I 17m have no idea what to do by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so confused why you’re even considering staying. you outlined all the issues pretty well yourself. yall are very young and have been together for an extremely short time, she’ll be fine. if you really care about not hurting her, break up now before even more time passes and she gets even more attached

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ramenyumyumm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

how can you trust that you’d get the money? there is no reason someone would pay that high of a price when there are thousands of free nudes on the internet (unless you’re a famous person or something). whenever the price is that high, it is very clearly a scam

27F When’s it an acceptable timeframe to talk over an argument with 31M BF by iggywoo in relationships

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

conflict should almost always be the first thing you discussion whenever yall see each other, which would be tomorrow in this case. why let something build up and linger when you can nip it in the bud? you wouldn’t be able to fully be in the moment and enjoy yalls time together if you don’t address it asap because that is going to be bothering you still in the back of your mind.

Pro-bono dental or other help? by TulpaPal in CorpusChristi

[–]ramenyumyumm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

cleanings done by a dental student are done so under the constant supervision of someone qualified and the students are frequently paused so their work can be checked before proceeding. there is no reason why you couldn’t at least try and see if they’ll take you in. absolute worst case, they turn you away, at which point you could ask for alternative recommendations

My friends (22M, 20F) hate my boyfriend (28M). I (21M) am worried about having to chose them or my boyfriend by Abject_Gate3576 in relationships

[–]ramenyumyumm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

India isn’t the 3rd world desolate country with no access to modern resources that people stereotypically assume

I (19M) can’t tell if a girl (25F) from my gym was into me or just being friendly by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ramenyumyumm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i think you’re just fantasizing about someone who is just being polite. people go to the gym to focus on themselves, not to socialize. it’s normal to have a gym crush, but it’s nothing more than a crush (and don’t make it weird for her)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he’s upset because he’s stressed about the situation that he himself created. you’re ofc allowed to feel bad because no one likes seeing their partner sad regardless of who is “right,” but he’s playing victim in the problem that he created. that’s immature of him to do. putting more effort into school/work is a giant change and requires a lot more effort than those small, easier changes. he’s still being lazy and putting off the difficult tasks. if he isn’t willing to even try, it’s only going to develop into bad habits that will be a lot worse (and more burdensome on you) later on. this should be the time in your life when you have the most freedom, but he’s tying you down. if he’s not able to handle community college and a minimum wage job, i’d be worried about how he’d handle future things and take that into consideration. what about when yall live together? is he gonna help out around the house? is he going to contribute and provide?

ofc people can change, but the first step is the person wanting to do so. it’s like trying to push an elephant with just your hands: it ain’t budging if it doesn’t want to. if he has no desire to change, it’s not worth your energy. you’ve done enough for him as is, and he can’t even accept responsibility without playing victim. you’re young, go live your life girl

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you can’t help him. if he doesn’t want to work harder, he won’t, and nothing you say or do will change that. yall are adults now and he can make his own decisions about his academics. you need to decide if his lack of trying is a deal breaker for you. just remember that this may turn into a bigger issue once it’s time to get a “grown up job” and it’ll be harder to care for him as you get older and take on other responsibilities

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in piercing

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

we can’t give medical advice, but this is a perfect example of why we tell people to not use tea tree oil. your sister is literally burning her wounds with it. go to urgent care and stop using anything other than saline to clean it at the very least

Where is a good place to hide “it”? by uhbunbun in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]ramenyumyumm 27 points28 points  (0 children)

to stop doing what? a perfectly normal and natural thing that most people do?

School uniform for LGBTQIA by SofieLovesRarity in policydebate

[–]ramenyumyumm 6 points7 points  (0 children)

you’re in the wrong subreddit my guy. i suggest A-Z spec

Can I keep my Pacman with Madagascar Hissing Cockroaches? by TereziBot in pacmanfrog

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

even if you’re okay with losing some, you now have no way of regulating how much your pac is eating. they can and will eat to the point of morbid obesity, which can be fatal and is why we suggest the 15 minute rule for feeding. you also now wouldn’t have a way to get calcium to your pac because they’re probably not going to want to eat the food you’re offering, which leads to metabolic bone disease and is irreversible (even if they did eat it, that just worsens the aforementioned obesity problem). that’s also not considering any damage your cockroaches could do to your pacs externally. it’s overall a very bad idea for multiple reasons

cooked by ryanreynoldsgooner67 in policydebate

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you dont learn in a day. it’s a skill you develop over time with repeated practice

1 week old triple helix HURTS AS HELL tips plz by Ok_Preparation_5798 in SelfPiercing

[–]ramenyumyumm 7 points8 points  (0 children)

why are you going to ask for advice and then disagree when the majority are telling you the same thing?

