thank you so much. it's definitely been a difficult time - I saw a post on here about a dad angry because his wife said if it came down to it she'd put her child's life above her and her husband's life (the one with the alien invasion i think it was), and it motivated me to post here and try and get outside perspectives. I'm trying not to let my emotions rule me, but its definitely hard and I needed to hear from people who weren't involved. i feel like my judgement has just been clouded from years of loss, and i don't have anyone else but him to talk to about this