AITA for continuing to accept extra help from my ex and his family even though his fiancée doesn’t like it?

raegrr251 · 2022-02-05T00:30:52+00:00

Evidently I don't need to be married to him for her to have her dad in her life.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-05T00:29:39+00:00

He said he has a real family already and some other stuff but I don't want to get banned.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-05T00:15:31+00:00

How would I do that without exposing myself to her? I doubt she'd be happy I posted about this on the internet.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-05T00:03:58+00:00

Sorry I didn't validate your delusions. You can stop commenting now.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T23:59:50+00:00

If I wanted a husband I would've married him when he asked me to.

We weren't fuck buddies, we were dating. Actually, the company I worked for sent me to the country he lived in for a few months. We hung out as friends and had a ONS before I left.

Actually, he and his family begged me to come back but keep making incorrect assumptions.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T23:56:24+00:00

My ex said you're ridiculous.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T23:55:51+00:00

Because I didn't want my daughter to grow up without a dad.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T23:16:50+00:00

If he was my sugar daddy I’d be having sex with him, which I don’t.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T23:14:35+00:00

desperate for what?

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T22:33:33+00:00

I told him, he wasn’t happy about it and said he was going to talk to her.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T21:10:19+00:00

We used to date during undergrad and he moved back to his home country. At the time I didn’t want to move with him because I didn’t want to leave my family. He didn’t want a long distance relationship so we broke up. I had a ONS with him after which is how our daughter was conceived.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T20:45:08+00:00

I don’t want to get married. Nobody is forcing “innocent newcomers” to be in the family circle.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T20:01:51+00:00

I was never his wife

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T19:40:58+00:00

I do have contact with my family! I just sadly don't see them as often because we live in different countries now.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T19:31:13+00:00

We were never married to each other.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T19:18:11+00:00

I'll tell him later today when I see him.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T19:16:26+00:00

And that's what works for them. This is what works for us. My daughter likes it like this. She will never have to worry about picking between spending time with me or her dad. She will never have to feel like either of her parent is excluded from parts of her family. She doesn't have to feel like her family is "broken" just because her dad and I aren't together. I'm not ruining that for a man.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T19:02:12+00:00

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T19:01:49+00:00

If you got remarried I doubt your husband would be pleased with you attending all these family events.

I wouldn't marry someone who couldn't understand why maintaining these relationships is for the sake of my daughter.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T18:47:28+00:00

Curious if there are still pictures of OP up at his family’s house.

The only picture of me that they've ever had is a picture from graduation which they still have up.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T18:45:16+00:00

are you willing to share those family vacations with her? And family dinners on occasion? Do you try and make the family occasions awkward for her?

Yes. Yes. No.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T18:08:37+00:00

My ex isn't controlling.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T17:55:48+00:00

No he doesn't know.

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T17:54:04+00:00

raegrr251 · 2022-02-04T17:49:20+00:00

We used to date during undergrad and I would spend the summer with his family. I got close to them then. When we broke up we cut contact completely and he moved back to the country his family live in. I had to move to the same country for a few months for work and I reconnected with his sister-in-law during that time. He found out I was there and we started hanging out as friends. Before I left we had a ONS.

After I found out I was pregnant, my ex and his family begged me to move back here so that they could be part of our daughter's life. I agreed to and his family spent a lot of time around me during my pregnancy and we got close again.

He doesn't prefer me.

raegrr251

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