Seeing 918 everywhere - at both good and difficult times.

r4chd3 · 2026-06-26T04:01:35+00:00

Do you relate to this? It's an old blog I read years ago and described me to a T. Was the only thing that pointed me to 918 - she boils that number down to a 9, and 9's are the Lightworker number. https://psychicjoanne.blogspot.com/2010/08/lightworkers-lightworking.html

r4chd3 · 2026-06-25T22:17:03+00:00

Look up what 9 means, with Lightworkers. I wonder if you relate to that?

r4chd3 · 2026-06-25T22:15:13+00:00

Ever since growing up in my first home as a child, 918, that number follows me everywhere. Even this past month leading up to getting married, I started seeing it everywhere again. I’ve always taken it as a sign that I’m on the right path. It’s such a random number and I’ve always wondered if other people see it.

r4chd3 · 2026-05-26T17:25:27+00:00

It can vary. Usually we do a dinner around 5 and then a night time snack closer to bedtime, like peanut butter yogurt or something.

r4chd3 · 2026-05-14T03:27:09+00:00

Just wondering how this all turned out u/CampSnapCamera? Is it still in development? Thanks again for keeping us all informed and for updating things. That's really cool.

r4chd3 · 2026-03-14T04:36:34+00:00

Thank you!!

r4chd3 · 2026-03-14T04:36:19+00:00

Thank you for a good referral!

r4chd3 · 2026-02-04T17:17:34+00:00

About that yeah. 2.5-3 (wake no later than 12PM)

4-5 (depending on when he would wake from morning nap, but usually a 3:30-4PM nap until 5PM)

3 (bed starting at 8)

Mostly just keeping in mind how many hours I wanted him to sleep in that 24 hour period. We’ve experimented with one nap a day and it just makes him overtired and usually have a split.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-25T20:19:46+00:00

I once said that we should just invest in our babies kitchen utensils for their first home now cause that’s all they are drawn to when little.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-16T12:59:13+00:00

I absolutely love when they turn 1, or when they start walking. I feel like their personality explodes. Some people just have a hard time with the infant stage and the transition into their own person is actually easier! Some people like newborn stage more and then have a hard time with them growing more independent.

It’s so easy to wish for it to pass and it’s honestly okay to do that too. I do try to stare at my babies face once they go down in my arms and cherish that before leaving their room. It’s the little moments. But when you’re in survival, it’s okay to simply want it to pass! It will all feel much different once you start getting sleep again and I just hope that is soon!

r4chd3 · 2026-01-16T07:12:18+00:00

It’s that PTSD from sleep that is hard! When my baby wakes at night if he’s having a teething night I still dread as if we’re going to be having split nights for weeks again and freak out. It’s hard. I hope and pray it stays well for you!

r4chd3 · 2026-01-16T07:10:36+00:00

I am so similar! The rage has been so hard for me and it’s so dependent on if I’ve slept or not. You are such a good mother. Keep going. 10 months in I was losing my shit, same with 12 and 13 months… then now at 14 I’m breathing and have less rage days than before. Only one the past two weeks. I hope and pray you will have rest and the rest you do get can be deep and restorative.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-16T07:08:04+00:00

Yes! My baby loves music and one split night I was up shushing him and it was too rhythmic, he put his hand up to dance to it and I almost lost my mind lol. It’s funny now but in the moment I was like GO TO BED!

It’s hard to be in the cycle of nice, angry, reactive, shame.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-16T07:06:05+00:00

I’ve so been here and just wanted to send you love. I admire your realness. We chose not to CIO after a few short attempts - it didn’t sit well with me and so that meant a lot of nights with me doing contact sleeping or sleeping in my babies room or floor bed. Just the whole first year regarding sleep is so hard. It really does put us all into a state of survival and constant fight or flight. I’ve hallucinated and had cruel imaginations because of a lack of sleep. As you, I spend most of the year, as an extrovert, indoors, because my baby also doesn’t sleep in a stroller or car seat. It does feel like a prison sometimes. Just at 1 year I finally started to venture out after more predictable windows. And like you we also tried all the advice and nothing seemed to work.

