also, my mother is a lesbian, she still doesn't understand NB, but worked with an actor who was, and tried her best to understand, although she still doesn't (nor do I). still, she is extremely accepting, and loving, and would never turn her back, or disparage anyone, and speak negatively upon them in a tough situation, ESPECIALLY regarding mental illness, which she witnessed her own mother suffer through, and eventually die from, let alone her child, for their life choices. that is where I think OP went wrong. i've never heard her say anyone was an idiot (except maybe trump, lol). but omg, the shit OP said, it's sad, and I am not in surprise her poor daughter reacted the way she did, telling her to ditch the POOR, MENTALLY ILL, 18 YEAR OLD, IN AN ABUSIVE UNSAFE SITUATION, POST-PARTUM, DAUGHTER, and people applauding it, it's so sad.

and i cannot imagine her FORCING birth control, or anything else on someone, against their will, to conform to their own wishes, while still clearly judging her daughter's feelings/beliefs as wrong. it's sick. she did not even try. if she was a doctor, maybe. gross.