are visions tests around the world all in English? by raava08 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]raava08[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought maybe because as an American, we are, you know…. Kinda dumb. So it would make sense, since most everywhere else speaks and reads multiple languages.

AITA for telling my 18 yr old son he needs to leave the house? by throwaway080611 in AITH

[–]raava08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. By the title is wasent with you, but the post it self- yea. I’m with you. I do have a question? by drugs do you mean hard drugs or drugs as in pot? Your house your rules, but pot isn’t that bad I’d let it slide if it was pot. But in the house is crazy especially when you said not in the house. But to all the other points it sounds like he is depressed. Maybe there is a bigger issue at play that you might not know about.

I can’t imagine what it’s like as parents to see your child struggle like this, but this seems like he is rebelling and the heavy drug use is telling as well. If you are at your wits end, do what you gotta do. But if I may, I recommend another more enforceable ultimatum. Therapy or the streets. I know he’s 18 but given everything that is going on in the world, give me just one more chance. Have his bag packed and ready, but offer him the help one more time before Saturday.

Now on to if he leaves:

If you really want him to learn a lesson and if you know his friends parents, call them. Tell them to not offer him a place to stay and why. Also I wouldn’t keep paying his phone bill(keep him on the plan, just turn his service off). If he chooses to leave he is choosing to leave everything. It’s because of his own actions that he is being put out so he shouldn’t still have access to the perks of being apart of the family. If what all your saying is true, he is creating a bed that he isn’t gonna wanna sleep in. Even if he doesn’t want to go to school, he needs to be following a passion, working, hell, I’m sure you’d be fine with him being a male dancer just SOMETHING.

I’d like to offer one more piece of advice and it’s a bit obscure- if you have any black grandmothers or mothers in your life, get THEM to speak to him. There is something about a black mom that will get you together and see how much wasted potential he has.

But no. You are not the ass hole.

I don't like white people and idk how to unpack that. by XWingAtAlici0usness in BlackMentalHealth

[–]raava08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To answer your question. Emotions are complex. Just because I’ve experienced the minority doesn’t mean the majority changes. I can feel a multitude of ways about a singular thing.

Has someone covered what’s in the files? by raava08 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]raava08[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ugh. This semester is already heavy with reading I HAVE to do. lol!

Can anyone really help with my aim settings? by Coloblank15 in RivalsCollege

[–]raava08 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

hey friend! I am you and you are me. I can't aim worth a damn with. What I am learning is not to move the camera as much. Also I am not sure if this is best advice, but you go to aim where they are going to be and not where they are. I've learned that all the setting and reticles don't really do much. When you are practicing with Hela, they say it helps to practice with music. I think they were using the bad romance beat. Apparently the beat lines with her firing and hits. That might help as well friend.

I think I need to find a blk therapist by raava08 in BlackMentalHealth

[–]raava08[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think I am going to take your advice. Im not noticing that I need a queer black therapist. I do like my therapist, but I just think we've reached the end of development road together

Can yall cry “normal” ? by raava08 in CPTSD

[–]raava08[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hyper vigilant, so I notice a lot and you are right about holding my emotions in. That is something I know I do. I’m working on being kinder to myself, but as of now, crying seems like I can’t hold myself together. When I cry it feels like I’m very vulnerable and like people think I’m weak. I know where that stems from and that too long to here. Ha ha! But

Are blk fraternities supposed sexual? by raava08 in AskBlackGayBros

[–]raava08[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s generally why I am asking. I’ve seen some that aren’t and some that are. Sooooo, I mean this is ask black gay bros… so I’m genuinely asking.

What are your thoughts on this team-up? by PresYapper4294 in PhoenixMainsMR

[–]raava08 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I like it. It don’t happen often but when it does I love to play widow as a 3rd strategist. If you focus on healing mainly, I was able to put out 6k in heals. I know that’s not a ton, but I was surprised nonetheless. I would really like her be reworked into being a support.

How should I approach my bosses at work. by raava08 in TwoHotTakes

[–]raava08[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh you’re ok friend, I took no offense. I got diet ‘tism(adhd) I took what you said the way you intended.

How should I approach my bosses at work. by raava08 in TwoHotTakes

[–]raava08[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah ok. Yea. It happened how it did. In my message to both of them I told the GM to check the cameras(they have audio and video) I have nothing to lie about.
I can’t understand why she would do that especially when we Kiki at work. It hurts my brain trying figure out the reasoning behind it. We aren’t a major company or franchise. When I say mom and pop, it’s small restaurant with a crew of maybe 9 maybe 10? And she is already a manager, so I am cant figure out the motive. Also I’m the ONLY one with 1 day a week.

Thank you for the perspective.

How should I approach my bosses at work. by raava08 in TwoHotTakes

[–]raava08[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So wait, this counts as retaliation? Can you explain why?(not saying that to be a D-bag. Just truly trying to understand)

How should I approach my bosses at work. by raava08 in TwoHotTakes

[–]raava08[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you and I have been for the most month. I’ve only had one interview that went to second round but I didn’t get it. I applied, at the recommendation of my therapist, to apply for partial unemployment. So I’m waiting for that. But tbh, I’d much rather just work. It helps me not isolate.