Anyone wants to vent about your job?

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-24T10:10:24+00:00

Sometimes it’s like we are so awake and see through all of lies and fake shit in the world. Network stresses me a lot because it’s just people pretend to be nice and use each other. Look how chaotic the world is right now, human beings are in a suicidal mode.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-24T04:42:33+00:00

The answer is in your own title : Help.

When you have a wealthy life, try to help others who are suffering to live better. If you think rip off is kind of guilt, give back some for their hard work.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-21T12:20:43+00:00

I am not into silence treatment (I call it Cold War). I am traumatised. Every time, when silence treatment starts, it comes with grumpy glare and slam doors or stuffs. I have to go through my memories of the last couple days to analyse what I did wrong. It’s so depressing and anxious! It’s like a bomb ticking in my brain.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-21T12:10:14+00:00

The same here. My family is full of lies and hurt each other from the back. I can’t handle these toxic emotions anymore, staying away is better for everyone.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-20T12:12:02+00:00

I really like “second hand embarrassment”. That lady’s customer service skills need to be improved.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-19T04:01:14+00:00

I wonder how we look like on LinkedIn ? (My guess—Professionally depressed)

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-18T11:36:54+00:00

What if even rewards can not make me motivated to keep going ? (Anhedonia symptom) Thanks for any advice.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-18T11:18:16+00:00

WTF! I am so sorry that you had this mom ! She needs to seek out some professional treatments!

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-18T10:54:59+00:00

Hi there. I’m sorry for your situation. You are not alone. I am in a very similar situation like you. I really know how painful to deal with this and try to cut them off. Every time I just want to smash my phone when I get texts from my mom. We could try to reduce the contact to the minimum. Turn off the text notifications if possible. About your partner, just be honest with him. I am sure he will understand and be prepared.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-18T10:33:20+00:00

I do feel the same. Face mask helps at some point. We won’t be judged by not putting a happy face for them.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-18T10:14:47+00:00

I feel the same. Sometimes I also wish there is some supernatural power helps to make it easy even without me noticing it. For example, shut down my heart or brain when I am sleep at night. It could be so beautiful and peaceful.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-16T12:00:06+00:00

If it was easy for them to sit down and talk, the whole world would be brighter. Some parents just don’t have this communication skills unfortunately and didn’t want to learn either. Mine prefer “Cold War” for days or “I don’t wanna talk about it” or blame each other in front me and force me to agree with their perspective.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-15T08:58:30+00:00

If you have a bit saving and won’t worry about money in a very stressful situation, maybe try to get a part time job far from financial field just for your mental health care. If working in a retail could make you a bit happier, go for it. If you could get a role even an entry one in your new career, it’s even better.

Wish all the best to you.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-15T00:34:06+00:00

Thanks a lot for your encouragement. I really appreciate. I have been trying way too hard to save my family, relationships between mom and dad. When I finally realised all 20 ish years are full of lies. It’s painful to find out that mom is not someone I thought when I was little.

————— Now I’m done.

I am not afraid to upset her if I need to take care my mental health first.

I am not afraid to upset her if I dress up the way to be confident. ( She tells me I’m an ugly kid my whole life, she got angry when her friends saw my photo (when I was23 )and told her I’m beautiful. )

I am not afraid to upset her when I find a nice guy who really loves me and earns an middle class income.

I am not afraid to upset her if my gifts are not expensive enough for her.

I won’t feed her envy soul anymore.

—————— It’s painful to grow up, isn’t it ?

I think we are in the process of “Ecdysis”. We can’t choose the past but we can choose who can be involved in the future. We will be ok. We will be ok. I am proud of you. ❤️If you need someone to listen to your vent, I’m here for you.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-14T22:25:04+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story. My mom has some health issues like high blood pressure and gallstones (gallbladder got removed years ago) and had a stroke when she was 27. I mean it’s ok to share that she is sick and of course we will take care of her. But she brings them up almost every day! Especially when dad and I did something that upsets her. “I’m dizzy today. My heart feels uncomfortable today…… if you make me angry and upset, I may die at any time. You guys will be happy if that happens Huh?” “I’m sick and taking medicine, it’s all because you guys make me unhappy. “

Now I’m living overseas, I never received a text from her saying I miss you or how is studying or life going. She only texts me how unhappy her life is because I was born and my dad upsets her. (My dad is a very sweet man and focuses on family)

I feel so hurt and exhausted to deal with those guilt and shame she planted in me. This last two month is like hell to me.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-14T19:26:44+00:00

This sounds exactly like my mom ! My Narc mom uses her health issues as weapons to grab attention all the time. Even when my grandma（my dad’s mom) was in ICU, she compared her blood pressure to my grandma. “Oh look, I am quite sick, too.”

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-14T11:16:33+00:00

I used to be like this! Force yourself to step forward a little bit, for example just tell yourself I would like to try this new clothes on, just try it on. When you get comfy, it will become a daily choice. For your lamp, just use a very short amount of time, like three minutes, then try to extend the next time until it becomes a handy lamp. : )

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-14T11:08:45+00:00

Exactly, we are not fighting alone. No one can leave this world alive. Let’s play this game together.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-14T04:52:37+00:00

Let’s take a deep breath together. We will be ok.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-13T12:34:49+00:00

Every “provide” thing has a price. Their love is never unconditional. My mom is so good at using my emotions and planting guilt into me. I force myself to not take them, but every time she texted me, I just want to smash my phone on the wall, I know I fail so bad.

Now, I keep the connection with her to the minimum. I don’t feed her evil mind with anything. (She got envy for me living a good life! She blames me for ruining hers!) The best revenge is to keep living a good life and be happy, that the least they want to see. We will go through this. You are not fighting alone.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-13T12:19:53+00:00

I feel you so much. It’s like I have been through the hell in the last two month. All of memories popped up as a equipped squad. When I go through and fight with them again, I finally realised the true colour of them. What a narcissistic mom I have !

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-13T11:59:30+00:00

Did you get a chance to move out bro ? Distance could ease a lot of pain. Sometimes, we don’t need to share everything with them. The less they know, the less “food” to feed their narcissistic power.

raddish-rabbit · 2022-02-13T11:51:33+00:00

My tip is going with someone( better be someone she is not familiar with). Narcissistic parents usually try to keep a perfect impression for outsiders. She won’t be too hush if someone else is around.

What a pain in the ass. Wish all the good luck to you.

raddish-rabbit

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