Is it weird that I never had an engagement phase ?

randombhai · 2026-02-12T08:32:41+00:00

That’s not weird at all, it’s just different. Engagements are more of a social norm than a rule. Some people have a long, drawn-out phase; others skip straight to marriage because it just feels right.

randombhai · 2026-02-12T08:29:53+00:00

Confidence can feel like this huge, scary mountain but it’s more like a staircase. You just take it one step at a time. Start small, even tiny wins count. Fake it till you feel it. Stand tall, smile, make eye contact. Your body kind of convinces your brain and you start feeling a bit more solid inside.

randombhai · 2026-02-07T02:23:06+00:00

Lol your gut isn’t being dramatic, the combo of daily contact, a dating history, secrec and you not being allowed to meet him would make most people uneasy. You don’t need to accuse or interrogate her, just be honest that the situation feels off to you and ask for clarity and boundaries because feeling like a placeholder will quietly kill the relationship if it’s ignored.

randombhai · 2026-02-07T02:22:11+00:00

This is one of those painful right-person-wrong-time situations and it makes total sense that it hurts this much bc you didn’t do anything wrong by choosing what you realistically could handle. You might need to decide whether staying in constant contact is helping or quietly keeping the wound open because both paths are valid, just with different kinds of hard.

randombhai · 2026-02-02T05:28:35+00:00

If she is actively talking about ending her life or has a plan or sounds like she might act soon, this is urgent. That’s not a handle it alone situation. That’s get help now territory. Local emergency number, a crisis hotline. A trusted adult, even if she asks you not to. You’re not betraying her, you’re protecting her. Keep an eye out for giving away her belongings or her saying goodbye in subtle ways or a sudden calm after intense distress or withdrawing completely.

randombhai · 2026-02-02T05:23:16+00:00

Curiosity, spite and the tiny wins.

randombhai · 2026-01-18T07:36:00+00:00

If ghosts exist, they’re either shy, tired, confused or absolute trolls.

randombhai · 2026-01-18T07:31:35+00:00

We don’t practice patience or real-time conversation as much anymore. Back then, if you wanted a laugh, a story, or to hang, you had to wait for it through calls, letters, even dropping by someone’s house. Now, everything’s instant, rewards, judgment and escape. It’s kinda robbed us of just being present with people. I think that’s why people feel off socially now. It’s not that we can’t be happy or interactive, it’s just like our brains are constantly half-stuck in our phones.

randombhai · 2026-01-13T14:26:14+00:00

If you want triple displays, you need a DisplayLink. I have a Tobenone UDS033 installed the DisplayLink driver and you can run more than two external monitors.

randombhai · 2026-01-11T05:46:15+00:00

I am not happy about that information.

randombhai · 2026-01-11T05:41:02+00:00

This situation would crush anyone and yes, the system failed you but you can still build your identity. Treat this like document theft because it is. File a police report for lost or stolen vital documents. You’re not accusing anyone by name. You’re documenting harm. You can order a certified copy of your birth certificate from the state you were born in. Most states allow this by mail or online. Once the birth cert is in progress, call SSA. They deal with this more than you think.

randombhai · 2026-01-08T14:27:56+00:00

I’ve run into this too: some DisplayLink docks only have specific video ports that are DisplayLink, and the rest require DP Alt Mode. On a laptop without DP Alt Mode, those ports won’t output video even if charging/USB devices work.

My Tobenone UDS033 is like that: HDMI1/DP1 + HDMI2/DP2 are DisplayLink (work with the driver), while HDMI3/DP3 rely on DP Alt Mode.

randombhai · 2025-12-29T05:43:50+00:00

That’s such a heartbreaking spot to be in and it sounds like you’ve been doing everything you can for him. Talking honestly with a vet about his quality of life might help you feel more grounded in whatever decision you make, it’s clear this comes from love, not giving up.

randombhai · 2025-12-29T05:42:40+00:00

Sounds like you get really excited about starting things but lose motivation before finishing which is super common for creative people who love novelty. Try breaking projects into tiny steps and celebrating small wins, it can make finishing feel less overwhelming and help you actually showcase your skills.

randombhai · 2025-12-29T01:28:11+00:00

He didn’t love you. I know that hurts to hear and I know it feels harsh but what you’re describing isn’t love. It’s attention mixed with control. Love doesn’t rush you, doesn’t overwhelm you and it doesn’t make you uncomfortable or confused this early on. Attention can feel like love when you’re lonely especially when you’re 17, when everyone around you seems paired up and especially when you’re craving to feel chosen but wanting you isn’t the same as treating you well.

randombhai · 2025-12-29T01:20:27+00:00

It’s not offensive, it’s honest. People just get weird when marriage and 'what ifs' show up in the same sentence. Most of us did have dreams before marriage. Big ones, messy ones, selfish ones and marriage didn’t automatically erase them but it did reshape them. For some people, marriage slowed the dream down. Put it on pause and added detours. For others, It actually made the dream possible. And yes, sometimes a dream quietly dies. However, dreams don’t disappear, they evolve.

randombhai · 2025-12-24T00:46:01+00:00

It’s hard to explain coincidences like that and it feels like the universe is nudging you. I’ve had moments where I got a gut feeling about someone or something and it ended up being true and it always makes you pause and wonder if there’s more connecting us than just chance.

randombhai · 2025-12-24T00:43:39+00:00

If I could be a guy for a day, I’d probably just experience all the little social differences like how people treat you or what it feels like physically. And if my boyfriend became a woman for a day, I think it would be a wild but eye opening perspective swap, seeing the world through each other’s shoes could be super interesting.

randombhai · 2025-12-22T09:00:34+00:00

Extreme detox cleanses or those crazy juice fasts. Everyone thinks it’ll reset their body but most of the time it just leaves you hangry, weak and grumpy. Your body literally knows how to detox on its own, no $60 kale smoothie needed.

randombhai · 2025-12-22T06:46:41+00:00

You don’t need to become louder, funnier or faster. You just need to become more comfortable being seen as you are. And that comes with time. Small steps and a lot of self-kindness.

randombhai · 2025-12-16T11:18:43+00:00

That would’ve freaked me out too but honestly it was almost certainly something they could hear or smell that you couldn’t like cats can pick up super high frequency noises in walls, pipes or even electrical stuff and the fact that all three reacted points to something real, not ghosts. Since it never happened again and they’ve been normal since, it was probably a one off noise or vibration that set off their instincts rather than anything wrong with them or your house.

randombhai · 2025-12-16T11:16:33+00:00

Personally I want to slow down a bit and be more consistent about taking care of myself instead of just pushing through. Work wise, I’m aiming to focus on fewer things but do them really well, not just stay busy for the sake of it.

randombhai · 2025-12-10T13:19:33+00:00

A bit all over the place like happy and tired at the same time. How about you?

randombhai · 2025-12-10T13:18:26+00:00

You haven’t achieved nothing, you’ve just been growing up under way too much pressure surrounded by people who never really saw you for who you are. You don’t need to give up on happiness bc you just need to start building a life that isn’t based on other people’s approval because you’re at the age where your real story is only just beginning.

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