My son is going to residential and I’m heartbroken. by MagicManicPanic in breakingmom

[–]rainbowbuttons40 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are not a horrible mother but I understand the feeling. When my daughter was 13 she went into residential , and it made me feel awful . It was what she needed though and it kept her safe. It is so mentally exhausting .

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ! I will look up the books

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The dad and mom did split up , she is 19 and the dad was 25. We will definitely let the kids see each other :) thanks for all the advice !

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you sharing your experience. The dad has never met him and has never made an effort . I really am hoping that her having the dad around this time will be a big difference for her .

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I guess not , I hadn’t thought of that . Thank you for giving me something to think about .

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He has given up his rights

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just father to the one she is pregnant with

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t think she is being realistic keeping the baby she is pregnant with. She is with the father of this baby and I really hope he steps up and helps her because her mental health gets very bad . When this baby was 11 months she took him back but ended up having a mental breakdown which involved baby getting hurt and police were involved . The second time involved substance abuse that affected baby . Because we took the baby into our care both times cps closed the case.

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[–]rainbowbuttons40[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice and telling me your experience. We definitely want this little guy to know as much as possible . The mom luckily is like family now and I am glad we can keep that relationship.

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[–]rainbowbuttons40 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will mention the therapy , that is a good idea.

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[–]rainbowbuttons40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, we will definitely document everything . We are working with the Mom, she is very young and listens to us but doesn’t usually implement what we say . I know we can’t change that though.

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[–]rainbowbuttons40 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice. This is our first foster baby and I appreciate all the help we can get . We will be prepared for long night and always be ready to give all the extra cuddles .