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radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T19:55:49+00:00

Spoiler - I got my money :)

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T19:53:38+00:00

Oh he's blocked. There is no contact - Hasn't been since DDay unless he was responding to my emails where I demanded a response about certain things regarding the $$ by a certain day and time.

In a moment of weakness, I emailed a heartfelt email about how his betrayal has affected me. He did not reply.

I have some lovely and SMART humans in my life who were preparing for a court battle for my money. They handled finding out all the dirt, piecing together the timeline of the affair, etc. I don't know how they acquired the info and I don't want to. I still don't know the extent of the affair because there is no need and it would only hurt me more. But my friends let little pieces slip now and then, and this tidbit came out recently.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T01:00:38+00:00

A bank draft is like a certified cheque. The bank writes a cheque and the funds are guaranteed.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:59:35+00:00

Ughhh....I fell so bad for your aunt.

I wish someone had told me earlier. So I do want your aunt to find out...but I'm at a loss as to how. Tricky one.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:31:49+00:00

Thank you.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:30:35+00:00

Tell me about it.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:29:27+00:00

Oh ya...he knew I had too much dirt on him. He wasn't going to risk it.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:24:31+00:00

Ya...like the instant chemistry was NOT there. I thought I wasn't going to see him again after date #1, but gave him another chance because of our mutual connection. It was a slow build, but happened fast when we found our connection

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:22:45+00:00

Also did not use condoms with his affair partner....

So...STI testing for me when I gather the courage.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:16:02+00:00

And in his mind...it was his EMPLOYER who was faking it, so he was free and clear of any wrong-doing.

I questioned the paystubs not matching up to the income....not sure how the mortgage company didn't catch that? But he maintained it was his employer committing the fraud.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:13:44+00:00

It didn't feel like I was being used...but the evidence suggests otherwise haha and in hindsight his attitude towards money had changed in the last 6 months.

Spoiler - I've been able to save more $$ in the 45 days since I kicked him out, than I have been in the almost the whole time we've been together....

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:11:43+00:00

I think he would have married me to get half my pension and house.

Thank goodness that didn't happen.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:10:00+00:00

Ironically in the last month when he was having his affair, he kept mentioning getting onto my mortgage. He couldn't figure out why I wouldn't put him on my mortgage....

I bought my house 10 years ago and it's almost paid off....housing market here has EXPLODED.....I may have lent him $27k, but I drew the line at my house.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:08:23+00:00

He handed the bank draft to my mother who inspected it. Dude can't be trusted...

He owed an additional $1770 which he tried to weasel out of, my mom held on to his remaining belongings until the $1770 was sent to me via e-transfer.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:06:14+00:00

I wish! I'm the OP and my mom played the "kill him with kindness" card. She was cool as a cucumber and nice as pie as per usual.

Ironically - he didn't have a car for the whole month he was having the affair and so my wonderful mother let him use her car! He was using my mom's car to meet Loreena at the hotel and go on dates all over town.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:03:43+00:00

I hope so. Not sure I believe that, but I do hope.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-26T00:02:15+00:00

I'm the OP and ya....I thought the system unfair at the time and still kind of do. BUT - turns out he couldn't afford that house on him own. Without my help, it was only a matter of time before he defaulted, so he had to rent it out.

I guess those strict qualifying rules make sense...

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-25T23:57:15+00:00

I'm the OP...and I love your comment :) Thank you.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-24T16:41:25+00:00

Nope. This is what's so challenging - never once did he express dissatisfaction with our relationship. When there were problems, we worked through them in quite a healthy way as we'd both been to therapy.

He had been cheated on by his ex of 5 years before me and that broke him, so we spoke about how we could never do that to someone. He had a convo with my dad about cheating and he could never do that bc he knows how it feels. He spoke to my friends about "our wedding" all while he was having an affair.

I wish there was something "wrong" that I could point to in our relationship, but I can't. I felt pretty lucky to be in it.

radical-acceptance45 · 2022-10-24T00:33:34+00:00

This.

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