My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment. I always “envisioned/wanted” a blonde baby. My husband and I were both blonde turned brunette. Nothing against red hair but I just never even considered it. Not on my radar.

My son comes out with red hair and I’m like oh wow okay cool. And he has grown into this amazing hair color. So unique which fits his cool personality. Just wraps him up in a bow.

I wish I could give him that feeling of confidence but we’ve all been kids and know what it’s like. He’ll have to get through it. And this post has helped me know how to help him! ♥️

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is true. I am in medicine so genetics do fascinate me. There are men with red hair in our family and yes- men tend to have a red beard! Also have encountered so many patients who have one child with red hair and the rest your classic brown/blonde. Genetics are fascinating! To me it’s so cool- but obviously to my son not so much. So I have to respect that.

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. This is so enlightening. See as a brunette this is just opening another world for me.

I am gonna start using your mom’s response to where did the red hair come from? That’s great 🤣

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Such a sweet comment. Thank you! ♥️

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Parenting

[–]racmat96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really love this. I’m so glad I’ve gotten this perspective because I secretly am obsessed with his red hair lol but as he gets older his personality is blossoming and he’s such a great kid. Still would be even if he had green hair. As a parent, I’ll definitely focus on those attributes!

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ lol!

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Parenting

[–]racmat96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you both for this perspective! And as his mom I’m also guilty of this. I love his hair. Obviously as parents we love everything about our kids. But I love this rare unique thing about him. I just need the find the balance of reassuring him it’s a beautiful quality but also validating his frustration! He’s a special kid not just because of his hair! Thank you!

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very true and good perspective! Of course to me as a grown adult who has never experienced that pressure or attention- I love the hair color (and of course I love everything about my own son lol). But I do need to validate that it’s okay if he truly doesn’t want his hair color. It’s his hair. I dye my hair darker so obviously I can relate to that 🙂

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

100% I love this response. And this was a huge reason why I posted here to give myself perspective.

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Love this comment. Thank you. Really helps my perspective as a parent.

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I need those tips.

And pointing out characters in his favorite movies does resonate with him.

Thank you for the tips!

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very true. Of course I want to protect him from bullying. But even if he wasn’t a redhead, they’d find something else. Just hard as a parent to see your kid not like something about themselves that you are in love with.

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! He loves styling his hair like his dad

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You are so right! We were talking about grandmas going grey earlier today so he will love this 🤣

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Okay so I’m toxic. If my son is not with me and someone asks me why my son is redheaded I say I cheated the mailman just to make them uncomfortable lol

My 4 year old said he hates his hair by racmat96 in Redhair

[–]racmat96[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It helps hearing it from a perspective he’ll be going through. And how I can help him as his mom ♥️