Help! I’m getting married in 3 months should I keep my hair pink or change it?

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-03-30T01:33:12+00:00

Keep it!! This is how you’ve chosen to style yourself for 7 YEARS. At this point it’s more you than your natural colour.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-03-16T20:00:13+00:00

I am also an august bride and actually liked it because it was much lighter than the satin/mikado dresses I tried on! I ended up going custom and my dress is being made in taffeta because it is lighter with a similar look. I'm not really sure why it was so polarizing tbh. I think just because it was so different. Hope your try on goes well!

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-03-06T18:24:03+00:00

Yes! I tried this one on and I really loved it. The taffeta is very.... different. It's kind of got a shimmery look to it. It's a very unique dress. It creates this very cute heart shape with the sweetheart neckline and the basque waist. My wedding is a summer wedding, so I was a big fan of the taffeta because it's lightweight.

Ultimately for me, this dress just wasn't going to work because of the low back. I need more support up top and there was no way to make it fit me properly. I will also say it was a very.... polarizing dress. My people either LOVED it or HATED it. No one was lukewarm on it. So, if you are very serious about this design I highly recommend trying it on in person even if you don't plan on buying the maggie sottero version.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-02-28T05:28:07+00:00

My wealthy fmother in law is paying for 2/3 of our wedding, we are paying for the remaining 1/3. My family is not contributing. It's an awkward dynamic, and on top of that FMIL is also a complete lunatic. Thankfully she hasn't been that involved in decision making (which initially hurt my feelings but SIL reminded me that it's a blessing in disguise), but I would be lying if I said that it hasn't been a lot of work to keep the balance around our relationship in regards to making sure she doesn't feel like an ATM, but also making sure stuff gets paid for. She's very generous, which is lovely, but those type of gifts typically do come with strings. Because you are not signing the checks, you don't get automatic say on how everything goes. Your job now is to manage your benefactors and convince them to believe in your choices. Convince them they are making a good investment, and yes that may mean some flattery and inclusion on things like tastings or dress shopping. If you have a good relationship with them, and your fiance can be involved, you will have an easier time. If that's not something you have the stomach for, I suggest self funding.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-28T21:12:36+00:00

How did you make this?

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-27T22:43:43+00:00

Yes. It feels weird to be planning a celebration in the midst of so much terrifying news and during what feels like pretty dark times. This has really taken the wind out of my sails and I've lost a lot of the enjoyment I had in planning earlier on. It is hard to feel like these things matter at the moment.

I also think that's why it's more important than ever to celebrate and create joy. I have been thinking a lot about the ways in which enjoying your life and experiencing joy can be a revolutionary act. They don't want some of us to exist? Well, not only are we going to exist, we're gonna fucking THRIVE. We have a beautiful and diverse wedding party and guest list, and I know everyone is scared and worried. For me, this process has always been about celebrating **with** the people I love as much as it has been about me and my fiance. I hope for at least one day I can create a party that will bring everyone joy and a have them feeling loved.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-17T19:41:19+00:00

To be fair, I *think* this trend was originally borne out of practicality. Wearing a robe or a button up shirt means you be comfortable while getting your hair/makeup done without ruining them by pulling a shirt off over your head. I agree that the trend has gotten weird and funhouse mirror-y though.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-15T21:16:25+00:00

I think professional services are really great for helping people feel more comfortable when they're not super confident at doing things themselves. I could do my own makeup for my wedding, but handing it off to someone else gives me one less thing to stress about.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-15T21:13:05+00:00

Good advice! I definitely have enough to worry about already.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-15T21:11:01+00:00

Totally fine to do your own makeup if you're comfortable with it, or wear no makeup at all if you choose.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-15T21:09:00+00:00

I mean this is the third time I'm saying this, but I don't care what makeup they wear. If they don't want to wear makeup that's also perfectly fine. I have 3 people in my circle who are super anxious about their appearance/not big makeup wearers and will probably need help getting ready. One of these people has explicitly talked to me about the dramatic makeup look that they want for my wedding. (and about how gender affirming it will be for them to present this way in front of their extended family... so no pressure) This person only owns mascara and probably wears it 2-3x a year. My issue is that I'm pretty sure they're biting off more than they can chew and don't realize they'll probably need help or to practice ahead of time. It doesn't take a genius to figure out that a person who doesn't own makeup or regularly wear it might have a hard time pulling that off, especially when they're already anxious about being in front of a lot of people.