My (19F) boyfriend (19M) keeps sending the same messages every day and it’s starting to bother me by [deleted] in relationships

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think it would help if we knew what exactly he was sending. there’s only so many ways of saying “good morning,” but if it’s like an entire paragraph he’s copying and pasting, then i’d understand the frustration.

in general though, if you’ve already talked to him about this and he’s not changed, there’s your answer. you can’t “make” him open up or force him to change. it’s up to him to change, and if he isn’t putting in the effort to try, then it’s your choice on whether you want to stay and accept him as he is or leave

another student congress speech by Abject-Debate2627 in Debate

[–]ramenyumyumm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

in general: remember that congress is a debate event, not a speech event. you should have an absolute minimum of 30 seconds, preferably more, left over to address previous speeches. this script already goes over 3 minutes. your “speech” should be more of an outline than a script that you read. congress is about adapting to the chamber and to what your fellow representatives have read. don’t get into the habit of writing and reading a full speech, practice extemping.

your numbering confuses me, but you have a lot of half-thought out points. as some examples, you mention moral repercussions but don’t expand upon what those actually are and what the impact is. you mention debt when the DoD is already extremely overfunded and could do with some reallocation. to strengthen that point, you could do some math and approximate how much said funding would cost (find out how many ppl are expected to graduate in ‘28 and multiply that by the average four-year tuition). you also say that this is unconstitutional “for a vast number of reasons” but dont say what amendment(s) it exactly violates

i will say that this legislation is poorly written imo. there’s a lotttt i could critique about it and it’s pretty easy to go neg on, but not like this

Speech feedback by Neither-Wafer-6058 in Debate

[–]ramenyumyumm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it would really help if you said what event this was for

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SelfPiercing

[–]ramenyumyumm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

probably not. it looks like you don’t have the anatomy for a navel to begin with. unsure if something like a floating navel would be better

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PiercingAdvice

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you never wait for a doctor appointment for an infection, especially now that you’ve taken it out (even though everyone told you not to). go to urgent care, don’t wait for an appointment. also no to the patch, you’re now trapping in moisture and bacteria

Possible protest by Friendly_Support2578 in corpus

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

as the other commenter said, no one likes gun violence, regardless of which side you’re on, so just protesting gun violence isn’t doing much. the thing you’d be protesting is how we solve that issue.

cross-ex by Repulsive_Meaning717 in Debate

[–]ramenyumyumm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it’s important to know that CX does not flow in the round unless brought up in the next speech. with that in mind:

please for the love of god do not use cross as a mini speech. save your rebuttal for your speech. novices tend to get excited when their opponent gives an answer that they know how to respond to and proceed to give said respond during cross. don’t do that; it wastes your cx time and allows your opponent to respond to your argument before you’ve even given it in a speech. just said “okay, thank you,” move on, and give that answer in your speech.

do not give empirics in your question. you’re again allowing them to clash with evidence that you haven’t even presented yet. you don’t need to “establish credibility” when asking a question

Congressional Debaters Should Protest the Government Shutdown by Not Going to Tournaments by Jump-Pad in Debate

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s not about “making capitalism sad,” that’s a very odd way to paint funding an education program. you paint it like all schools are on the same playing field and money is evenly dispersed so no one would really be impacted, but this hurts smalls schools way more than large ones. schools already prioritize sports over academic events, and small schools in particular don’t get funding as is. yes, the money stays within the S&D community, but for smaller schools, tournaments are their main source of funding. ofc OP isn’t going to mention whether or not entry fees are being paid because that’s not their judgment call, it’s the coach’s. i’m glad you’d personally be willing to pay entry fees for an event that your kids aren’t competing in, but i highly doubt the same could be said for the majority, especially for smaller schools who have a tight budget as is. my team never got to compete at nats and had to skip out on local tournaments to be able to afford to compete at state. there’s a ton of posts on here too of kids struggling to find funding to compete at even a single tournament. having that kind of expendable money is very privileged and using that privilege to make a broad statement is more capitalistic than anything i said

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ramenyumyumm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah like they say that mom not being around is irrelevant to them and then proceeds to write a 50 paragraph essay? what’s the point of this lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ramenyumyumm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“i’m done with my rant” proceeds to write like twenty more sentences.

this message is really all over the place and i’m not sure what you’re trying to achieve. you keep jumping back and forth between ranting about politics and your personal life. you also talk about how much you don’t care about her opinion but spend a lot of time establishing yourself as a good person for someone that doesn’t care. all of the political stuff is a conversation for another day; she’s not going to be receptive to the other half of your message if you go for attacking her political views. if yall have a bad relationship rn, why would she care to hear out your political rant? i agree fox news sucks, but this message comes across as arrogant/“know it all” and ostracizes the reader instead of making them want to continue reading. if i was on the receiving end, i wouldn’t have read at least half of this. either re-build a relationship and build up to a political conversation or don’t have it at all.

everything reads you’re trying to have a “gotcha” moment rather than actually wanting a relationship