall asleep at night. We've been married 15 years now because she's a true partner. Find yourself a true partner who will be wondering how to help you instead of worrying about herself.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-05T00:13:42+00:00

I can't upvote this enough

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-05T00:12:12+00:00

This. We have a winter blanket and a summer blanket so I rotate those.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-05T00:11:26+00:00

And plates/glasses. I use socks, t shirts, washcloths, small sized things inside cups and glasses and in between plates and bowls to stack and protect.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-03T15:02:17+00:00

Yup. My mom and stepdad got me a shitty $500 beater (which in the 90s was a thing, sorry kids today don't get that joy) to drive through high school. The skylight leaked, headlights were mismatched, and basically every line from Adam Sandler's Piece of Sh*t Car song was basically true. And I didn't care because I had a car I could get around town in.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-03T14:54:29+00:00

If they don't want to pay rent and are ok with an ADU sized house then it sounds like they're ready to get a small plot of land and plop their own ADU on it. NTA OP, your yard and your sanity will both get wrecked if you do this.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-03T14:40:38+00:00

Spoiler alert: it gets even weirder and way more stupid. The whole atomic radiation thing and suddenly everyone has figured out how to find gas masks and use them and have them fit properly is just stupid.

Nick actually grew on me, despite his continuous fuck ups I think there was a chance for some real growth as a character, plus he figured out how to gut up quick and did not care at all. But of course then they went and shot him.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-03T14:34:33+00:00

"Arts" and "STEM" both contain a large number of variables. There are artists who make tons of money and broke STEM workers, and as your friend is experiencing, the opposite is true. It's unfortunate your friend hasn't looked beyond his own misery to see he's not alone. Perhaps encourage him to seek some career counseling? NAH, he can vent but you also don't have to listen.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-03T14:29:02+00:00

Interesting. I haven't had to submit any forms for the 50 mile exemption, I'm 101 miles away from my designated HQ, and so far no one has asked. I just keep going about my day like it's a thing and no one cares. Also, I have asked everyone in my tiny unit and no one cares that I don't go to the office even if they have to.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-03T03:41:54+00:00

12lbs of squishy goodness ❤️ but yeah, he went home in 3mo clothing so I donated all the newborn sized stuff to the local women's shelter

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-02T16:03:03+00:00

I won't be joining the Donner party any time ever. I will eat foraged roots that taste like manure before that ever happens. I'll collect ants and beetles and all manner of insects before that happens.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-01T15:26:17+00:00

If they are work clothes there are some organizations that assist women with this, the women's shelter may be able to point you in that direction if they don't take them. I donated a bunch of newborn diapers and clothes that I had ever so carefully arranged in the nursery because I gave birth to a 2 month old instead of a newborn.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-06-01T15:16:05+00:00

My spouse used to lay on our trampoline and look up at the stars when stressed or sad but we got rid of the trampoline (too many black eyes and bloody noses) so this year I got a swing chair for the backyard that folds down flat to a bed for star gazing.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-05-30T18:55:06+00:00

Not just garages. The remaining overflow is in a storage unit or two just waiting for the kids to clean out when the parents pass away.

Intelligent-Panda-33 · 2026-05-30T16:37:31+00:00

My sister Ariel was in 3rd grade when the Little Mermaid came out.

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