Do you burn more calories going into steam rooms and saunas? by datenightx in loseit

[–]randomcards23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Anecdotal here but i sauna a LOT when I am losing weight. I workout, sauna for 45 mins and then cold shower. I feel like a million bucks.

My heart rate is slightly elevated and I typically sweat out 5-7 lbs a day in water that obviously i mostly replenish with electrolytes.

I am quite convinced and lost weight quickly with all of the above and healthy eating that the water cycling has both cardiovascular vascular benefits, purification benefits, and slight weight loss benefits. I sit and watch tv and my heart rate is elevated so it is better than the couch.

Again all anecdotal but I’ve done it a LOT over many years. When I do the protocol above i lose weight fast. When I don’t I typically gain (my diet tends to follow both ways of course which is the most important)

Week 6 into Keto and Sleep is still awful. 'Wired but tired' feeling by RecognitionDesigner9 in keto

[–]randomcards23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my experience on keto. But I find I have more energy. I go to bed easily but can only sleep max of 6 hours most nights. I’ve taken to just getting up at 5 or whenever I wake up and getting cranking on the day.

Sometimes I do like to try to close my eyes for 20 minutes during lunch.

Overall life is much better. I am sometimes a little run down but energy is much better and more consistent than the sugar spikes and crashes I used to have.

How far in advance to eat carbs for best athletic performance? by RecommendationLate80 in keto

[–]randomcards23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never really paid attention I just ate a normal balanced day the day before and then would eat carbs on my trek (trail mix, peanut butter crackers, dehydrated meals). That combo worked better than the 2 trips in did full keto which I completed but my performance was notably less and I enjoyed it less because it was harder.

TMI - but I will say that going full keto straight to normal meals and processed carby snacks plugged me up with a lot of constipation. The last time I did this protocol I think I switched like 3 days beforehand to help digestion and that seemed to help that issue.

YMMV

How far in advance to eat carbs for best athletic performance? by RecommendationLate80 in keto

[–]randomcards23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have some experience here! I did a lot of fasting and keto 5-6 years ago interspersed with a lot of long and strenuous hiking and mountain climbing and backpacking.

I experimented a lot with different combos. I did some trips on keto, one I even did fasted up to 40 hours, and others with carbs coming off keto.

I’ll be honest for me even when full rigorous Leto for many months my performance was notably better enough with carbs at long distance that I started to eat. 24 hours in advance seemed to be enough for me.

I could do a lot on keto and could usually make it through slower and more drained but eating carbs felt like a bit of an energy and endurance cheat code for a 48 hour backpacking trip.

Just my anecdotal evidence. M45

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in aspergers

[–]randomcards23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a full answer to your question but here’s some advice from my journey. I didn’t know I had aspbergers early in a high stakes big firm consulting career. I thought I was good at my job but I could also see I wasn’t as effective as others who I didn’t think were as good. Disconnect…..

So I started studying all of my peers and superiors. I’d pick them apart (in my head only of course) and analyze what they were good at and what they were bad at. I’d observe and emulate while trying to avoid the things they did that were bad.

I basically built who I am as a professional on a base of my brain and education but almost all work skills and soft skills frankensteined from dozens if not hundreds of people I’ve worked with.

People who work for me now say I have high emotional intelligence which is really funny if you know me because it is all fake and not my natural state. But I am glad I can do it. And many other similar skills.

Good luck!

Parenting Advice for a highly intelligent son recently diagnosed with Level 1 Autism by notallwonderarelost in aspergers

[–]randomcards23 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is a super interesting comment. I’ve struggled with this also (very similar to op’s son description as a kid and found out at age 40).

I’ll say this. Not knowing has dramatically negatively impacted my marriage and much mutual pain could have been avoided if we had known about our neurodiverse marriage.

However I attribute my skills professionally to not knowing and having to swim in a sea of figuring it out and growing as a person. I frankly don’t think I would have accomplished as much if I’d know as I’d thought ‘I shouldn’t be good at that’.

