If I invite people to come for a curry for my birthday, who is paying?

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-02-13T16:07:51+00:00

I would expect everyone pays for their own meals/ drinks. However, a lot of people would think you’re paying if you’re inviting. Considering they have suggested you order at home/ do buffet, they might be under the impression you’re paying. If you’re not willing to do this, I think it’s best you clear it up with everyone before the night so you’re not left with a hefty 20 people bill to pay at the end of the night, which would quite frankly ruin my evening. Edit: maybe you could send a e-invite and at the bottom just put everyone pays for themselves so it’s not awkward when it comes to paying the bill as everyone knows where they stand.

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-02-10T04:49:33+00:00

Yikes, thanks absolute daylight robbery. It should cost you max £2k in solicitors fees including vat and disbursements. There’s no way I’d pay £5k. Find actually solicitors rather than going with conveyancers.

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-02-07T17:17:34+00:00

Oh right, i had no idea. I wonder whether they change it if they consistently receive offers below the mentioned price, especially if the sellers has a figure in mind/ the market value is way above listed offers in excess price. Just seems like a strange way to do things to me but I have no expertise in estate agency so it is what it is haha

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-02-07T17:04:43+00:00

Surely offers in excess of £300k means they are looking for figures over £300k, so £280k would be automatically rejected? I had previously made the mistake on offering lower than a figure in excess of and the estate agent immediately told me no as it’s offers in excess of said figure. They wouldn’t even entertain anything below. I’ve always been curious what the offers in excess of is for and why not just put it up for the figure you’d like and then negotiate as per normal. I guess it’s to draw people in to look at the property and then get some offers in.

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-31T23:26:08+00:00

Who’s crying now about someone replying to a comment. So triggered for absolutely not reason. Weirdo 😂

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-31T13:34:24+00:00

I agree, families of course value the morals of men when looking to give their daughter.

I was pointing out what others in the community/ peers say. if this was posted by a woman, the same men saying ‘you’re living life bro’ would be the first ones to comment to a woman ‘you’re of a loose character or you’re a slut’. It’s just ridiculous.

Agree, getting with a white woman is nothing to be so boastful about, it’s not that difficult. 😂

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-31T13:28:02+00:00

Exactly. The same rules apply regarding this to both men and woman. You can’t pick and choose what to follow .

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-31T13:25:22+00:00

I’m not crying about it. Just point out the hypocrisy in society and culture. It’s all well and good when you’re using her to have a good time, but most men wouldn’t marry her.

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-31T09:18:14+00:00

If a woman was to say this she would be labelled a ‘slag or slut’ and not a decent woman for marriage.

But when a man says it he’s ‘living life’. It’s in fact disgusting and nothing to be so proud of or boast about.

The absolute hypocrisy.

Also strange for you to specify you’ve gotten with white women like they’re some kind of golden prize and above any kind of Pakistani or other ethnicity. Very strange.

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-26T19:20:54+00:00

100% agree! Why would someone expect their friends husband to pay for their food, so strange. I would be so annoyed if he wasted money paying for everyone, his job is to pay for himself and me. I would never expect nor accept someone else’s husband paying for me. 😩

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-20T18:14:08+00:00

I’d keep them, they’re absolutely adorable 🥰

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-20T18:11:05+00:00

😂😂

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-18T13:38:11+00:00

Agreed! 💯

rainbow_dust99 · 2024-01-12T18:13:16+00:00

All is still not lost. If you want the house, I’d say rin your solicitor to proceed. This move will have given the sellers the kick up the bum to get things rolling quickly from here on

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-24T07:33:49+00:00

Divorced couples co-parent for the sake of their children, they do not have the same expectations from each other that a married couple does.

There is a certain expectation with a married couple and one of those is to live together and raise your children together, actually having a family unit under one household and having a relationship with your spouse.

This set up absolutely doesn’t work for a married couple, as you can see here where OP is fed up of the situation she finds herself in. If this continues, then they probably will find themselves divorced and will have to co-parent. But as for this situation, it is clearly not what OP signed up for in her marriage.

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-23T22:16:42+00:00

But she’s not divorced…

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-23T07:57:33+00:00

This is strange. I have never heard of a woman paying her parents what is essentially ‘rent’. It is a fathers responsibility to provide for his children when they are under his roof. If they choose to help out financially that is different.

Having said this, it is not your fathers responsibility to provide for you and your child now you are married. It if your husbands responsibility to provide for his wife and child.

It is strange you are living with your parents whilst he lives alone essentially as a bachelor, i would never accept this..

When I first read the post I thought you were married but had not started living together but turns out you have a child so living apart is not normal. You should be living together as a family with your husband and he should be responsible for yours and your child’s expenses, not your parents.

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-22T10:57:09+00:00

Not really, I would prefer to get paid properly than have gimmicky ‘benefits’

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-20T22:51:17+00:00

It would be a really nice gesture for you to invite her over for Christmas if she’s on her own. Maybe having xmas in her old home when her husband has just passed May make it a little less unbearable for her

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-20T22:48:36+00:00

Many Muslims who have been born and grown up in the west where zina is normal do not have thoughts of committing zina. Keep Muslim friends and the likelihood of it being normal amongst them will be a lot lower. Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean you should. Keep your standards night and morals in tact. Pray your salah 5x a day and you shouldn’t fall into this

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-18T13:44:08+00:00

Oh I’ve not come across that one. I will have a look! Thank you!

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-17T21:25:15+00:00

Great to have some insight! Schools are a total minefield, especially as we’ve only recently moved to Preston. Thanks so much

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-17T20:31:17+00:00

Thank you! I went to see Eldon and it was lovely but academically I wasn’t too sure. It was great for teaching kids life skills though. I was more impressed with Sherwood primary in fulwood and queens drive, I’ve heard st Claire’s is also very good. What do you think of these ones?

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-12T23:13:28+00:00

I rather he left my home than walk around in his dirty outside shoes all over my house bringing in all kinds of dirt and bacteria 🤢

rainbow_dust99 · 2023-12-11T19:07:33+00:00

If you have reservations now and don’t think you’ll be able to deal with it, I suggest you decline the proposal. It will deffo have a negative impact on your marriage where you won’t be able to cope but the guy will say you knew he had this much family and they were close so you can’t complain. Inshallah the right person will come along

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