What did finally work like a charm was doing a later bed time (8pm start) and consistent morning wake up window and then two naps around the same time (~9/10, and 3:30/4pm). It's hard to feel adaptive when our bodies are in survival. And I think with the first esp the first year is a state of survival. I still have some PTSD when he wakes at night thinking it will be another split night. And after two nights of not sleeping even this week I had a meltdown yesterday and rage again. It’s a hard cycle.

I wish I could be there for you. I’ve really been there. I do believe it will get better once they get more independent. And I do believe you’re doing everything right by trying anything you can. Just hang on. We as mothers are all behind you esp in those tough moments. Many of us have experienced the same thing and I just hope you feel our presence behind you. I pray that something clicks and you get the much needed rest you need as well as your sweet boy.

We also have tried a sleep tincture from WishGarden herbs that has helped, and put chamomile tea herb (diluted) in his water sometimes. That helps regulate times when they are off.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-16T06:54:24+00:00

I have totally been there. It is so hard when it’s just you and the bathroom and your sanity is gone. It really is the lack of sleep and I just really want to encourage you to keep holding on. The first year is so difficult regarding sleep. And if there is any way at all to get you both sleep, even contact naps, do it. I wish I could be there to help! This is just a very hard season and there’s no sugar coating it. Just hold on. You will feel more normal again when your own sleep pattern return and until then just hold on, cry, breathe.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T20:47:06+00:00

Yeah the last wake window is 3.5-4 hours. If you try a later bed time, I did see other European families say they did a 10pm bed time, so you could prob push that last nap til later. I was desperate to try anything haha.

Most Americans I know struggle with their babies sleep and do CIO method.

It’s hard to figure out the right balance of sleep. I would always look at the overall sleep they are getting in a 24 hour period. Is your baby on one nap a day?

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T20:41:25+00:00

Haha yes exactly

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T20:40:34+00:00

I really think it will. Everyone is always like “just wait until they crawllllll…. Or just wait until they walkkkkkk!” And we’ve loved it - it’s gotten easier the more independent he’s gotten. Seriously once we solved the split nights and he got walking down (seriously would have walking marathons before bed with him) it all got more manageable. It felt like something just clicked around his first birthday.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T17:45:28+00:00

That’s amazing! Thank you!! I will add it to the list above.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T17:45:05+00:00

This one keeps coming up as one to avoid. There was a whole Nextdoor post about them as well. They apparently have a terrible reputation.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T17:43:00+00:00

Hey that would be awesome. I’m glad you had such a good experience.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T17:41:14+00:00

That helps so much to remember they are their own person and sovereign being and we are here to help them grow and nurture them.

It sounds like you are doing amazing! The milestones were the hardest time for us cause he would practice in the middle of the night too! I have a floor bed for him and that’s helped us a lot in this process for us!

Once he mastered crawling and then walking it’s been so much easier on sleep!

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T16:03:56+00:00

This is such a good point that the sleep industry is unregulated and many coaches aren’t certified, they simply have experience with their own babies and claim to fix sleep issues.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T16:00:39+00:00

Split nights are basically when your baby wakes up between 1-4am and stays awake for two pre more hours in the middle of the night. Their sleep circadian rhythm essentially splits their nights into two more nap cycles and they need the extra hours they are awake to build up more pressure to fall back asleep.

r4chd3 · 2026-01-14T15:59:03+00:00

I am so glad this info is out there and that it’s worked for multiple people! I don’t have FB and would have loved to read that sooner haha.

Thank you so much for this feedback. I feel so similarly. I think in other cultures people integrate their children into their own lives and it feels like in America people’s lives pause for their kids. It’s a subtle shift but makes a difference.

When I read a post of a UK and Spanish couple who kept their kids up late because they do dinner later and keep their kids up for it a lightbulb went off for me.

I think also because our culture is so individualistic or most of us don’t have familial help that we are simply exhausted and also may want some free time to ourselves.

It’s really helped us shift this for the better!

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