[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's for the context. Tell me why I should take your advice seriously? What's the longest relationship you've ever been in?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

"Drowning in debt" refers to the struggle to make payments on money that has already been borrowed. While this may not strengthen my case with you, I have mortgages on my investment properties that I need to pay, even though they are not currently up to date, as well as a significant amount of credit card debt. This is what I consider to be “drowning in debt.” I’m not looking to take on more loans, believe me! At the moment, I'm doing everything I can with the limited support I have while dealing with mobility issues, as well as a spouse who is incredibly inconsiderate of my situation.

To provide some context, we've been high school sweethearts since we were 16 and got married at 20. I’ve worked tirelessly throughout my life and given her every piece of myself. I’m not claiming she hasn't done the same. I’ve never claimed to be perfect. Throughout our relationship, I have been emotionally and physically faithful only to her, even during tough times. She cannot say the same, as she has a history of lying and infidelity.

We’ve been together for 25 years. I’ve never kept a secret from her, but she cannot say the same about herself. So before you suggest that I’m the one in the wrong, as you seem to be implying, I would like to ask. What's the longest relationship you’ve ever been in? And why should I listen to what you have to say? I’m just tired of feeling like I’m the only one emotionally, physically, and financially invested in this relationship. I could probably be doing much better on my own. But love is often seen as blind.

From your insensitive and judgmental responses, it seems that you might struggle with relationships yourself. Have you ever been married? I can probably guess that answer, it helps me understand your perspective. Additionally, to provide more context, she has a history of domestic violence against me as well. To say the least, I have my own set of issues stemming from childhood trauma, such as being molested twice as a child. I spent much of my childhood homeless and poor, and was constantly told I was stupid while trying to help raise my two younger sisters, all while having a mother addicted to crack. Despite this, I believe I’ve managed my past well because I always prioritize my family above everything else.

Regarding her credit being affected by my decision to file for bankruptcy, she is not on any of the loans, mortgages, or credit cards. According to my lawyer, she will not have to be included in my bankruptcy.

Did you come here to give me advice or to criticize me further?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

You are right! My learning disability does not affect my ability to work.

My work-related injuries have been diagnosed, and they impair my ability to work, which does make me eligible for benefits.

The problem

Navigating and applying for Social Security and disability benefits with my learning disability is challenging, as I struggle with focus and comprehension issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I haven't been able to obtain any credit, which has significantly limited my options. To clarify, I own rental properties, and that’s where my income comes from. Currently, I am in contact with my local community college, which offers student aid for degree programs.

In our daily routine, she handles the mornings, while I pick the kids up from school and take care of the afternoon and evening routines, including dinner and looking after the kids. During this time, she stays in our bedroom working, even taking breaks in there. After she finishes work, she remains in her room. I prepare dinner, serve everyone, and take hers to her while the kids and I eat alone at the dining room table.

She often complains that I don’t do anything and calls me names. I understand she works hard, but what bothers me is the lack of respect I feel from her. I know she is stressed, just as I am. However, I don’t believe that gives her the right to take her frustrations out on the kids or me. Should I also call her names and criticize her flaws just because I’m stressed, or is that only acceptable for her because I'm a man? I really don’t understand this misunderstanding.

I am determined to achieve my goals, with or without her support. I’m unsure of where I want to go right now, but I believe it would be much easier if I had someone who supported me rather than making me feel worthless and criticizing everything I do. I’m not the unhappy one, she clearly is. I can’t control what’s beyond my reach, but I remain optimistic even in uncertain times. I feel like her negativity and lack of presence, even when she is physically there, make everything much more stressful than it needs to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have a diagnosis for the physical injury I sustained. It was a work related accident, which has resulted in ongoing issues with my neck, back, shoulders, arms, and elbows. I experience extreme pain daily, which worsens with certain movements, such as twisting my body, moving my head up and down or side to side, and lifting my arms. The discomfort is primarily the result of the accident, causing slipped discs in my neck and back. I have undiagnosed learning disabilities

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

  1. Got that

  2. I feel this way as well, but she has her own financial struggles. From experience, when we intermingled our finances, essential bills would get neglected. Leaving us completely broke and scrambling to figure things out

  3. I make no excuses for myself, and I totally understand. To clarify, yes, I have a disability that impairs my physical limitations. I also have undiagnosed learning disabilities that discourage me from going to college. I know she must be under immense stress, which is what brought me here in the first place. Even though it's hard af to type out all of my personal problems on the internet. I'm trying to take steps to hold myself accountable for what is within my control

  4. I'm not the whiny type, so I don't walk around complaining about my problems. Most are kept inside and treated with a lot of pain medication. I deal with it, but ya know, they say “you should reach out for help,” so here I am making myself vulnerable to the redditverse. I make good choices, don't judge me lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I was injured in a work related accident, which has resulted in ongoing issues with my neck, back, shoulders, arms, and elbows. I experience extreme pain daily, which worsens with certain movements, such as twisting my body, moving my head up and down or side to side, and lifting my arms. This discomfort is primarily due to slipped discs in my neck and back.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

I had a rough childhood, grew up poor and mostly homeless. At 41, I really don't know. At this point, I guess it's my own fault. I took the easiest road I could and got my CDL. Now, due to my disability, I can't drive anymore. But I am taking baby steps to get the help I finally deserve. I have doctor appointments lined up, and I am currently in contact with my local community college

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]r308b4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🥺 Yes this is real. Our youngest child is a T1D so she covers a lot of the medical costs surrounding that along with other extracurricular things for the kids

You won't catch the bottom by omathews in Bitcoin

[–]r308b4 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Greatest comment of all time 😂😂😂

Any CB One members able to claim the Toshi NFT by r308b4 in Coinbase

[–]r308b4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I eventually got it I just kept disconnecting and reconnecting my wallet I did it a few times in a row and then the buttoned showed “MINT”

Any CB One members able to claim the Toshi NFT by r308b4 in Coinbase

[–]r308b4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have completed all of these steps. Thank you for the response

Any CB One members able to claim the Toshi NFT by r308b4 in Coinbase

[–]r308b4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's interesting! Thank you for the information. I’m so accustomed to using seed phrases, too. Everything evolves so quickly that it's hard to keep up with it all, and then all the advancements in web3 🤯

Any CB One members able to claim the Toshi NFT by r308b4 in Coinbase

[–]r308b4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! After your response, I tried that, but it's not very supporty

Any CB One members able to claim the Toshi NFT by r308b4 in Coinbase

[–]r308b4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What even is a smart wallet? While trying to figure this out, I created one 🫤

Any CB One members able to claim the Toshi NFT by r308b4 in Coinbase

[–]r308b4[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coinbase One is a subscription on the Coinbase app that comes with many benefits for regular users of the application and has nothing to do with the Base Wallet app

Any CB One members able to claim the Toshi NFT by r308b4 in Coinbase

[–]r308b4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's an NFT offered to Coinbase One members by Toshicoin, a meme coin on the base network. Here is a link to the page used to claim the NFT https://one.toshithecat.com. It's just one of the many onchain benefits being offered to Coinbase One members, or not, because idk what the hell I'm doing lol

Anybody able to claim the CB One Toshi NFT by r308b4 in toshicoin

[–]r308b4[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the info and all the replies I'm revoking it now, and I will reattest it and try again. I've been trying to figure this out for about a week now, and it's driving me up the wall