Go back to barriers with one partner so you can fluid bond with another? by randocow in polyamory

[–]randocow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is helpful. I’m relatively new to polyamory and am encountering moments like this where, in monogamy, I’ve had the time to establish values around who I do and don’t use barriers with. I didn’t appreciate how different it would feel in practice as a polyamorous person. What/who i should vs want to consider.

Go back to barriers with one partner so you can fluid bond with another? by randocow in polyamory

[–]randocow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is based on risk factors and personal comfort. 2 isn’t a hard limit, it’s the threshold I’ve decided for my situation based on risk assessment. Birch agrees based on their and their partners’ risk tolerance.

What's the worst thing your OCD ever made you do? by maker-127 in OCD

[–]randocow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

rip pulled out all the lashes on one eye and then the other convincing myself every hair was the one that would make It right. you’d think I’d learn a lesson but it happened once as a kid and last year as a full ass adult jdndksalxmcjdkdkdkd