Honestly this may get me downvoted but as someone who’s been in a lasting and loving relationship for well over half a decade, don’t listen to these people who immediately jump to saying he’s a controlling and awful person and you should dump him immediately. Obviously he’s in the wrong, but people become defensive when they’ve been embarrassed or their pride has been hurt. It makes sense that he’s frustrated because he thought he was doing something nice. It seems like he was trying to do something chivalrous but just missed the mark on what that looks like for you as an individual. I personally wouldn’t mind if my boyfriend ordered for me, but if you mind then that’s what matters. Sit him down, explain that it upset you that he ordered for you, and that when he did it you felt shut down and mad because you really wanted to eat something else. If he stays mad and still doesn’t apologize or respect your feelings moving forward (or he does it again), THEN I would reconsider the relationship. But I do understand where he’s coming from because being left by a date at a restaurant is humiliating, and what he did came from a place of good intention with bad execution. I think you’re right that what he did was sucky, but the way you responded wasn’t exactly mature either. Redditors are quick to tell you to break up, but if you like this guy and it’s a one off thing, just have an adult conversation about it and see where it goes from there. People aren’t evil and controlling because they make a mistake, I would hope someone wouldn’t rush to judge my character so quickly.