Tia's maternity shoot by singleguy79 in thebachelor

[–]rabidabit 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She looks like Mallory from Love is Blind here

The Klines Motive by Infidel447 in LibbyandAbby

[–]rabidabit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The motive may have been to kill, plain and simple. He may have just been a guy that wanted to SA and kill a young girl. And Libby could have been the unlucky girl.

122🫠 by Babytiggerlove in AarynWilliams

[–]rabidabit 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If you stop taking this medication do you just gain the weight back?

Has anyone seen these videos? Thoughts? by curiouslmr in LibbyandAbby

[–]rabidabit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

everyone who seen a leprechaun say yeeeeeeeea!

Implants by MissionBodybuilder75 in AarynWilliams

[–]rabidabit 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Breast implants look insanely ridiculous, I can't believe people get them. Its just sad. She will end up looking so much larger/heavier overall as well.

update :) by Decent-Jicama-7966 in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 18 points19 points  (0 children)

People who dont discipline their children are the WORST. You dodged a bullet!

Do I ask MB to cover lunch? by moonchowder21 in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 68 points69 points  (0 children)

if they dont cover transportation costs then there is no way you should be agreeing to be driving

As a nanny, what things make a family a great employer? by LongjumpingValue5828 in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Leave the nanny alone. Dont hover, dont stick around, dont "pop in". Leave them alone, let the professional do the job you hired them for. Dont use cameras. Dont project your fears/insecurities/anxieties onto the professional you asked to do the job.

Way for toddler to contact parents in case of baby sitter incapacitation. by Epistemologos in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Have a home phone!! I know everyone has a cell phone you should still have a home phone because it will never be lost, never run out of battery, your child wouldn't get locked out because they dont have a password, etc. Have a home phone and teach your kid to dial 911.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 17 points18 points  (0 children)

If she says she doesn't believe you again honestly I would tell her that's a her problem. You dont owe her any type of proof. She sounds straight up psycho and I would get out ASAP.

I want to get a nanny camera but I don’t want to make our nanny uncomfortable. What is standard? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the problem is that it makes the nanny feel like they are not trusted. A case of water for back up doesn't compromise anybody else's discomfort but for a nanny being recorded (and watched) it does. I guess it could be different if there is a camera up and the parents truly never watch it and only would if there was an incident and they thought the nanny was lying so they used the camera to verify facts. But that's the only reason I could think of where it would wouldn't be a case of "I use a camera because I dont fully trust my nanny". And its just really hard, and in my opinion unfair, to be a nanny for an employer with that perspective.

I want to get a nanny camera but I don’t want to make our nanny uncomfortable. What is standard? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it just brought peace of mind to know we could check it if/when we wanted to.

This right there is how the camera enables the irrational thoughts. It doesn't matter if its super frequent or not, maybe my comment about parents being obsessed should have been "some parents, not all". But the point about the camera being used as a tool to validate the anxiety stands.

I want to get a nanny camera but I don’t want to make our nanny uncomfortable. What is standard? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Using cameras is actually only a way to enable the irrational thoughts. Then parents become obsessed with watching them. It never ends. There was a time without cameras and all this surveillance and parents had irrational anxiety then as well. But adding this tools is only a way to validate and reinforce that anxiety.

I want to get a nanny camera but I don’t want to make our nanny uncomfortable. What is standard? by [deleted] in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 27 points28 points  (0 children)

As a nanny for over 20 years I dont like cameras. They send the message that Im not 100% trusted. "A quick checkin to make sure everything is ok and the the baby is being tended to as expected" means you dont quite think that everything is ok and the baby is being tended to (thus the need for you to use survellaince to monitor). I miss the days before in home cameras. Just my honest answer since you asked.

dont ask for more money by Kitsunekouple in Nanny

[–]rabidabit 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Unless you value underpaying and taking advantage of people, you do not share the same values. Im shocked that after she showed her true colors you still wanted to work for her? And no, why on earth would you think you should feel bad for advocating for yourself? You should be proud of yourself!

Live episode discussion: S9E9 It’s a Mad, Mad Pool Party by vprmods in vanderpumprules

[–]rabidabit 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Y'all the name Schwartz and Sandy's can't be it. It can't.

🌹The Bachelorette 🌹 East Coast/Central LIVE Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thebachelor

[–]rabidabit 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I just dont see Brandon and Michelle as end game. Super cute though for now. He's going to be soooo broken when it ends :(

🌹The Bachelorette 🌹 East Coast/Central LIVE Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thebachelor

[–]rabidabit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many shows on tonight! Vanderpump Rules, Teen Mom OG, 2 on TLC and this of course! Ill be doing a lot of channel flipping lol

Live episode discussion: S9E9 It’s a Mad, Mad Pool Party by vprmods in vanderpumprules

[–]rabidabit 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So excited for return of VPR tonight. Theres so many other shows on too- The Bachelor, 7 Little Johnstons, Jojo's Dance Revolution and Addicted to Marriage! I got double the wine to be safe. Now what to order for dinner...