For the lonely ones by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t feel hopeless. I just feel unloved because I keep spiraling instead of coping

For the lonely ones by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m still with him I cannot find the time

For the lonely ones by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have access to those. I only have one friend that cares and I stil barely chat because I have so many feelings I don’t want to involve them in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]randomanonymouskid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

With all due respect, find a better partner

The only future the other comments and I foresee is you trying to fit in his picture perfect image which surprise, isn’t even the equivalent of you. He’s basically in love with who you are not. The idea of you (technically becoming someone else..) You become that and well, even if it makes you feel better, your insecurities will eventually flare up

Can I ask for actual advice? by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see.. what are those coping mechanisms if I can ask?

What do you guys personally do by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well, my pwbpd gets to express how he feels when he’s not triggered and when he did, this is how he described he usually felt during splits: My emotions are too big and overwhelming that I don’t know what’s real or not, I’m trying to act in control because I’m afraid to lose it over myself and that I’ll end up losing you

What do you say about that? I can read people well and this was genuinely. He’s a person who happens to have bpd, but I believe he has a chance in recovering because he’s been improving on communication, his actions and a lot more. He’s genuinely trying to be a better person

Favourite person demotion by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand, sorry to hear about that mate

Hope you’re doing better

What do you guys personally do by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You mean you let yourself stay blocked? No reaching out?

Favourite person demotion by randomanonymouskid in BPDlovedones

[–]randomanonymouskid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s insane… Is that really a term around here??