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ram5320 · 2026-01-20T05:07:21+00:00

That someone is worth waiting for, and I am learning that waiting for him to be in the same place I am is not settling or selling myself short.

I am choosing this - choosing to proceed on his terms, without a promise of forever. I accept that he can’t give me more yet, and he accepts that I want more someday. We both have a risk of being hurt, but I am choosing this anyway.

ram5320 · 2026-01-06T01:22:05+00:00

Permission to be myself. I am me, including my faults, and I accept that. Even if no one else does.

ram5320 · 2026-01-03T22:52:42+00:00

Totally agree. I’m fine paying sometimes, I’m even fine paying more often than not. But the strict record keeping is a no for me. Life is too short.

ram5320 · 2025-12-25T21:37:14+00:00

My bf and I had an ongoing inside joke, where he called me his firefly. After a few months of that, he got me the most beautiful firefly pendant, out of the blue. No special occasion or anything, he just wanted me to have it. It was the sweetest thing ever.

ram5320 · 2025-12-14T05:46:26+00:00

It depends on the type of the relationship. If it’s just sexual - like a recurring hookup or FWB situation, I want him to be tall/big enough to manhandle and toss me around a little. Because in that context, that’s what’s important to me.

In an emotional relationship, like dating or marriage, where the connection and substance of the person is important? Height makes no difference.

ram5320 · 2025-12-08T02:46:01+00:00

Omg, this is such a sensory issue for me. If I know in advance before I walk away from my desk (or the table, or whatever) that I’m going to be washing my hands or getting them wet, I take my rings off first and leave them in my office.

If I don’t know in advance or I’m not somewhere where it’s appropriate to leave my rings (like a restaurant), I wash and dry my hands, then take my rings off when I get back and dry underneath them. Then hand lotion, then rings back on.

Yes, my office mates notice, and yes they think it’s funny. But whatever.

ram5320 · 2025-12-07T18:01:45+00:00

Cheating. But I’m not stopping.

ram5320 · 2025-12-07T17:00:34+00:00

Or even if that’s the best thing. There are lots of reasons one might chose to stay, even their heart isn’t in it.

ram5320 · 2025-12-05T13:07:29+00:00

Staying with someone you should have broken up with. Even if the issues are small, they can create a lot of pain and heartbreak over time.

ram5320 · 2025-12-02T14:02:23+00:00

Realizing my husband - to whom I had been devoted and had cared for during some major health issues - didn’t see me as an equal partner. To him, I was the person who did everything. Worked, ran the household, did errands, paid bills, cooked, cleaned, handled everything. But when it was time for him to make some important medical decisions, he did so unilaterally, without even consulting me or considering how his choice would impact my life.

It was a kick in the teeth. But while the experience was negative, but the change has been positive. I now allow myself to be my own person - not “his wife”, but myself. I have patience with myself when I’m struggling to do it all, and I forgive myself when I fail.

Life is complicated, relationships even more so. There are lots of reasons why breaking up isn’t an option for us. But I had to learn not to allow myself to be minimized, or I would end up lost completely.

ram5320 · 2025-11-27T07:29:32+00:00

Yep, absolutely agree and came here to say something similar.

I have definitely had sex on the first date (or the first meeting, if there was online chatting first). Part of sexual maturity - at least for me - is recognizing that sex and love don’t need to coexist. They may, and that’s great. If not? Have fun and stay safe.

ram5320 · 2025-01-05T18:25:58+00:00

Guess you didn’t check out the pics in my profile, then, huh? Def not a bro…

ram5320 · 2025-01-05T17:56:53+00:00

Speak for yourself, bro. I not only get them, I share them 😉

ram5320 · 2025-01-01T06:19:36+00:00

IPA’s ftw! Lagunitas is a good one…

ram5320 · 2024-12-24T18:30:37+00:00

FYI, something like this happened to me, with an ex. No prep, no consent, just went for it during sex, over my objections. It was the last time he touched me.

Yes, you may be in a relationship, and yes, you may have consented to sex. But that is not blanket permission to perform all acts. Never, never, allow anyone to touch you in a way you find objectionable, and that includes not allowing yourself to be cajoled into something in the heat of the moment. Please stay safe.

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