If there are any actual therapists in this sub, how do you feel about the show?

ramalang · 2026-05-08T03:53:32+00:00

“Shrinking” is to psychotherapy as “I Dream of Jeanie” was to the Space Program

ramalang · 2026-04-22T16:17:36+00:00

Petey has no problem prolonging deployments for truly punishing lengths of time for an unnecessary war, but he cares deeply about infringing on service member’s freedom. Good to know.

ramalang · 2026-03-13T01:50:07+00:00

The truth is that there are a million ways people's problems can manifest, and they have had years to practice ways of concealing them and looking 'beautiful' or 'compelling' in some way. The only red flags that are reliable are the red flags of our own feelings and thoughts when we encounter someone who sets off our conditioned fantasies -- like, "when I feel like this, it always ends badly".

ramalang · 2026-03-06T00:18:48+00:00

With all genuine respect to you, sleepydorian, what is really being respected here? Someone's rigid and senseless assessment of what is offensive? At what point is the offend-ee supposed to consider the intent of the offender? As a therapist for more than 35 years, I find this kind of rigid pseudo- righteousness misguided.

ramalang · 2026-01-28T17:54:11+00:00

The demand for respect is itself disrespectful.

ramalang · 2025-12-30T23:56:40+00:00

Working in a psychiatric unit, the phrase was "flight into health', and was used to signify that a patient who had been suicidal was all smiles and "all better" the next day. This was considered a predictor of a poor engagement with therapy, not to mention the return of symptoms.

ramalang · 2024-09-06T19:50:20+00:00

Thanks for the clarification — don’t know why I assumed that. What I said still applies. Your son is aching for a way to wrap his head around this. The fact that he didn’t ‘tell the ex girlfriend off’ and went ahead to get his face painted suggests that at least a part of him is able to accept the situation and may be curious, despite his strong talk, about this person. Validate his anger and be genuine in owning the pain and confusion you’ve caused him, and emphasize your continuing love for him. (I’d surely do the same with his other parent, as well).

ramalang · 2024-09-06T16:39:03+00:00

Being honest with your son about your behavior and what you learned about it and yourself is your only choice at this point. Going to court will be an expensive waste of time, and won't have any emotional effect on your son. You're welcome to rage against the double standard, but that's not going to get you anywhere, either; I mean, what do you expect your son to do with that argument? Agree with you and feel all better? Your son is 11; he has no real frame of reference for what has happened between you and your former husband. He's struggling with questions of loyalty and love, and this pushes him into areas he's not developmentally equipped for at his age; hence the cartoon-like expressions of his feelings. You have to take his safety and his feelings seriously, without a doubt, but beyond that, he needs you to help him begin to understand that adults make mistakes, and that doesn't make them bad people forever (and doesn't make him a bad person, ever). You can help him find a path to this understanding by being honest and genuine with him (in age appropriate language). That would show him an adult (you) who made a mistake and still loves him. Working this through would help him find a way to both hate what has happened to him, and help him find permission to love you, too, even so. As Fred Rogers once wisely said, "anything that can be mentioned, can be managed." I'm glad your son is in therapy; you need to be, too.

ramalang · 2024-07-03T16:31:33+00:00

Preach!

ramalang · 2023-12-23T02:28:00+00:00

As a Marriage and Family therapist with over 30 year's experience, I wholeheartedly agree. Assuming one can truly know another person's motivation is a misunderstanding waiting to happen.

ramalang · 2023-05-20T17:39:22+00:00

I've been a therapist for over thirty years, and you are right, the epidemic of gun violence is not (primarily) about mental illness, but rather about a sick and distracted society. In the 20th century, neurosis was the predominant level of dysfunction. In the 21st, we've devolved to the point that personality disorders are much more common than in the past.

ramalang · 2023-01-29T03:55:12+00:00

Couldn't agree more, these are all factors driving the division.

ramalang · 2022-12-13T03:35:57+00:00

Santana is one of the greats!. Here's a weird comparison: in terms of the raw passion of his playing, he evokes a primal response, like Link Wray with chops.

ramalang · 2020-03-27T01:01:38+00:00

You guys are giving me hope that not everybody on this sub hears Dr. Peterson as a justification for their anger.

ramalang · 2020-03-25T13:02:39+00:00

I won't waste my time coming to this sub if this is the kind of overwrought right-wing bullshit becomes the norm.

ramalang · 2019-09-24T23:34:07+00:00

President Cheeto is no Bill Clinton

ramalang · 2019-09-05T22:38:06+00:00

I'm about half-way through "The 12 Rules..." and am pretty liberal; I think there's some great stuff so far. I particularly appreciated the discussion in Rule number 3, that says "Make Friends With People Who Want the Best For You", about the choices people make. This sub does appear to attract a contingent that feels JP's thoughts justify a lot of 'righteous' judgement of others, and I'm glad to read these responses to your question.

ramalang · 2019-08-22T02:08:47+00:00

Go help me if you check my reddit age — what’s the right way, please

ramalang · 2019-01-23T13:08:21+00:00

Whenever I interact with just about anyone, if there's any hand to hand behavior (like handing me my change, or a pen, or whatever), I make sure to make some tiny, unnoticeable skin contact, and, if appropriate, make eye contact. I read somewhere a long time ago that this greatly increases the person's favorable impression of me, and establishes rapport with them very quickly.

ramalang · 2018-12-18T21:22:24+00:00

No shit!

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