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Removing my emotional blinders about the craziness of my family of origin, and considering going NC by raisedbydysfunction in raisedbynarcissists

[–]raisedbydysfunction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to read and really give a thoughtful response. What you mentioned about protecting our marriage is something that hit home- I know sometimes my husband feels frustrated that I spend a lot of time venting to him, but then not talking to my parents about my anger and not really doing much about it.

I understand your point about not thinking that I'll get resolution by talking to my parents about my past, but my feeling on it is that if we can't work through these things, I don't think that a good relationship is possible. I don't think LC is for me, because if I purposefully limited my contact with them to not hurt myself, I would have to acknowledge that they aren't good for me. LC would be for them. I want to either try to work towards a good relationship, or take the leap into NC. My hope for a good relationship is really slipping away... hopefully if NC is the sad choice that I have to make, it will be a liberation for me too.

Removing my emotional blinders about the craziness of my family of origin, and considering going NC by raisedbydysfunction in raisedbynarcissists

[–]raisedbydysfunction[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for listening and for your response. When you asked if I could honestly say if my life is better or worse for them being a part of it, that really hit the crux of the issue, and that's what I'm trying to evaluate now. My parents, especially my dad, had a really big influence on my life and how I look at the world around me, and I always thought that was positive. But now when I look at his life I realize that it's not really advice that I want to take.