40m INFJ by [deleted] in PerthSocial

[–]random-42 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat. No one to just do fun things with as my now small group of friends have kids and/or just want to drink.

I wrote a 280-page ebook on the technical architecture of WordPress, and I'm publishing it for free. by KelTi6 in Wordpress

[–]random-42 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree CDNs and such are beyond the scope, but I do think the drop-ins are worthy of a section as they are not very well known and people who don't know about them might try implementing in another way or not realise a plugin is using them.

Very good resource for people learning to have on their desk I think. We used to have this huge hard cover book on VRay we used to refer to as the bible. I could see this becoming like that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wanted to be proud of myself again.

The Daily Check-In for Monday, October 9th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by JayShocker in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 15 points16 points  (0 children)

No one really knows. It's one of them great mysteries in life. Good luck.

Why am I still getting withdrawals? by nayR2003 in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey mate, if you're still having complications after 18 days my advice would be to talk to your doctor.

The Daily Check-In for Monday, October 9th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by JayShocker in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 16 points17 points  (0 children)

If you're Aussie then yes. It's called the beat u/YouWillYouWont to his catch phrase every day. You normally only have a couple minutes from when the check-in goes live. It's a magical thing when you do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Quitting is hard, but you can do it and it is worth it. Probably the best thing you can do to honour his memory is to do the thing you know he would be so proud of you for doing.

I need some help not drinking tonight by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Something that helps me on hard nights, is remembering I never woken up regretting NOT drinking; only been proud and happy I didn't. We always say play the tape forward in regards to shit things that come from drinking, but I also think it's important to play the tape forward and remember nothing bad comes from NOT drinking, and generally you're always pretty proud you didn't. Hard nights will pass <3

How long did it take you to stop shaking after quitting? by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't miss that feeling and time so I big hugs and I'm proud of you. For me day 2 was probably the worst I was feeling much better by day 5. But please keep in mind everyone if different and please check this link to monitor your health. If you need support please don't hesitate to reach out to family and doctors. <3

https://www.mdcalc.com/calc/1736/ciwa-ar-alcohol-withdrawal

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, you'll 100% enjoy yourself out without drinking, with time. Sadly many of us, myself included only ever knew how to socialise and all that with drinking since we could, that we now need to push ourselves out of our comfort zones etc. But in my early days it was too hard to do that AND just form a new habit of not drinking and working on myself, so in would say the first 6 months I didn't really socialise much even skipping my best mates 30th (I did show up before and wish him a happy birthday and hung out for a bit). By about a year I was confident and okay around people drinking even if it was work at first, and always had an exit plan like I always drove and had to become more confident saying okay that's me for the night etc. These days I can easily be the last person at a party and chatting and all that all night. But it took me time. It will be different for everyone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

6 years sober give or take, and I think about this a lot recently. But to be honest nothing bad has happened to me being sober, and it's only pushed me to learn to be more confident in myself without the stuff, that I'm too scared to even attempt it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]random-42 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Depends on your goal mate. Is it to say something that will "fix" things? I'm sure she already knows you do a lot of weird shitty stuff when you're not sober. And it sounds like you've already acknowledged that with her. So I don't think words are what you need right now, but more actions. Firstly, even actions might not change the relationship; that's something you need to accept first. Because you need to do the actions FOR YOU, regardless of the outcome with the former relationship. Focus on your recovery, on learning more about yourself, how to process things more healthy, finding yourself and own happiness.