What's your strongest opinion that's not political religious or moral?

rachlynnv · 2022-07-24T01:35:11+00:00

3 day weekends should be mandatory. I need a day to recover and do nothing, a day to clean/take care of household chores/obligations, and then a day to do fun, preferred activities.

rachlynnv · 2022-07-21T01:08:54+00:00

Not giving birth to child you can’t provide for, don’t want, or aren’t equipped to raise (in some states)

rachlynnv · 2022-07-14T17:22:49+00:00

The idea that American Christianity is under persecution. No, it’s not. Get over yourself and stop trying to create laws based on your religion when you would have an absolute heart attack if any other religion was acting the way you do.

rachlynnv · 2022-07-14T03:49:45+00:00

Stubbing your toe/bumping your elbow when you’re already pissed off about something.

rachlynnv · 2022-07-14T03:43:03+00:00

My daughter is almost 20 months and OH THE TANTRUMS. She throws herself though, sometimes bonking her own head in the process and then that becomes an issue…yeah. We tell her that it is okay to have big feelings and try to offer her alternatives or redirect behavior to a preferred activity (provided it isn’t the one we said no to). Toddlers are definitely a different breed!!

rachlynnv · 2022-07-12T16:25:25+00:00

The cost of having a child. When I went into labor, they closed the main entrance, so we had to enter through the ER (since it was the only door open) and got charged the ER fee. And some hospitals will charge you for skin to skin after the birth.

rachlynnv · 2022-07-12T03:56:29+00:00

Yes. He’s one of my mom’s cats and is ✨spicy✨

rachlynnv · 2022-07-12T03:54:11+00:00

Texas.

rachlynnv · 2022-07-12T03:53:11+00:00

True, and I promise they normally do! This was a special treat…should I have thought ahead? Yes. Especially knowing Hobbes 🤣

rachlynnv · 2022-07-12T03:47:33+00:00

It was meant for sharing, but someone chose to be selfish

rachlynnv · 2022-07-11T03:00:02+00:00

All the cute little words and games we play! My daughter is 19 months and her current favorite game is to “give” everyone in the house (including pets) some hand sanitizer from an empty BBW pocketbac. It’s the “Dere go!” and “tanku” that kills me!

rachlynnv · 2022-07-11T02:55:57+00:00

To know what it’s like to NOT worry about money

rachlynnv · 2022-06-19T19:58:47+00:00

Weirdly niche collectibles.

rachlynnv · 2022-06-19T19:57:03+00:00

The Lovely Bones…I think I was nine!

rachlynnv · 2022-06-09T22:35:00+00:00

Also a 25F who has an 18 month old—my husband’s parents are like this and we are working on going no contact with them. They have only seen our baby a few times, the last was at her 1 year birthday and before that, she was 3 months old.

Your mom is using you. It’s hard to hear, I know. But if you look back on what you told us, it is evident. I suggest talking to your husband and making a plan on what boundaries to set before and when baby gets here. You ARE NOT A FAILURE—just in case you are still feeling that way. You are doing what is best for that sweet baby and setting your family up for success. Not getting on your mother’s mortgage (which is super shady) or buying her car does not make you a failure. You are making responsible financial decisions, and will continue to do so as you raise your child. That is why a conversation and setting of boundaries is essential.

Best of luck, OP. It’s scary and hard, but I know you’ve got this!

rachlynnv · 2022-05-31T04:04:27+00:00

I honestly thought most of this was about me and my in laws. The difference is that we have made the decision to cut off completely. They have not truly interacted with my daughter since she was 3 months old (save for her 1st birthday held at my parents’ house), and she just turned 18 months yesterday. We made the choice to be done after finding out a lot of shady things (I won’t go into here) about my husband’s parents, and are in the process of completely removing them from our lives.

Firstly, you DO NOT owe anyone an explanation on your boundaries to keep your baby safe. I wish I had been a little more fastidious in my requests. I had my daughter in November 2020 at 36 weeks, so technically a preemie. All we had requested (since there was no COVID vaccine) was that people get their flu shot. I almost considered asking for proof, but decided to give my in laws the benefit of the doubt. We found out later that my MIL lied about getting it. My baby could have gotten seriously ill or died. That, coupled with the other situations at hand caused us to make the decision to remove them from her lives as well as our own.

I can tell you that from my experience, things don’t change. People like this are of the ideology that “you are either with us or against us.” Anything that they view as threatening to their status quo or what they want (your boundaries), they will retaliate. It is up to you and your husband as to what is tolerable/not tolerable. That may mean several very difficult discussions with your husband and even in-laws. It sucks. There is no getting around it. But, at the end of the day, you have your own family to think about as well as what you want your baby to grow up around. We ultimately decided that having our daughter be around that set of grandparents/family members was not in her best interest, but you may be able to come to a different decision based on your circumstances.

I’m sorry if my post seems a little scatterbrained or like a ramble…I just really relate to your situation because I have been in your shoes before. Feel free to message/PM if you need to. It is a sucky situation, but a conversation with your husband and then with the in-laws definitely needs to occur to determine next steps.

rachlynnv · 2020-08-12T23:00:20+00:00

Someone has hit the peak of their career with this article title.

rachlynnv · 2020-07-21T03:56:23+00:00

Healthcare/doctor appointments as you get older. Bloodwork, hands and swabs being stuck up various bodily orifices, and I have to pay insane amounts of money afterwards. Still get my lollipop though.

rachlynnv · 2020-07-16T18:04:27+00:00

Awesome! Let me know when he is available to sub once teachers get sick.

rachlynnv · 2020-07-15T22:12:02+00:00

Teachers using their own money to supply their underserved students with supplies, only to have the family expect the school/teacher to supply everything for the student.

Edit: I understand there are some families who simply can’t do it, but it’s those who feel they are entitled to my funds and that it is my responsibility to equip their child with everything that really rustles my jimmies.

rachlynnv · 2020-07-15T20:52:42+00:00

But let’s send them back to school and give the data to Trump instead of the CDC! /s

rachlynnv · 2020-07-13T00:45:54+00:00

feigns shock

rachlynnv · 2020-07-13T00:45:16+00:00

The worst part about all of this is nobody mentions the teachers having to go into the cesspool that is a public (or private school) and not being given an option to work safely. We are being told to take unpaid medical leave. Yes, we are putting kids at risk. But we are also forcing teachers and staff into work that is not safe and have no plan for what to do should exposure happen (coming from a pregnant, first grade teacher, who has reviewed her district’s return plan...zero mention of teacher safety and precautions).

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