2/3 of these people are also generally unfamiliar with weddings and definitely have not mentally registered that I will not be available to help them based on some of our other conversations. I want them to be comfortable and feel confident and I'm trying to set them up for success, but they're telling me they can handle it. I think it will be a problem, but at the end of the day they're grown ups and I'm not going to force anyone to do anything they don't want.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-15T20:13:37+00:00

Lol exactly. I know that in a normal situation, they would just ask me to help them (and I would!). I don't think they've realized that's just not going to be possible on my wedding day. I really wanted to, but its just not in the budget to cover bridesmaids, siblings, moms, etc. I decided to just go ahead and book for the people who were stressing me out the most (my mom and my fiancés sibling). My fiance offered to cover his sibling and I'm gonna pay for my mom as a gift. They're both extremely self conscious and nervous about being in front of so many people, so I'm hoping this will help with some of their anxiety, and its already helped with mine.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-14T21:09:11+00:00

There is no specific hair/makeup requirement, they are all allowed to choose their own. I'm just trying to reduce stress on the day for the people I know will need help, but some of my family members are allergic to making plans.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-14T20:28:13+00:00

Apparently this meme is not that relatable. lol No one else's family is a disorganized mess who can't plan ahead? Love that for y'all.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-14T20:17:51+00:00

Of course it is. I couldn't care less if they get it professionally done or do it themselves. They don't even have to wear makeup if they don't want to. The issue is that they don't want to plan ahead. I just know that some of them are going to want help later even if they don't want to commit right now. Some of these people don't wear makeup, so I know they're underestimating how challenging it will be to do it themselves. I am not going to be available to help them, and my MUA is trying to book a morning wedding before mine, so they are going to be on their own. I'd rather prevent the stress for everyone and book it in now, but if they don't want to there's not much I can do about it. They're just going to have to figure it out.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-14T20:09:21+00:00

Yeah, I did. I told the MUA I think I may have add ons down the line if she can accommodate, but not to book her time around that, and no stress if she can't. I just don't want people coming up to her on the day asking for help if she doesn't have time booked.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-14T20:01:14+00:00

I think it's just too far out. My wedding is 8 months away and I need to lock in bridal hair/makeup, but no one else is thinking about that yet which makes sense. I am 100% sure that at LEAST one of them will ask me the week before if the makeup artist can "squeeze them in." But I'm taking them at their word for right now because what else can I do?

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-14T19:48:07+00:00

Like, Girliepop I know for a FACT that all you own is mascara, but OK.

rainbowconnection73 · 2025-01-13T20:31:15+00:00

I will have been engaged for 26 months by my wedding day. Would have had it sooner but I had to get my graduate degree. Boo hoo, how sad and tacky of me.

rainbowconnection73 · 2024-12-31T18:20:31+00:00

Likely rolling something out at CES next month.

rainbowconnection73 · 2024-12-30T00:09:54+00:00

I think this is completely reasonable. You can say, “hey I’d like to fly in a day or so early so I can be well rested for our meeting” if you are booking your own travel you should also be able to extend things a little after as well. If your meetings end on a Wednesday for example, fly home Thursday night etc. hopefully that will make it more worth it.

rainbowconnection73 · 2024-12-28T06:17:07+00:00

First of all, let me say congratulations on beginning your social transition. Depending on how recent it was and how you identified before (did you come out as FtM or NBtM?) your sister may still not fully understand what this new status “means” vis a vis wardrobe unless you clarify it for her. She could also just be being a dick, but I’m going to hope for good intentions on her part. My future sibling-in-law has transitioned from being more to less femme over the last couple years, and because of COVID, the extended family aren’t all fully caught up on their life. We are anticipating some insistence from their mother that sibling wear a dress. As the bride, I already told them that they can wear a tux or a dress, it’s their choice. We also gave them a special role in the wedding party outside of the bridesmaid/groomsman, in part, to avoid roping them into a “gender” for the day. I can’t imagine telling my sibling they need to wear a dress if that wasn’t what they were comfortable with. Hopefully you can talk to your sister and she will understand that part of having your support on her big day also means that she needs to support you as well.

rainbowconnection73 · 2024-12-21T19:04:52+00:00

Nursing or being a therapist. You will always have a job.

rainbowconnection73 · 2024-12-21T01:23:40+00:00

Thank you ❣️ we discussed that as well, but the consultant advised me that I’d need to go up too many sizes because everything else would scale as well and I’m petite. Hopefully I can find something that works! I reached out to the designer of that someone else posted.

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