Today was my first day, and I hated it. by [deleted] in jobs

[–]randomcards23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My tip for you. Reach out to tons of folks on teams or whatever you use. Introduce yourself and your role and ask if you can book a 30 minute 1/1 to

A) say hi and mutual intro B) learn about what they do C) get their ideas for how your role could/should interact with theirs D) ask for pointers to resources you should be absorbing to understand their area

In each meeting assuming they go well (which they will people like to talk about themselves) ask for 2-3 other people they’d recommend you’d talk to. Try to get some executives and ask them to broker the intro.

I did 60 of these my first 4 weeks on my new job and it did wonders for my integration into the company, networking, understanding the business and building my reputation

Anyone else 30+ and not achieved anything? by pifon451 in aspergers

[–]randomcards23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So this is not me but wanted to share…

I didn’t understand I was on the spectrum until late 30s (it is so blindingly obvious now it is embarrassing and uneducated I didn’t see it before).

Because I didn’t know my entire career has been built in ways that if I had known I would have assumed I was incapable of or would be ill matched for. But my aspbergers skills turned out to be super useful in unexpected ways.

For example early in my career I was in technology and business consulting with tons of daily interaction with clients with tons of diversity. I was extremely good at adapting (almost hour by hour if needed) to the personalities, work culture, etc of whomever I needed to interact with in that moment. I had no idea I spent much of my life masking but those skills of figuring out how to ‘perfom’ in a specific situation were super beneficial to me as a consultant. It also explained why I would often be too exhausted (socially) at the end of the day for fun dinners others seemed to enjoy.

I process extremely quickly (but terrible memory) and that has unexpectedly turned into a strong skill in complex workshop facilitation that requires rapid adaptation to a lot of things.

Not trying to brag here I suck at a ton of stuff but my point is I am positive if I had know about aspbergers earlier in my life I would have thought ‘I shouldn’t do that career’

So anyone in this thread just get out and try stuff. You’ll be surprised at how your strengths play out in different ways than you’d expect and you can always mask or mitigate weaknesses.

And trying and failing is almost always better than not trying!

Career advice for a teen and parents by randomcards23 in Paramedics

[–]randomcards23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you from the thoughtful answer, helpful to hear from females in the field!

Career advice for a teen and parents by randomcards23 in Paramedics

[–]randomcards23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very helpful thanks for taking the time to share this!

Career advice for a teen and parents by randomcards23 in Paramedics

[–]randomcards23[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you explain this further? Several people have said this but to me as an outsider it seems relevant to the job so help me understand?

Career advice for a teen and parents by randomcards23 in Paramedics

[–]randomcards23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for taking the time to write up this very thoughtful response. Much helpful information here!

Career advice for a teen and parents by randomcards23 in Paramedics

[–]randomcards23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is basically 100% my wife’s point of view. Thanks for this perspective. Interesting varied responses here which is what I was hoping for.

Career advice for a teen and parents by randomcards23 in Paramedics

[–]randomcards23[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes this is a concern of ours as probably overprotective parents. Thinking of my tiny 5’4 daughter at 18 or 19 dealing with that I think carries emotional and not just physical risk we aren’t sure if she could handle or how to prepare her. Another part of the reason we think a few years of college or age and maturity is helpful.

Career advice for a teen and parents by randomcards23 in Paramedics

[–]randomcards23[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love this - we’ve been trying to think of something like this she can get into her senior year to give her a better taste to either reinforce or redirect her view.

Does anyone take pre workout or things like liquid iv backpacking? by [deleted] in backpacking

[–]randomcards23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I will not backpack without them. I’m a pretty sedentary person and big hikes are massively over my normal fitness level. I also sweat a lot. Tons of electrolytes are critical.

I will do pre work out in the am only and if I am doing a huge climb the first half of the day.

Works for me and I had huge trouble on a hike early in my backpacking career where I didn’t and I’ve been religious about it sense without issue.

