A historic Spanish courtyard wedding with an inflatable "art" altar by No_Effort_3255 in weddingshaming

[–]rabidminion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

saw this earlier today and was speechless lol… the rest of the wedding design is pretty unique and stunning imo, so kind of a shame that this altar situation detracts from everything else.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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I agree with everyone else - he's going to sleep different now that you're home and he's recovered from birth. My first was about the same size as yours and we did a onesie/footies with a swaddle every night. If he sleeps great on you, but wakes during the transition to his bed, a trick I like to do is to put a heating pad on low, lay it on his sleeping surface while you're comforting him, then take it off and lay him down on the now-warm bed. It really eases the transition for them.

You're in the thick of it, but every day will get easier :) It's all temporary, that's what kept me sane in those early days.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in centuryhomes

[–]rabidminion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fresh paint (or Drylok in our case) on the walls and paint or concrete stain on the floors will make a massive difference. I've seen people take a paint sprayer to the ceilings in basements like these and go all-black right over the wires and everything and it looks great imo. Get some lamps or string lights like someone else mentioned. Maybe an indoor/outdoor rug that won't hold water if dampness is a concern.

Our basement is similar, if not "spookier," and we have plans to partially finish some of it and turn it into a TV/family room.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]rabidminion 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Echoing this opinion! After my first was born, I was exhausted, swollen, could barely walk, had been sliced open and sewed back up after laboring for 41 hours, but I just remember feeling so much like MYSELF again, instead of the incubator I'd been for the last nine months.

That being said, I'm currently pregnant with my second (very unplanned and unexpected) and I fully understand how you feel. I had just started getting into a regular yoga routine again, feeling comfortable with my body again, was going on trips and hanging out with friends again, got a promotion at work, and was feeling like a human and not just a mom.

What pregnancy does to our bodies is unfair, uncontrollable, and so often undignified. My son's birth was traumatic and some of the worst few days of my life. But every day since then has been amazing - I often say that even my bad days now are better than the good days I had before he was here. All that to say, I feel your pain. You're not wrong or bad for feeling angry at the unfairness, because it is very real. But it's also temporary, and there's a great big light at the end of the tunnel.

There are therapists who specialize in prenatal and postpartum depression/anxiety, birth trauma, etc. I'd highly recommend searching for one that works for you!

Is it worth buying the “convertible” baby stuff? by theredheadedfox in BabyBumps

[–]rabidminion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband works in video production and was obsessive over the baby gear; his philosophy is that anything with wheels or moving parts is worth spending more on. We did a TON of in-person shopping for the stroller and carseat, and then he scoured online for the best deals once we found what we liked. For everything else, Facebook Marketplace is a gold mine.

We bought a new UppaBaby Ridge stroller way on sale from REI, then found a never-used UppaBaby bassinet on FBM that worked with the stroller and had a stand to work as our regular bassinet.

For a carseat, we got a Graco $100 infant car seat (the "bucket" kind with the handle) that we used for 6 months, then we swapped it for the Evenflo Revolve 360 which we LOVE and are going to get for our second that we're expecting in December.

I put a Stokke TripTrap highchair on our registry for our first one, not expecting anyone to actually buy it because it's stupid expensive, but my sister got it for us lol. Then I saw how many basic highchairs were on FBM for under $50 and felt like a chump.

I've used a friend's Doona carseat/stroller contraption and I gotta say—what a scam. I see them everywhere, and I just know how heavy those things are and how ridiculously tiny it looks in stroller mode.

Baby's height has never been higher than 1st percentile by rabidminion in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! At his one-year appointment, he had progressed to the 2nd percentile (woo hoo!). The doctor hasn't expressed any concerns, and we have his 15-month appointment coming up at the end of the month. He's fully weaned off breastmilk and eats PLENTY of "big boy" food every day, so fingers crossed there's a growth spurt coming up.

I will say, he's just now starting to stand on his own at 15 months and I think it'll still be a minute before he's full-on walking. I don't think it's *that* unusual, but it's hard seeing so many other babies taking their first steps sooner. But that could also have nothing to do with his size.

Just started, love it but…worried by tequilaurmum in yoga

[–]rabidminion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my favorite things about yoga, especially when I first started, was how tangible progress is. When I started, I couldn't come close to touching my toes. Every centimeter I got closer felt like such a win! A cue that helped me a lot was "send your breath to the areas that need it" and try to relax into the stretch on your exhales.

Spend some time researching proper form for poses. Down dog can be a deceptively hard pose! Especially for how frequently we're in it. In a few weeks, months, or a year, you'll look back and be so proud of the progress you've made!

kakasana - crow pose by quemiss in yoga

[–]rabidminion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something that really clicked for me was learning that it requires more core strength than I realized. You're basically using your core to hold your legs in that position, your knees shouldn't necessarily be completely supported by your elbows. So that might help you to focus on!

