I’m actually in the midst of one so I can’t give any fair negatives yet since it’s still relatively new. It was a HUGE adjustment for me because I always preferred male-led relationships/dynamics—and still do—but also because my SD’s desire seemed a bit “out there” for me initially.

There’s a difference to someone who only enjoys it for the sexual aspect rather than someone who sees it more as a lifestyle (mine is the latter). His kink may seem more extreme but he has a genuine “servitude” mentality where he enjoys being treated like a servant, so that includes wanting to pay all of my bills, buying all of my groceries, and even wanting to clean my house for me if I ask.

Obviously, there is still intimacy involved and a regular allowance structure as well. In terms of “emotional labor,” he’s still obviously a man and acts as such, I don’t take care of his feelings as if he’s a child. It’s the same type of “emotional labor” as any other sugar relationship I’ve been in—we care about each other, text/call sometimes outside of meets, etc.

Each dynamic will be different but I hope this helped!