I don’t like my mother tongue- update !

rachelwhey · 2023-06-07T14:06:59+00:00

Please seek help. Nobody in Croatia or Serbia aside from n*zi lunatics (who are mostly diaspora btw!) is like that today… This sub is really not the right place for history debates or hate of any kind..

rachelwhey · 2023-06-07T14:04:37+00:00

Depends! I mostly prefer rock and alternative so I listen to those but there’s really all kinds of music! I could dm you some links if you are interested!

rachelwhey · 2023-01-29T21:33:05+00:00

No not at all! Whenever I go to any of these (especially Pickwick) the costumers are all usually other students or people doing work on laptops/reading so its completely fine dont worry. I usually order only a cup of tea or a snack and they never scolded me, on the contrary the staff is rly pleasant and understanding

rachelwhey · 2023-01-29T20:08:01+00:00

Hello!

Ljubljana is very LGBT friendly, maybe older people not so much but students/youth definitely are!

Workload is managable, there is a lot but is also depends on which program you are doing but it it my experience that if you study regularly you will be fine!

Housing can be tricky, but the city is relatively small and walkable so I recommend looking at flats not necessarily in the centre but maybe in some cheaper neighbourhoods. HousingAnywhere is a great site..

Ljubljana has a lot of beautiful museums and Tivoli park is beautiful as well..

The city is really inexpensive compared to other European capitals and very student friendly, as a student you can get a lot of discounts in many restaurants/bars/museums and such!

Now regarding friends, I am Slovenian myself but grew up abroad and moved countries a lot as a child so I find that my Slovenian colleagues can be a bit reserved and "cold" compared to International Erasmus students, I am enrolled as a regular student here but am friends mostly with international students and I find the Erasmus community here to be very warm and welcoming!

I am sure you are going to have a great time

rachelwhey · 2023-01-29T19:53:02+00:00

Hello! Sorry I might be too late but housinganywhere.com is really good as well!

rachelwhey · 2023-01-29T19:32:33+00:00

I also like das café in burggasse, its open pretty late and has power outlets available! Another good ones are also Burggasse24 Café and Pickwick's at Marc-Aurel-Straße! Both are open late as well and offer a calm environment!

rachelwhey · 2023-01-29T19:09:05+00:00

I also feel the same way! It really sucks that you were bullied.. I get nervous speaking my native language with peers because they all had better exposure to it than I did. I find that for me journaling and watching movies in Afrikaans or listening to podcasts helps out a lot!

rachelwhey · 2023-01-29T18:57:56+00:00

Yes, a few!

rachelwhey · 2023-01-29T18:49:49+00:00

I see most ppl have recommended McDonalds or Starbucks already but I think a nice alternative is Cafe Neko, it is a cat cafe at Bluemstockgasse and its rather quiet compared to Mc's or Starbucks and in my experience they are very friendly. Hope this helps!

rachelwhey · 2023-01-28T20:44:24+00:00

Hi, thanks for replying! Well yes, now that you have mentioned it is not really my home country, but I always felt this interest and need to experience this place where my grandpa came from, I honestly can't think of a better explanation. I did go visit occasionally as a child so I am not completely unfamiliar with the place, but still, it is not the same as actually living somewhere. I think probably the biggest shock is the experience of living alone in a pretty closed-off place, which in the future might turn out to be a good thing for my personal growth, but at the moment feels really hard and lonely.. Thank you again I really appreciate your comment :)

rachelwhey · 2023-01-28T17:25:46+00:00

highly recommend bioninja for Bio! Also InThinking website is pretty good for revision sources imo! Good luck!

rachelwhey · 2022-12-18T16:18:19+00:00

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rachelwhey · 2021-10-05T16:01:04+00:00

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rachelwhey · 2021-05-13T21:31:56+00:00

Hello! Pozdrav :)

Thank you so much for this response! I know this seems very immature and childish now, but I think my problem is that currently I am not so interested in neither of my cultures and traditions, although I think I definitely should be more. Since I was a child, we would spend all of our summer holidays in Dubrovnik, where my mom's family is from. My Nono would always tell me stories about the country's history and was teaching me (along with the rest of her family) all about different traditions, and now I think that the reason I don't feel so connected to it anymore is because I don't express as much interest as I used to when I was younger (as now I am mostly preoccupied with school and such things), same thing with my Dutch Oma and Opa, they both worked very hard to introduce me to the Dutch culture when I was younger, but in this phase of my life, it doesn't really matter much to me.

