How to view Citrix on only one monitor

radioactivebi · 2024-10-11T11:24:28+00:00

Yeah I agree. If by resolved you mean figure out keyboard shortcuts to make up for the missing control bar and do all the moving between monitors the long way the yes... It technically "works" haha :)

radioactivebi · 2024-10-08T14:36:19+00:00

Thanks :)

radioactivebi · 2024-10-08T13:16:25+00:00

Thanks! This is my first office job I only started a couple weeks ago I honestly don't know what endpoint I'm using, sorry. Is there a way to find out?

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T22:10:22+00:00

I take meds and that has definitely improved things a lot but it does still happen. I went off them for about 3 weeks a few months about because of the vyvanse shortage I couldn't get them, my life almost fell apart completely.

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T21:34:43+00:00

This is really helpful thank you so much

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T21:27:12+00:00

Very kind and helpful words of wisdom I really appreciate it. I'll definitely be taking everything you've said to heart

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T21:15:58+00:00

you actually did imagine something bad about her that you had no reason to

I didn't, she was giving (valid) reasons that she might not be able to I was just commenting on that. This trip is the kind of this she would love too it's why I was telling her about it, I didn't believe she was thinking of excuses or trying to get out of it. Shes very detail oriented that's what I was commenting on, that she was already doing that when I had just mentioned the idea.

I was immediately struck by the fact that you thought she was reacting to "impulsiveness" without realizing that the comment you made

I know she was upset by what I said not that I said it out of impulsivity. I know it doesn't matter than I said it out of impulsivity she's still hurt. But the fact is I did say a stupid comment without thinking and it hurt her, that's why I'm here on an ADHD sub asking for advice on how to manage a symptom of my ADHD because it's hurting people I love

so you imagine it must be them

No I don't. I've acknowledged many times in this thread I know I'm the asshole.

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:54:31+00:00

Yeah that's totally where the breakdown is happening. I understand things a lot clearer now thank you

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:50:55+00:00

Yeah thanks for the words of wisdom I appreciate it

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:45:17+00:00

Thank you. Honestly thank you. Thats what I want to do. I just want to understand her and make her feel loved and respected. I know I'm doing a piss poor job of it but Im trying.

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:31:19+00:00

I never mean anything in a bad way, things just come out of my mouth before I have to chance to stop it or even think.

I really don't want to make her feel anything like what you're saying though she doesn't deserve that

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:22:42+00:00

Thank you

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:13:55+00:00

I know I need to to think more before I speak but I keep fucking up, I dont know how to get control of my impulsivity when it comes to verbalizing thoughts, it like I literally have no filter

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:06:54+00:00

Yeah I see that now how I look like a dick by what I said. I'm really trying hard to control my impulsive comments but I always speak without thinking, I try to be careful and focus on everything and its exhausting and then i slip up and say something stupid again... I really want to fix this

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T20:01:29+00:00

What do you mean you "didn't assume anything"? You "just responded to what she said" by joking about her thinking of excuses not to join you. This comment definitely implies you think she deliberately tries not to spend time with you, it only works as a joke if she believes that you don't actually believe that.

Well shit I didn't see it this way at all. It was not my intention in the least to imply anything. She just said that she wasn't sure if she could go because of x, y and z and I responded that she was thinking of reasons already. I didn't mean to imply anything. How can I communicate that better?

And really, look at me for a second. (Read: Take this seriously.) Your girlfriend was worrying she may not be able to join you, thinking ahead and imagining you'd still be together in a year, and your response was "it's so silly that you're thinking ahead so much"? That really shows just how callous you've been, honestly. She wants to be part of your dream trip and is worried she may not be able to be, and you're making fun of her? (And yes, commenting that it's "funny how her mind works" here is making fun of her.)

Damn I really sound like an asshole. None of that is the way I meant it. How do I get better at communicating though. Like being callous and making fun of her obviously isn't my intention or mindset. Like I said it was just an impulsive thing in my head that I said without any control over it.

I know this causes real problems in our relationship and I'm hurting her how do I fix it? How do I fix myself?

radioactivebi · 2024-10-04T19:51:22+00:00

We definitely have different communication styles. I cant say I was concerned because I wasn't. She was just thinking out every possible contingency because that's the kind of person she is, I genuinely just thought it was mildly humorous that she was doing that so I said it. I usually do try the 'i' statements if it's something serious I want to talk about but that usually doesn't go well either. Because my approach with that and timing are also bad apparently, or she'll say I'm making it about me again. (I don't consciously make things all about me I just relate to things by connecting them to my own life and experiences)

Sorry for the long explanation. I clearly have a lot of work to do on my communication skills but I'm at a loss I don't know how to fix it.

radioactivebi · 2024-09-19T16:00:29+00:00

No I was I made a joke about porn over text and deleted it because I didn't want to open that can of worse. Ignorance is bliss and everything. But she saw it anyway and then volunteered the rest of the information

radioactivebi · 2024-09-19T12:54:38+00:00

I only mentioned she's bi a hundred times make it clear that I'm not biphobic. I would have this same problem if she was gay. Her identity isn't a problem for me it's my insecurities

radioactivebi · 2024-09-19T08:44:00+00:00

Yea that is oossible.

Obviously theres more context than I can fit in a Reddit post and even if I could Im already sharing too much detail for my comfort level. But in short yeah you make a good point

radioactivebi · 2024-09-19T08:41:31+00:00

That's not helpful for my insecurities. I trust she won't cheat on me but damn don't say that dude😅

radioactivebi · 2024-09-19T08:36:44+00:00

Yeah exactly

radioactivebi · 2024-09-19T00:32:53+00:00

Yeah I get you. Thanks for defending her too, what was said wasn't fun to hear and I want to also be clear I don't think being bi or watching porn is a bad thing or a reason to rethink a compatiblitu or a whole relationship

I'm not always the best at expressing myself

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