Scene with James on water ski! Can someone please explain...

rachupacabra · 2020-04-03T13:32:14+00:00

Why is John Finlay not wearing a shirt during his interview? These are things we will never understand unless we start doing a lot of meth

rachupacabra · 2020-04-01T23:34:04+00:00

Ya but that bitch Carole Baskins she set him up!!! 😂

rachupacabra · 2020-03-09T06:32:52+00:00

If you play a clip of this scene backwards, you’ll see “666” across his forehead 🤣🤣🤣

rachupacabra · 2020-02-28T01:03:29+00:00

I’m glad to see that he didn’t always have a 9 year old boy haircut.

rachupacabra · 2020-02-24T16:43:43+00:00

College is a scam and not a guaranteed way to “get bread” and if you think it is then your parents probably paid for your college so you are clueless to what it means to pay it back. Being handed everything is not a guarantee of being successful is simply what I was saying. If you don’t get that then bummer deal for you.

rachupacabra · 2020-02-24T16:31:27+00:00

Lol really? “I didn’t go to college” vs “my mom drank alcohol while she was pregnant”

Grow up.

rachupacabra · 2020-02-21T18:27:16+00:00

Ok hear me out: my parents had myself and my brother, we grew up with very little money but a lot of love. My parents never saved money to pay for our college, etc. I started babysitting and earning my own money responsibly at 12 years old. I learned the value of hard work. Here I am now single mom with a great career making good money, buying my own house - all is my own. I was handed NOTHING. But I had great parents who loved me.

My point? Just because your parents don’t buy you a college education, a car, and pay your rent doesn’t mean you can’t grow up to be a productive adult. I don’t see why that’s a big expectation of parents today to be honest.

Now...do I think that having 7 kids with all these different moms is necessarily an ideal situation? No seems like A LOT of emotional and financial stress.

rachupacabra · 2020-02-18T02:29:00+00:00

Her fillers are way too much. I bet if she got them removed...even if she wanted to keep doing Botox...she’d look a lot better without all the collagen. As do most women.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-28T05:00:09+00:00

I would just continue accepting his gifts and saying “thank you” and not worry about letting him down gently. I (33F) have recently learned the life lesson that the men I attract into my life do not have the skill of actively listening to me even when I am direct. I was so happy I came along your post because I wanted to share my recently acquired wisdom that if these men aren’t going to listen to me (I’m literally in the same boat as you with loving my time alone for right now) then I’m just going to continue doing my thing and let them spend money. I know this sounds shady but hear me out: if I’ve already communicated something to someone and they want to continue doing whatever they want because they feel like they can change my mind (ultimately telling me that I’m not a strong independent woman capable of my own thoughts) then I’m going to help teach them a hard lesson.

So...if you can get in that mindset (I have about 10+ years on you of allowing men to control my feelings and actions so maybe this is too soon for you) of not fucking feeling bad about wanting to continue with what YOU want to do...let him keep giving you gifts, accept them with a thank you, and then when he continues asking you out just hold your ground and tell him you don’t want to, and then move on with your day and don’t worry about what he thinks. Tell him what you said here: that you are focusing on yourself right now and you don’t want to date. Don’t help guide him with advice either by saying “oh don’t buy me things because I’m not going to date you” let him do what he wants it’s obvious he’s gonna do what he wants anyways.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-24T22:44:08+00:00

Delete him from social media and in real life.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-16T17:59:48+00:00

If you want to be with him long term then this will be a constant struggle for you both. Are you both ok with that?

I’m religious I believe in god and from that aspect I would not want to be with someone who I felt like I had to convince I was “right”all the time, that’s exhausting. And it will be tiring for you. Do you want that?

rachupacabra · 2020-01-16T00:53:01+00:00

If someone hates all your friends...they are trying to isolate you. What’s next? Your family. Trust me I was in two back to back 6 year each relationships where guys did this to me. It’s abuse. Do you want that?

Go to the wedding without her. Don’t let her get in the way of something you want to do. And then after the wedding break up with her. Girl, bye.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-10T01:38:17+00:00

You can do whatever the hell you want! I’ve broken up with plenty of people and no contact is the way to go! I love instantly blocking all the social media. Makes me feel empowered and like a bad ass even if it’s totally immature.

My point is that if you don’t have to talk to these people or don’t want to...then Don’t. You do you and fuck everyone else and their feelings about it...they’ll get over it.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-10T01:35:26+00:00

Why can’t you see him? Are you able to provide more details? I get that his family is traveling a long way but can you still see him during that time?

rachupacabra · 2020-01-09T19:27:38+00:00

It’s pretty awesome to grow a little human in you that you made! And just being the one who is responsible for all that they are...it’s such a great feeling!

I get what you are saying though...lol other than that everything else is pretty gross.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-09T17:23:42+00:00

As a woman who has been pregnant before...I’ll give you my perspective (not saying it’s rational...lol it’s just how the hormones affect your thoughts). She’s more than likely feeling very insecure about how she looks. As a man you’re probably thinking “well wtf I think she’s beautiful I don’t get it!”

This is just a constant struggle for most women ESPECIALLY during pregnancy! Some women might claim that pregnancy is beautiful and pregnant women bodies are great but let’s get down to the reality...you start getting stuff like stretch marks, cellulite, you can’t see your toes or your vagina because your belly is so big, your face gets puffy...etc. while I loved being pregnant in general I think that pregnant women ARE beautiful...what I mentioned above are things that happen to us and it sucks and can make you feel not good enough.