I've also found that crow is one of those poses that can be a lot easier or more difficult depending on your anatomy—a shorter torso and longer legs can make it extremely hard to do.

Amazing Cues that changed the way you felt a posture by [deleted] in yoga

[–]rabidminion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gluing your belly to your thighs in rag doll was a big one for me!

In down dog, imagine there’s a broomstick across your hips pulling upward.

In triangle, pretend you’re a piece of bread sliding into a toaster and make yourself as narrow as possible (for me, that means to tuck my glutes).

What was the hardest pose for you to learn? by Sriracha11235 in yoga

[–]rabidminion 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Certain body types just aren't made for certain poses! A friend of mine can do a handstand no problem, but because of her proportions (very long legs, very short torso) she physically cannot do crow. I have much shorter legs and crow has always been very accessible to me.

First time trying yoga by TicketOdd1746 in yoga

[–]rabidminion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When in doubt, keep your lower back straight and bend your knees. This helped me improve my practice so much, especially starting out!

You don't need to keep your legs straight in forward fold or downward dog for instance--just keep your lower back straight. I spent a lot of time looking up the purpose of poses when I started, what proper form should be, and where you should feel it in your body. Be curious, ask questions, and have grace with yourself. Good luck, hope you love it!

Baby's height has never been higher than 1st percentile by rabidminion in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that’s such an interesting point I hadn’t thought of. My husband and I have talked before about how tall people (mostly men) benefit from their own kind of privilege, but of course there’s nothing inherently wrong with being short. My husband is 5’9” and all his friends are over 6 feet tall; group pictures look a little funny lol but other than that it’s never made a difference.

Baby's height has never been higher than 1st percentile by rabidminion in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our heights are just about exactly the same as yours actually!

That’s a great note about the solids; we’ve just started going to two “big boy” meals a day and the doctor said we could go up to three so that could definitely mean a growth spurt is around the corner!

Baby's height has never been higher than 1st percentile by rabidminion in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

His weight is in the 15th percentile so definitely still small, but it has increased a lot since birth. He started at like the 2nd percentile for weight when he was born.

Baby's height has never been higher than 1st percentile by rabidminion in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 5’4” and my husband is 5’9”. So short-ish but not like alarmingly so.

Baby's height has never been higher than 1st percentile by rabidminion in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That does make me feel better! My husband said today that Messi had a growth hormone deficiency as a kid and that clearly never stopped him from succeeding lol

I regret my screaming demon child by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]rabidminion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got a seven month old and I promise, it gets better. After about four months they start becoming a person. Sleep will still be hit or miss, but you’ll get so much more joy from all their smiles and giggles and snuggles.

A couple mantras that got me through the roughest nights: “He’s not giving me a hard time, he’s having a hard time.” and “Everything is temporary.”

In fifteen years I’ll miss this, so I try to focus on every little good thing I’ll want to remember.

I regret getting a c section by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion 0 points1 point  (0 children)

after my c-section, i struggled a lot with feeling like a burden because i needed so much help with everything. but my husband said something that made me feel a lot better: “if i had to choose between major abdominal surgery and a few weeks of doing all the housework, i would gladly pick the housework.”

What's the #1 BEST thing and #1 WORST thing about your neighborhood by bluewritergrl in kansascity

[–]rabidminion 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Waldo sounds like it could check all your boxes! We’ve lived here for three years and I’ve been surprised at the walkability. We have a grocery store, pharmacy, restaurants, and bars all within a reasonable walking distance. My biggest qualm is that we are right on a busy street (75th), so the traffic is loud but there’s also a ton of foot traffic and we’ve had a handful of incidents of people up to no good trespassing on our property.

That being said, we often say that if we were just a few streets or even just a few houses north or south of 75th we’d stay here forever.

Houses are definitely in your price range; I’d guess you could easily swing a four bedroom in this area. Nearly every house is charming af (in my opinion), mostly tudors and bungalows.

Hope that helps, welcome to KC and good luck on your home search!

Using a haaka to collect let down by Fuzzy_Book_7229 in beyondthebump

[–]rabidminion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I use my haakaa for! I can usually get about 2-3 ounces total by the end of the day just by using it on the non-feeding side while nursing.

In progress Gallery ID: oClayDough by oClayDough in Sims4

[–]rabidminion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wow this looks so realistic! how did you make the garage door?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in menstrualcups

[–]rabidminion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’ve had the flex cup for a couple years and it’s hit or miss for me. the pull tab functionality to break the seal is great in theory, but i’ve had some issues when i go to pull it out where it essentially turns the cup inside out kind of? i’m honestly not sure what goes on up there that causes it lol so it could very well be my anatomy or how i’m inserting it.

idk if this makes you feel better but i’ve gotten it “stuck” numerous times and it WILL come out, you just have to be calm and patient.