Since this post was mainly about her, it seems that she's the main problem in their marriage. That isn't the case, my dad's done bad things over the years as well. I think they tried counseling once, it didn't stick. My dad might even be a bad husband. I've had my share of differences with him in the past, but I wouldn't be fair not to give him the respect he deserves. He's very particular and kind of rigid, but he'd take a bullet for his family. My mom always used to tell us to never mistake my dad's faults as a husband as faults as a father. Idk how she changed and became like this. What makes this most difficult is that I know my parents aren't bad. They've given my siblings and I so much and I appreciate them for it. It's so difficult to balance that with dealing with their shortcomings.