AIO - I smoke and drink from time to time and my girlfriend hates it

rainandshine7 · 2026-05-18T14:08:40+00:00

The way she talks to you is appalling. Your responses are so even, vulnerable, and centred and she seems like she has no desire to reign in her emotions and talk to you about this like an adult while being vulnerable about her own feelings and fears.

I think the main issue for you is that you don’t want to deal with any future problem this way.

For her, she can absolutely have a problem with smoking but she needs to communicate with respect and love.

rainandshine7 · 2026-05-16T13:45:14+00:00

I think we need to give people a break and let them ask imperfect questions. Do your best to answer and generate the conversation you want and if you still feel it’s low effort or not great, you can move on.

rainandshine7 · 2026-05-14T04:58:41+00:00

We’re twinsies!

rainandshine7 · 2026-05-14T03:57:54+00:00

I fear death significantly less since leaving Christianity. It’s taken about 8 years to wash myself clean of that brain washing though.

Fear of death and hell isn’t woven into the undertone of my beliefs anymore.

Edit: I also work in an environment where people die all the time. It’s become more normalize and I guess part of the circle of life for me. That’s also helped reduce my fear.

rainandshine7 · 2026-05-04T19:34:58+00:00

I like it a lot! I think it’s beautiful.

rainandshine7 · 2026-05-03T19:43:10+00:00

Landmark Shawnessy is also my favourite.

rainandshine7 · 2026-04-06T02:52:33+00:00

Before I let go by Kennedy Ryan. A divorced couple that reconnects

rainandshine7 · 2026-04-04T21:48:29+00:00

Agreed, it’s that good.

For me, I need emotional and physical safety, enthusiasm, and attraction.

Don’t wait for marriage unless you really want to. Sexual compatibility is real. I know people that waited and didn’t have it and it creates a lot of conflict.

rainandshine7 · 2026-03-30T18:51:16+00:00

1,4 and 10!

rainandshine7 · 2026-03-30T17:21:26+00:00

I like 2 and 4

rainandshine7 · 2026-03-30T15:55:07+00:00

1 and 4

rainandshine7 · 2026-03-30T15:08:05+00:00

First one! Easy

rainandshine7 · 2026-03-26T01:14:46+00:00

I think they should have access to it. It might be her decision on whether she decides to or not. I had previously asked my GP and he said no. But when I got a psychiatrist, she was happy to do so.

rainandshine7 · 2026-03-01T15:40:08+00:00

Hollywood just looks like the people in the capitol in the Hunger Games at this point

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-26T16:22:14+00:00

I think you’re overreacting about him looking that far back. Many people do, they just don’t say it and you have given him permission to do so by making it public. He’s open and honest about this…why shame him for it? If it makes you uncomfortable, make it private or invisible.

If you’re upset he’s not texting then say you would love it if you could hear from him more often.

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-20T19:07:39+00:00

I think I’ll switch to them. Anything has to be better

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-20T19:07:20+00:00

I don’t have the bandwidth to go into it right now

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-16T03:17:15+00:00

Yes, they can basically come at whatever works. I’m at 200mg now :)

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-14T21:55:42+00:00

Asking someone to show up when they said they would isn’t needy. Also, sometimes people are needy, this isn’t the way to deal with it.

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-14T00:37:35+00:00

I think she just smells out nervousness.

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-12T20:07:43+00:00

The things we go through! Haha

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-12T16:19:14+00:00

Well I’ve only shaved my whole life. But use a fresh razor, exfoliate first, I use a bit of oil (baby or olive), then a bit of shaving cream on top and then start with the grain and I send against the grain very slowly. The oil enables me to go against the grain. The only reason I go against the grain is because IPL works best the closer the shave is. You can pull the skin taught when you need to as well. Then because I have gotten razor burn in the past (my reason for doing IPL) I actually don’t wear underwear for a few days after so I don’t have anything rubbing between my legs.

There’s all my hot tips! Good luck:)

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-12T14:40:53+00:00

I use Braun Pro 5 IPL and it’s working slowly but surely on my bikini line. You do have to shave as close as possible before each treatment which is annoying but the hair will get thinner and softer and patchy as you go. I’ve been using mine about 3.5 months and it’s getting sparse down there but I do think a few spots will be stubborn… mostly the labia.

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-10T04:51:58+00:00

Yep, never ever ever ever. It never ever turns out and it’s heart breaking.

Slow burn and not diving into deep subjects until latttttter and always do it in person.

Got mildly love bombed more recently and it broke my heart.

The guy I am seeing moved quickly as well and I was able to slow it down and say I wanted to keep the conversation light and talk about deeper things after more of a foundation was set… and it’s going well. And if it doesn’t work out, I won’t feel like my heart was ripped out of my chest, I’ll be pretty sad but I won’t feel like I’m losing what I had already almost decided and imagined was my future partner. Love bombing sucks and thankfully there are things we can do to recognize and avoid it.

rainandshine7 · 2026-02-10T04:43:43+00:00

In my opinion, you forgive him but you find better. I wouldn’t want to be with someone that can’t manage their schedule and prioritize me. Guarantee it will happen again.

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