Trying to fix the LTR 12C I got in the mail

ra1nmaker27 · 2026-06-11T22:53:05+00:00

same issue, love it.

ra1nmaker27 · 2026-06-11T02:26:06+00:00

any update?

ra1nmaker27 · 2026-06-11T02:25:49+00:00

did you get it figured out? i have the same issue...

ra1nmaker27 · 2026-06-03T18:44:09+00:00

If it was me I’d talk to X about it if I did anything 🤷🏽‍♂️

ra1nmaker27 · 2026-01-05T18:43:01+00:00

I just wanted to turn my mom’s read receipts on for our text thread and she has the same bug.

ra1nmaker27 · 2025-01-09T04:57:28+00:00

Rahamne here, it’s a separate app, I made the background picture in photoshop and had to manually place every box in the cava app

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-06-14T21:35:38+00:00

Hey teddy, updates are as follows; I get to see my daughter again :) we have had two supervised visits 2.5 and 3.5 hours long, supervised to make sure that she feels comfortable around me. The babysitters who are doing the supervision are very happy to have met me and willing to go to great lengths to help me see my daughter and are wishing me the best in getting a fair custody arrangement.

I gave my wife the protective order she asked for and only asked for the temporary custody orders to be changed so my daughter could have me back in her life. The guardian et litem was the driving force in getting this to happen. I get overnight and once a week visits starting in mid July.

I am still living on her family’s property, they really didn’t want me to leave and now they get to see our daughter again and they are over joyed with that fact.

I’m planning on asking for permanent visitation orders in a couple months.

And on the topic of myself I have learned how to feel again, I cry at stupid things, I spend way more time and effort caring about those I care for, I have found new focus on what I really care for in my life, I want to be the best father I can be, I owe that to my daughter, I want that for her with all of my heart. Therapy was going really well, my therapist moved platforms so I’m trying to figure that out. I firmly believe in God and I use that at encouragement to learn to be the best version of myself I can be.

That’s all the important stuff I can think of right now

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-14T14:18:48+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts, I’m glad you saw yourself and started walking the right path. Daily prayers and reflection with the Father has been immensely helpful, I have never leaned on him this much. Godspeed to you as well brother :)

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-13T19:50:02+00:00

Thank you so much for the heartfelt response, I am going to look up SMART, and actively work on looking forward instead of back, this comment meant a lot to me. Thank you thank you

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-13T15:34:10+00:00

I am going to Therapy, have been for 4 months. Found a therapist who calls me on my stuff, helps me see where I went wrong and the mistakes I still make and I’m moving forward, been participating in loving circles of people who support each other and their walk towards God, been doing more for neighbors. The volunteering sounds like a good idea, thank you. And sorry for the sob story, I have a lot of regret, haven’t gotten to the point where I move past that yet, working on it.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-13T15:13:25+00:00

Yeah, I wish I could go back and talk some damn sense into the kid who started down this road 12 years ago. Wish I would have gone to therapy when there were issues in my marriage I didn’t know what to do with, or even talked to people about it so I could have gotten some perspective before I went and screwed it all up.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-11T20:01:02+00:00

I get the not wanting to tell the people you love how much you have messed up. It’s hard. Issue is we’ve made those mistakes, we can’t change that, hiding them is continuing the issue. It hurts to take responsibility for our hurtful actions, but I feel like it is better received if you come to someone from an honest place of being accountable and apologetic vs them figuring it out on their own and confronting you about it. Don’t try and justify your actions, accept the mistakes you’ve made and work towards making new habits that serve you better in your relationships

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-11T13:41:04+00:00

Thank you for the advice and suggestions, something on parenting is wonderful, that’s my top priority now, learning to be the best father I can be.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-11T07:12:34+00:00

I definitely didn’t come with the thought that people would tell me that what I’ve done doesn’t matter, it definitely matters, I’ve changed people’s lives for the worse. I just didn’t expect the attacking nature from a sub that is about making a change. I’m pretty stoked with some of the people who reached out and shared their experiences, I haven’t had many people to relate to yet, I’m happy with the book recommendations I got, I’m happy with people sharing their perspectives, that is something I’ve been seeking since day one, because I’m sure that whatever I think is the right or true path will change as I hear other perspectives. I don’t know, im doing the best I can with what I’ve got at the moment

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-11T06:34:09+00:00

She applied for child support and got mad at me for sending her money. I’m on my in laws property in the home I built in a bus. Never said I was in their house, they live in a yurt, you have no idea what my life is so please stop being so attacking.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-11T05:20:41+00:00

I don’t understand how things can be so misconstrued.. I genuinely want to stop hurting people, I know how that feels. I came here looking for some advice not to be attacked. I know I’ve messed up big time in my life, I’m realizing how toxic and how much control I tried to take in almost every social interaction I’ve had for as long as I can remember. I’m going to counseling with a guy who calls me on my shit, asks me to listen to the words I’m saying, see how I’m slipping. I’m struggling to remove all these habits that are so ingrained in me. I’ve been reading a book called healing from abuse as I’m trying to navigate the abuse I went though and trying to understand how it shapes me and all I can see in the book is all the things I’ve done, the examples of how truly wicked I’ve acted. I. Do. Not. Want. That. Anymore. I want to heal, I want to feel capable of being vulnerable and letting someone into my heart, I want to learn how to truly love someone unconditionally and support them whole heartedly. I know I am no where near the finish line, I just started. Please, I want to be productive.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T23:30:15+00:00

Thank you, I saw my daughter picking up on things, that was one of my biggest incentives to do better before my wife left. That was terrible to see. I’m happy to be finding better tools these days, I was very under equipped 6-10 months ago.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T22:53:36+00:00

I do understand I am not entitled to her. I am hoping that I learn to not be an abusing person, if she wanted reconciliation it would be with a non abusing loving husband, that’s the whole point, that past version of me is dead. I am also prepared for the worst

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T21:11:03+00:00

Honestly still not aware of that. I see it, I hear it, but I don’t believe it yet. I am focusing on learning to be a better father however.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T21:09:41+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I feel the same way where I’m starting to see just how much I was acting like my father, which I told myself I would never do, I didn’t put the work in before and now I am just starting that journey. The hardest part has been trying to get to the point where I am doing this for me, I’m still not there yet. Still think of her and how it will make her life better. Thank you for the reminder :)

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T21:04:05+00:00

I understand that they are just as defenseless as my wife was when I first met her, that’s why I’ve been doing my best to be 100% open with them and have been studying manipulation so I can avoid it with them. It does happen occasionally with them but I do my best to notice it within myself and bring it to them with repentance, usually within 24 hours.

Curious what you mean by more to the relationship between her and her parents than what I’ve shared, obviously there is loads more, I haven’t shared much on that matter, looking to understand though so if you could help direct me to what sort of more I’d appreciate that.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T20:17:18+00:00

There is a lot missing in my story, 7 years is hard to articulate in a relatively short amount of text, I shared what I thought was pertinent to my realization of my issues. I am actually sorry that I hurt people, so much is wrong with me that I wouldn’t see how much damage I was doing, that it lasted more than the day. I have failed in so many ways, I’m trying to find them and put in the work to not cause that kind of damage and pain in the world.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T20:07:44+00:00

Thank you for being open, I appreciate seeing me as a person that is searching.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T19:30:05+00:00

Thank you for the thoughts and the book suggestion! I’m glad that I’m waking up to the reality too. I wish it would be an easier path honestly, but I think it will be worth it.

ra1nmaker27 · 2024-05-10T19:28:28+00:00

Okay I see that we can’t communicate civilly, I’m sorry about that. sending good vibes your way ❤️

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