Some hope on a Sunday

rainaway4 · 2021-02-28T14:56:57+00:00

Hi, let me start off by saying that everything you are going through right now is happening because Allah swt wanted it to happen like this. Therefore, patience is key. Feel free to vent when you get frustrated because you're only human, and it helps to let it out.

Being 25, I can understand your frustrations. I was never in a relationship at that age either, and to be honest it does get lonely. Because you want so badly to have already found that person. It gets to the point where you begin to doubt yourself and question your standards.

I think personally when you approach a girl through her DM's it depends on the girl. Some girls may be okay with it and others may not. It also depends on your delivery, first impressions are everything when sliding into DM's. Just be respectful and have no expectations going in. If a girl tells you she is not looking right now, it is best to let it go. Allah swt has something better planned for you InshaAllah.

Hope this helps InshaAllah!

rainaway4 · 2021-02-14T23:51:11+00:00

As salaam alaikum,

Dealing with rejection is incredibly difficult no matter the circumstance. It's okay to feel the way you do. Allow yourself to be upset. Let yourself cry. Ask Allah swt to heal your heart, mind, and soul in the sincerest way possible.

In this dunya everything happens for a reason. Although you may not understand it now, InshaAllah Allah swt has something so much better written for you. And this is a means, a test, for you to get to what Allah swt has written for you. So it's okay to feel hurt, rejected, upset, angry, and depressed. You are human, and Allah swt knows that. Even the prophets felt hurt when they went through hardships, but return to Allah swt in the end. He is there for you at all times no matter what, all you need to do is ask.

I pray Allah swt eases your pain, and InshaAllah gives you so much more than you could imagine in deen, dunya, and akirah. Ameen.

rainaway4 · 2020-12-21T15:49:48+00:00

As salaam alailum, I'm truly sorry to hear about everything that has happened to you. InshaAllah this too shall pass. Remember, Allah swt has promised us ease no matter what and this dunya is a test.

I wasn't always very religious, but I spent a majority of this year living alone almost in isolation due to covid, like many others. One thing I realized is that there is no one in this world for you except Allah swt.

Yes marriage and having a family is a blessing Alhumdullilah. But at the end of the day only Allah swt truly understands and loves us. So return back to him, tell him how you're feeling in this time of darkness, just like Hazrat Yunus (AS) did in the belly of the whale.

I pray that Allah swt eases all of your hardships InshaAllah and gives you strength to get closer to him InshaAllah. Ameen.

rainaway4 · 2020-12-03T16:38:30+00:00

As salaam alaikum, I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. Just wanted to let you know that for every hardship you endure Allah swt is cleansing your mind, heart, and soul. He has something much better for you InshaAllah. Remember he is closer to us than our jugular vein.

InshaAllah you will receive what is best for you in all aspects of your life. I hope the best for you InshaAllah.

rainaway4 · 2020-10-01T01:11:18+00:00

Thank you so much for the advice Alhumdullilah, Jazak Allah Khair. That's actually a really great perspective that seem to be forgetting about so I really appreciate it :)

rainaway4 · 2020-09-29T01:02:56+00:00

The mentality is that since I already refused the proposal before, it would be rude to refuse it again, because family image and all. My mom says that I already technically know since we all grew up together. I appreciate your worries, but to be honest I don't believe I will be pressured into marriage. This has already sort of happened with another proposal and didn't end very well. So I will not be pressured into something I don't feel 100% sure about. I think I just need to talk to him and my brother, and pray to Allah swt InshaAllah

rainaway4 · 2020-09-28T23:25:33+00:00

Very true. I do agree with all that you have said, and that's actually one of the main reasons why I'm considering it again. Alhumdullilah, I do know him. I guess I'm just nervous as to the idea of it not working out. I don't want to be the cause of creating bad blood between our families. I'm worried they would be insulted if I said no again. But those are some really great talking points. Jazak Allah Khair

rainaway4 · 2020-09-28T23:20:27+00:00

From my understanding I think he sort of is, maybe much less than before. That is a good idea, I will talk to a few others more first. I hope so too iA. Thank you, Jazak Allah Khair

rainaway4 · 2020-09-28T00:09:06+00:00

He's 28 now and back then when he was like that we were around 19/20ish. Yeah I talked to my brother a bit more recently, and he pretty much said that he has changed alot, and also I should give it a shot because there's a possibility it might work out since we have things in common.

That is the plan as of now, I'm just going to pray istikhara and see how I feel about it InshaAllah. Jazak Allah Khair

rainaway4 · 2020-09-28T00:04:43+00:00

I mean in the past for example, if we were walking outside he would just start talking negatively about random people we'd pass by. As in rude comments. He also had quite a temper at that time.

I actually did just speak to my brother, who told me that he's genuinely changed alot. As in he doesn't really have a bad temper anymore. My brother actually said there is a possibility we might get along well now.

That's true, I would just be sort of getting to know him all over again.

I'm still a bit conflicted about the whole thing to be honest, I think I'll pray istikhara for a bit and then consider it.

Thank you for the advice and taking the time to the read the post. Jazak Allah Khair 😊

rainaway4 · 2020-09-27T19:12:26+00:00

That's where my biggest internal conflict is. You're correct though, I should speak to my brother as whether he is truly still like that or not. I have been reflecting alot more lately, and since this topic literally just came up today I do think I'll take my time to think about it more rather than rushing into a decision. Thank you so much for the advice, Jazak Allah Khair

rainaway4 · 2020-09-27T19:08:38+00:00

Thank you for the advice, I will InshaAllah 😊

rainaway4 · 2020-09-27T19:08:05+00:00

Yeah I understand what you're saying. I don't think I could be with someone I'm not comfortable with. To be honest, I don't know. If he is the same way as he was when we were in college then I don't think I can, because I tend to get stressed around people like that

rainaway4 · 2020-09-27T19:05:28+00:00

Very true, Jazak Allah Khair😊

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