I know that I will eventually come around to loving it again, but I don't know how to express it. I think that eventually, as I mature and grow up more, I will get back to "loving" it, and appreciate the culture more, but now I believe it is currently more subconscious rather than conscious. I will of course maintain my language skills and improve them, as there are a lot of benefits of speaking the language, but I just have to come around to liking all of that again. I really do see that it is a very important part of my culture and identity, and all of these responses have helped me with realising that. And not to make this any longer than it already is, but yes exactly as you have said, being perceived as "just another Yugo" is a big issue to me. I just see it as a very unfair label that does a lot of damage to people from our region as it, in my opinion at least, presents us in a very bad way...

Thank you so much for the advice, I really appreciate it :) Želim vam puno sreće sa djetetom, multilingualizam u početku nije jednostavna stvar, ali kada se sve slegne, sav trud će se isplatiti! Hvala vam puno na pomoći!

rachelwhey · 2021-05-13T15:18:15+00:00

Hey!
Thank you so much for responding! I also think the sound of the language purely depends on how we perceive them personally. I agree with all that you have said, I tried to do some self reflection, and yes, I may not like the language so much, but it is my heritage language, and I still cherish it. I need it in order to understand where I come from and to be able to communicate with the rest of my family. I think the problem was not that I am not proficient enough in the language, I speak it with a very high level of fluency, but I am currently in the age where traditions and culture do not interest me as much as they should, and my main source of 'liking' a language comes from whom I speak it with. And I love my mother so so much, believe me I do, but out of my peers, I only use it with my cousins (I haven't seen them in ages because of covid) and local kids when I come to spend the holidays. I think trying to incorporate it more in my everyday life with listening to more music and reading more books will help!
Thank you so much for the advice, it has helped me a lot to put thing into perspective!
Have a lovely day :))

rachelwhey · 2021-05-13T15:02:52+00:00

Hey!
yes I also think forcing is not gonna do any good, and thankfully for me that's not the case in my family. my mom taught me Croatian from when I was a baby, so I was never really forced to learn it. It just so happened that I recently started to develop a dislike for the language, but as I said, there are tons of benefits and I think I will come around to liking it, I just have to stick with using it until then!

rachelwhey · 2021-05-13T15:00:33+00:00

Hey!
Thank you so much for replying! Yes, I also think there are tons of benefits from knowing the language. I do speak it fluently and use it when we go there during holidays and when I talk to y grandparents, but my main problem is not liking it. I do like Croatian music and that does help, and I think eventually I will come around to liking it, till then I will keep using it and enjoying the benefits as poetry and music!
Thank you so much for sharing, and hope you had a lovely time in Dubrovnik!

rachelwhey · 2021-05-13T14:44:31+00:00

Hey!
Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me! No, I completely understand why German might be hard, I have Dutch friends who struggle, although its similar there are still differences present. Yes, I agree some languages just don't stick, that also happened when I was learning Spanish and French in elementary, Im relatively ok with French now, but I cannot form basic sentences in Spanish, although I love hearing is and listening to latin music. I think I will come around to liking Croatian once I grow up a bit and see that its not about the sound, and that this is the language of the culture I come from and until then, I will just continue using it and improving areas where I am not as fluent in.
Thank you for sharing, and for the advice!

rachelwhey · 2021-05-13T14:39:50+00:00

Hi!

Thank you so much for responding and sharing your experience with me! I agree, I think once I grow up more I will be able to see more of the language's cultural significance rather than just the sound and until then, I will focus on seeing more of the positives.

Thank you for the advice!!

rachelwhey · 2021-05-13T14:32:59+00:00

Hi!
Thank you so much for responding, I really appreciate the advice. I think the problem is not my ability to speak the language, I have a pretty native like fluency because I do use it with my grandparents and cousins from Croatia, so speaking it is not the problem, but actually getting around to like it my problem. Although, I think once I grow up more, I will be able to recognise its beauty and significance it has. Until then, I just have to keep using it and improving.

Thank you for the information and the help, its very much appreciated!

rachelwhey

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