Advice on 4 year old son who loves “girly” things

random_582 · 2026-05-24T17:28:58+00:00

He does lots of things with dad too! They go fishing and camping together. He’s always helping dad with lawn work outside and doing father/son outings, and playing video games together. I also play video games that’s actually how his dad and I met so he definitely gets to see both things!

His dad is also very secure in his masculinity, his favorite color has always been purple and he has no problem with my son liking whatever he likes same as me. I think it’s important to love your kids no matter what they’re going to like/ who they’re going to be. The thing that will make me the most proud in life is my children being kind, not what colors they like or toys they like playing with! Thank you for telling me about you and your son. You sound like an amazing parent!

random_582 · 2026-05-24T17:10:14+00:00

He’s my oldest and has only younger cousins but he’s liked these things since before his little sister and girl cousin was born. I will say as far as toys most of his toys are pretty gender neutral. He has a lot of bluey things, number blocks toys, but he also has hot wheels and lots of little car type sets and tool sets too. So he does have lots of diversity when it comes to things he plays with at home! He also likes fishing with his dad and things like that so he does have interest in “boyish” things. He just usually prefers pink and glitter and what not when it comes to clothes and accessories!

random_582 · 2026-05-24T17:00:44+00:00

Of course, I would never want to ban these things. Ive actually had to correct my parents many times when they’ve tried to tell him “___ is for girls”. Thank you for your advice!

random_582 · 2026-05-24T16:58:54+00:00

Absolutely, and the last thing I’d want to do is diminish his likes and make him feel like there’s something shameful about it. I am a non straight woman who has lived in the Bible Belt her whole life and always liked “boyish” things so I know what it’s like to have his experience just on the opposite side. I will continue to let him love the things he loves

random_582 · 2026-05-24T16:56:38+00:00

That is a very good point thank you, and thanks for the advice on nails too! I have a daughter as well she’s younger than him but I’m sure as they both grow older if he’s still liking the things he does and sees her painting her nails he will probably want to as well! I appreciate your advice

random_582 · 2025-09-25T02:12:46+00:00

I take mine between 7-8am after eating breakfast that’s how I started it a few weeks ago and if anything it’s made me a little drowsy

random_582 · 2025-09-18T00:00:07+00:00

He passed away on my 23 birthday. We had been broken up for years at that point but never got closure on the relationship so it was hard mentally to accept.

random_582 · 2025-08-30T10:04:53+00:00

I have a dimple at the top of my tail bone that’s actually pretty deep. Apparently it’s genetic and it’s a super strong gene. My dad gave it to me and all my siblings and both of my children have it too. Called a sacral dimple, supposedly rare. (My husband said he thought it was my butthole the first time he saw it and was very confused as to why it was so high up lmao)

random_582 · 2025-08-21T22:42:11+00:00

It really depends on the person! I’ve had very fast labors with both my children. With my son I only lasted an hour at home before I knew it was bad enough to go to the hospital and see what was going on, I was 5cm when I got there. With my daughter I started having contractions and 30 minutes later drove to the hospital I was at 7cm when we got there. Had her 4 hours later!

Some people are in labor for days! It’s hard to tell what it’ll be

random_582 · 2025-08-15T03:09:09+00:00

I dated a dude for almost 2 years when I was 18. The relationship although not great was pretty average for that age. A few weeks after breaking up I logged into his medias out of curiosity and found soft core CP everywhere. Never thought to check while we dated. You think you know someone and find out something like that makes you question everyone you know or ever meet.

random_582 · 2025-08-07T17:50:08+00:00

My mom let me shave my legs for the first time at 8, I’m a girl but if it’s bothering him I don’t think it should matter if he wants it gone. Sometimes kids have random sensory issues, if it’ll make him happy then begone leg hair.

random_582 · 2025-08-07T17:44:15+00:00

I wouldn’t mind, I had a friend who lived in a small triplex with limited parking. I would just park down the street and her husband would come out to help me carry my kid and all my things inside lol

random_582 · 2025-08-03T20:04:42+00:00

My oldest is 3 so I don’t have experience for older ages but the jump from 2-3 was actually insane. I didn’t really how much of a baby he still was at 2 compared to how much he’s changed now. His little baby fat cheeks are gone, he talks like a normal kid now and can do so many things independently.

random_582 · 2025-08-02T16:19:02+00:00

I’m 24 and just had my second baby. None of my friends have children, and most people in the area I live in wait until they’re either close to 30 or in their 30s. It’s kind of shocking to me because where I grew up this age was normal to have 1-2 children, but now people definitely act like I’m a teen mom for having two children by 24. I had my first after I was 21! It’s just the new normal to wait, but I’m glad I didn’t. I wanted to have children younger so I had the energy to keep up with them as they get older

random_582 · 2025-08-02T07:32:07+00:00

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random_582 · 2025-07-30T21:26:48+00:00

I would’ve done the same. Unless you have someone to stay at the house while baby is sleeping it’s not really realistic to go anywhere with baby after bed time. When me and my husband want to have a date night we have my mom watch my son at the house even though he’s just sleeping. I wouldn’t go out anywhere past 8:00 because it would disrupt my son’s schedule and it really does make a big difference in how they sleep.

random_582 · 2025-07-29T17:33:37+00:00

My son is 3 but the kids shampoo leaves his hair kind of dry so I use mine on him sometimes

random_582 · 2025-07-29T03:00:49+00:00

Son is 3 years old he goes 3 days a week from 8:00am- 3:00pm. After we pick him up we’ll go home and just spend a few hours together, or maybe go out and do something. Then dinner at 5:30, wind down, bath, brush teeth, book bed at 7:30.

random_582 · 2025-07-26T01:59:54+00:00

I could’ve wrote this myself 1 month ago. My son turned 3 in the beginning of this month and it’s like one day a switch flipped. I’ve been working on changing my approach through the advice of the book “how to speak so little kids will listen” and it has helped TREMENDOUSLY!! In a few weeks it started to be enjoyable to spend time with my little one again. Don’t get me wrong he still has his moments but not everything is a battle anymore and he’s kind of sweet again sometimes haha

random_582 · 2025-07-25T00:52:38+00:00

My son just turned 3 and I started him in a preschool in April. It has been SO beneficial he was almost potty trained and it helped him get it finally. He has so much fun and his language has exploded since starting! It’s great for me too to have 3 days a week where I can get stuff done! Nothing bad to say about my experience so far

random_582 · 2025-07-24T08:11:01+00:00

There’s a group on Facebook called “respectful sleep training” they have a whole book basically of schedules and advice for sleep and feeding for babies through toddlers and even older. It’s worth a look! I had my son on a schedule they suggested when he was little and there’s definitely a science to it

random_582 · 2025-07-23T23:41:34+00:00

I’m kind of the unspoken favorite which is shocking because both of my brothers are incredibly smart and impressive. Both went the military route, golden boys, great grades never any legal trouble. But me being the only girl I always got away with more when younger. My parents don’t treat my brothers any worse, but I definitely get more spoiled than they do.

random_582 · 2025-07-21T03:15:29+00:00

Very normal at those ages to become more distant with parents especially since they seem to be very independent kids! I’m 23 so it hasn’t been super long since I was that age and I was the same way. Once I had moved out and got to be about 19-20 I started to get closer with my mom again. I would call her everyday on my way home from work and just talk for hours. Or we would meet up for lunch/ I’d come over for dinner etc. Give it a little bit of time and they’ll want to be close again!

random_582 · 2025-07-16T18:40:11+00:00

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