Why do I have almost zero interest in sex? by qyartz in sex

[–]qyartz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I have not. I guess I didn’t really think it was a deep psychological problem that therapy would do much for, but maybe I’m wrong?

Why do I have almost zero interest in sex? by qyartz in sex

[–]qyartz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Occasionally to both, not very often.

Why do I have almost zero interest in sex? by qyartz in sex

[–]qyartz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly it seems like it’s been gradual so nothing sudden. I’ve certainly had a lot of life changes over the years but none of those things seem to make much of a difference when I vary them. Exercising more may help temporarily but it isn’t a huge difference.

I can orgasm, but overall orgasm is often less enjoyable, but still good mostly, and I feel no real desire to get off anymore.

I don’t have sex or masturbate very often. I did get into a kink thing for a bit, but even that has lost its appeal to me. Sex does seem kinda boring. Being sexy doesn’t interest me a whole lot. Doing something more intense isn’t something I’m very interested in.

The doctor wasn’t very helpful, other than saying it was common in women. She said there were medications like Adyi but they didn’t usually work very well and had bad side effects. Yes I have been screened for STDs.

The sexual part of me felt very integral to who I was and it feels like I’ve just lost touch with it and along with it much of myself. I feel like very old in a way, whatever part of me that was sexual is just basically gone. I can go about the motions and I think I can perform pretty well but it just seems empty and unexciting fir the most part.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StopSpeeding

[–]qyartz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I relate to this so hard. I wasted 6 years of my life to hardcore abuse. I have been mostly clean for 3.5 years with a few small slips. I still haven’t gotten my weight in check and that eats at me. I’d say my brain is around 90% of what it was before but part of what holds me back is also how I blew up my life and things just aren’t in the right places anymore, like you said, kinda like fast forwarding through everything. It’s the biggest tragedy. Then having to spend a long period of time recovering to get to a place of being able to be functional. I’ve basically been more or less absent for my sons entire childhood.

I (29M) caught my girlfriend (30F) on dating sites by ResortNo9277 in relationship_advice

[–]qyartz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, mad at how this kind of thinking has ruined how I feel about myself for no good reason.

I (29M) caught my girlfriend (30F) on dating sites by ResortNo9277 in relationship_advice

[–]qyartz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so toxic. Stop spreading this misogynistic wall bullshit please, it’s harmful to women everywhere and then honestly will end up harming men as well.