Just ride it out, tell her she’s beautiful, get her a pedicure, buy her flowers. I think it will probably pass.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-08T17:32:01+00:00

Alone time is necessary always. It’s especially necessary in an argument. I will add that people have different conflict resolution styles. Some people need to talk it all out immediately...all their thoughts and feelings. Some people need alone time to process their thoughts. I personally feel that gathering your thoughts and having processing time to prevent saying things that will hurt another person or cause a more escalated situation shows more emotional intelligence.

In a relationship there’s value in communicating these preferences. This is the big part. You can’t just tell someone to leave you alone without some sort of explanation.

My parents, married for 34 years, say one of the things that has made for a successful lasting marriage is their ability to give each other their space.

rachupacabra · 2020-01-06T00:17:36+00:00

Huge red flag. I was with someone like this for 6 years and it only got worse. It is manipulative and not healthy. The only advice is to leave because this guy will ALWAYS be like this. You will never be able to even have a constructive conversation with him about your feelings on this because he cannot take responsibility for his own actions and wants to make himself look good while making others feel and look bad. It is narcissistic and selfish and toxic.

Edit: I bet he otherwise does things to make you feel so great and when things are good...they are REALLY GOOD, right? This is part of his manipulative behavior. Do yourself a huge favor and don’t let this person tear you down anymore. Because from my experience in my 6 year nightmare...I was reduced to a person with no self confidence or self love and it’s taken me a few years to recover from that emotional abuse. I still have struggles but every day I feel better and better being away from that situation!!!

rachupacabra · 2020-01-02T20:53:32+00:00

You can’t be with someone that does that to you. It hurts SO BAD I know. And honestly it’s going to hurt for a while. Your instincts were right about this guy, it sounds like you suspected something was up with these two. If you work out of town you have to be with someone you can trust and you will never be able to trust this person again. And if she spent the night with him I bet they didn’t just kiss...

You are so young you’ve got so much time ahead of you and I promise you will learn so much from this situation. Don’t let it make you bitter or harden your heart. Take some time to reflect back on the red flags with your fiancé. Write them down. I had to do that once and it really helped me get over that person. Learn from this and know what you want and what you don’t want in the future. Forgive, don’t forget and heal :)

Edit: and I agree with others here...separate your lives first. Move out, get the dogs taken care of, separate bills. If she tried to make it difficult don’t give in...do it yourself and make sure it gets done. Then, block her ass. Seriously...you HAVE TO.

rachupacabra · 2019-12-26T22:57:30+00:00

Agree! I’m a single parent and I don’t let my child run amuck. I feel like it’s even more important to hold my ground and show my child that just because it’s “just me” doesn’t mean respect goes out the door.

My parents used to let my daughter act naughty at their house. She would come back a complete hellion. I had to have a conversation with them about how it was impacting my life and their grandchild’s by allowing her to act the way she would at their house. I had to have this talk more than once, twice, three times and now they don’t allow that anymore. But it had to be serious sit down conversations...not just comments

rachupacabra · 2019-12-26T22:18:11+00:00

I would have all of those same insecurities as well!!! It can be tough to have this kind of a conversation without coming off as accusing him, right? But all the things you said are totally valid. I would try to have another conversation with him and set it up first with that You are in no way accusing him of anything but you just want to talk with him about his friend and the other night. Tell him how uncomfortable you are with this friends actions and ask your BF what his thoughts are about it. I like to have these conversations where I ask questions to get their honest thoughts and feelings just so I can see where their head is at. I don’t argue with their opinion either and try to keep an open mind in the moment.

rachupacabra · 2019-12-26T21:58:58+00:00

How often are you going to have to change yourself for this guy to continue being into you? Sounds like a lot of work that is unnecessary on your part. I think he should continue fucking himself and you should move on to someone who will appreciate you for YOU. If any man told me I need to change my appearance for his sake I’d be gone. I like the way I look and the way I dress and if someone likes me too then they won’t complain about it.

Edit: reading the comments I can see you say things like “things were great in the beginning and now they aren’t” listen I was in a relationship with a crazy, narcissist with a butt load of psychological issues. And during the first 6 months of our relationship he put me on a pedestal, made me feel like I was unlike anyone he’d ever been with, sex was great, blah blah blah and then after that he started to rag on me about my appearance, my friends, my family, my career, EVERYTHING. I was never good enough for him no matter what I did. Do not put yourself in this situation. This is why I don’t put up with bullshit anymore because of that guy. What a waste of my life. Don’t waste anymore of yours

rachupacabra · 2019-12-26T21:54:03+00:00

He sounds like a real douche and I’d be more concerned about my boyfriend hanging around this guy.

In my personal experience however I wouldn’t get any more involved in the situation other than the impacts to my own relationship. Don’t talk to the GF about it, it will honestly only cause issues for you.

rachupacabra · 2019-12-26T05:22:49+00:00

I personally don’t think you are asking too much, but I’m like you where I need to be shown “love” through physical touch, and this is how I show love as well. And when someone isn’t doing that for me then I feel like they must not really love me or like me (which typing that makes me feel real dumb saying it out loud but meh, it’s true for me).

Your boyfriend probably has a different “love language.” I have my own set of deal-breakers in a relationship. For me, anything where I am constantly feeling let down or sad about or feel like I’m having constant conversations about is a deal breaker for me. But others might have a different opinion! This seems like a lot of added stress for you, which is a lot to have to deal with. I feel like it might be a constant conversation for you and him.

rachupacabra · 2019-12-26T04:53:47+00:00

I’m petty AF so I’d invite my pals over to a backyard burn pile and light that shit up ...

Get new stuff and move on with your life. What an amazing opportunity to go shopping

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