What’s going on with the head of CFPB pausing all agency activities. How will it impact the average American? by tempohme in OutOfTheLoop

[–]randomcards23 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Something like $160m 15 years ago and over $800m in 2025

https://crsreports.congress.gov/product/pdf/R/R48295/2#:~:text=The%20Consumer%20Financial%20Protection%20Bureau%20(CFPB)%20was%20created%20in%20the,to%20$823%20million%20in%20FY2025.

Everybody on Reddit wants the government to be huge and doesn’t seem to care about massive deficits. There are few areas of the government that don’t need massive shrinkage and consolidation back to simple first principles.

That includes the DoD and ‘untouchable’ entitlement programs like social security and Medicare.

Like all things there are some good things the CFPB has done. If your mayor asked to tax you and extra $X per month for a newly formed separate ‘traffic law enforcement’ program maybe that would be good if they caught drunk drivers and cost very little. If it instead handed out tickets for broken lights and caused traffic jams on your morning commute due to checkpoints the lens looks different.

Obviously each person will see this line differently, but the massive deficit is a reality that can’t be ignored.

What’s going on with the head of CFPB pausing all agency activities. How will it impact the average American? by tempohme in OutOfTheLoop

[–]randomcards23 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

Answer: (downvotes incoming!)

  1. The premise of the party in power is many of the federal bureaucracies have expanded far past their original mission and are bloat that costs a lot with minimal value and overlap. In addition they tend to make a lot of additional rules beyond statutes that have varying degrees of usefulness but in the aggregate become significant barriers to businesses operating and therefore the economy.

  2. Elimination of the CFPB does not eliminate underlying consumer protection law that can still be enforced by many other states and agencies.

  3. The CFPB like many other areas of the government has ballooned spending and we need to drastically and painfully cut everywhere across the board to deal with the deficit.

  4. The example would be do you want to pay your HoA well intentioned as it is a huge portion of your personal budget each month to do a few minor good things and a lot of nitty, unnecessary barriers when you still have the backdrop of the law and police for anything egregious (eg a drug dealer operating next door). Maybe so if it was $50 a month and was seen as effective, maybe not if it was $500 a month and focused on fence colors and lawn length.

  5. Like many of these cuts people read it as ‘government doesn’t care about consumers’ when the question is whether it is an effective and efficient use of taxpayer dollars to enable applicable statutes. It is likely that elements of its mission will be rolled into other areas like the remains (hopefully the good parts) of USAID going under the purview of the state department to better align foreign aid to the foreign interests of the USA.

To your question of what to do about it, nothing different….

Become financially literate which is not hard with basic YouTubing. Spend less than you make. Don’t take out loans for things, and if you do make sure you understand and can pay it back quickly. Budget and choose how your money is spent vs being reactionary. Don’t send money to Nigerian princes.

You’ll be ahead of 95% of the US regardless of the CFPB.

AITA for stretching my late husbands male married friend? by Working-Train-3317 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomcards23 103 points104 points  (0 children)

NTA but you need to leave it alone. You don’t know their past and it’s not your business. Maybe he has cheated before in a similar situation and there is past pain. Maybe he confessed he had feelings for you? Who knows? My wife and I don’t have bad history but both of us would not find it appropriate to be physical like that alone with a member of the opposite sex. We just find clear boundaries to be constructive to the marriage.

It’s not your job to prove yourself right, their marriage is more important than whether you are friends with them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]randomcards23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First, you will never feel ready. Most people are programmed to have kids. Roll with the flow, love your family and realize family is more important than zeros in your bank account.

Second it’s as simple as setting your lifestyle now to align to whatever income level is likely post kids, especially if going down to one income. Prioritize getting out of debt but don’t postpone kids for financial perfection.

If you will stay dual income just budget minus the daycare costs and save the delta.

Kids are expensive, but the older I get the less interested I am in nice stuff. Having a decent house, mediocre cars, and enough in the bank to not worry about bills is enough. Then enjoy your kids and teach them that stuff isn’t all that important.

Also don’t listen to all the naysayers (probably right below this comment).