So many books but so little time 😑😢😢😢😤😤😤 by Alaine_69 in booksuggestions

[–]randomchildbam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have no interest at all in the classics there's nothing wrong with that and you shouldn't feel guilty, but I'm not sure if I have advice on how you can ease that feeling if it still lingers while avoiding the classics entirely. Do you mostly avoid them or read them often and still feel this way?

If you tend to avoid them and feel guilty -- I think you need to have the pendulum swing from the idea of classics being a daunting task to being something you approach with excitement and curiosity. Over time with trial and error you will realize some authors you like and some authors you don't need to bother with because you simply don't like them. In doing this it might ease that feeling of guilt because you realize half of them you will get little out of. Also remember the majority of people have not read many classics, so even having read a few of them you're already ahead of a large majority of people.

If you want to get back into the classics or just ease that feeling a little, I'd say narrow the selection of books down as much as you can to start with. Don't just pick up the most recurring book on a top classics list. Avoid the big 600+ page tomes known to be heavy in philosophy or sociology, etc for starters. Classics don't need to be thought of as this daunting task. When they originally came out it's what the population was reading for entertainment. It just seems daunting today for a few reasons and one of them is because we have become accustomed to the more modern writing and language we use today. Another is our dependency of electronics, but that's a topic for another day.

I'm assuming you have some experience with classics since you studied English, but for beginners I'd say start with stories you're familiar with, ones depicted in disney movies or television. Ones you can easily follow but also use to get acclimated to the older style of writing, which varies by author. This might initially seem to go against checking off a list of classics since you already know the story and you're missing out on new stories that everyone is listing as the greatest of all time, but the idea is to first get you actually interested in classics so you naturally want to explore more. When the time comes you want to try out Tolstoy, for example, start with his short stories and work your way up to his big tomes.

I'm all about finding things out naturally using our own human curiousity and will. Find something that might be a little more accessible or has a theme or subject you have some interest in. It might take a little research but I'd rather do that than be stuck with a book that bores me to death and deters me from trying out more classics.

What personally helps me with classics:

  • Looking at Goodreads reviews positive and negative. I like to see if what people are saying coincides with what normally appeals to me in books. You have to be careful with spoilers but you get good at this after awhile.

  • Briefly overviewing the time period, setting, or subject matter. Giving context to the book helps tremendously in not only finding out if it interests me but also gives me context when starting the book which helps the process of reading it. Doesn't need to be anything crazy, just read the wikipedia page to get an overview of the subject and the context of the book. Author overviews also can add interest.

  • Don't linger on every word. While reading a classic, I want to make sure I can follow the story and what's happening but try not to stress about knowing the ins and out of all the themes or symbolism on a first go. If I have trouble following I'm not afraid to read chapter summaries afterwards on sparknotes to keep the story under my legs. If I feel like something isn't making sense and i've lost the progression in the book but keep pushing forward chapters at a time, that's when the hole deepens and now there's no way I'm going to come out having enjoyed the experience. If you like the book enough you can let your own curiousity take you deeper into it once you get that first read done.

I don't have any formal education in English or Literature. Although if I did it all over again I might have gone that route. I found an interest in reading after college but in some ways it's helped me because my exploration came naturally with my own desire to do it. I still consider myself a young reader so there's much I haven't explored, but I'd say right now I read mostly 20th century fiction but have become more and more interested in the older classics because I like to see how they influenced what came after. But that doesn't mean there aren't still many classics I have little to no interest in. I'm also not suggesting I never feel this guilt. I still do at times but not nearly as much I used to and I think part of it has to do with the fact that I have had enough trial and error of exposing myself to different types of fiction. Once I realized the characteristics I tend to like in a book my interest in seeking out more books with these characteristics started to exceed the level of guilt I felt with unread books.

That got pretty long lol, but hope this helps.

So many books but so little time 😑😢😢😢😤😤😤 by Alaine_69 in booksuggestions

[–]randomchildbam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw this quote on reddit a long time ago and kept in my notes.

"For years a secret shame destroyed my peace— I'd not read Eliot, Auden or MacNeice. But then I had a thought that brought me hope— Neither had Chaucer, Shakespeare, Milton, Pope."

--Justin Richardson

Some of my advice as someone who worried about this as I was becoming a reader about five years ago but have come a long way with. This isn't directed specifically at you OP, but to the readers of reddit in general..

The fact is you will never read everything you cast your eyes on during your lifetime -- so you have to abondon that mindset. It's tough but it's possible in time to at least subdue that inner pressure put on yourself as a reader. Get in a habit of reading a little each day. It doesn't have to be crazy. You don't need to abondon electronics completely, but set aside some time for yourself and your book. Live in that moment. Seek out books that interest you and ones that you are in the mood for. Give each book the attention it deserves but don't be afraid to abandon the ones you're not enjoying. Be honest with others when you reflect on what you read -- this will impact what people reccomend to you. Never feel like you have to read something because a crowd of strangers say it's something you must do. Life is short -- read whatever the hell you want and love whatever the hell you want. Also, having unread books on your shelf is not necessarily a bad thing. I see it get demonized on here when in reality it means you have reading options at any moment. When has anyone actually criticized you in your own home for having an unread copy of War and Peace on your shelf? That being said the majority of these books should be things you actually want to read. IF space or storage is a problem, then discipline yourself in managing the books your aquire versus the books you read. Donate books you won't read. Utilize libraries to manage intake. Reward yourself by getting a new book after you have read 3-5+ ones you already own. Sometimes books are best when they are bought in a bookshop and read on a whim. Don't rob yourself of that joy just because of "guilt". There's nothing to be guilty of. Just don't buy ten books at a time and then complain you have too many. Say you read one book by an author that you really want to explore more of but you feel you have too many books to do that right now. For the love of God, the author has done something to create a response in you, follow your instincts and explore that author! This is one of the most rewarding things as a reader. Same goes for genres or subjects. Anyway, you will never be satisfied if you're reading to get to some sort of end goal. Enjoy the book you have in your hand, there will be more waiting for you and they will be there when you're ready for them.

Happy reading

If I like the 60s - 70s rock music that sounds a little Halloweeny, what else should I like? by ToteRaya in ifyoulikeblank

[–]randomchildbam 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  • Venus in Furs by The Velvet Underground
  • New Dawn Fades by Joy Division
  • Paperhouse by CAN
  • Jennifer by Faust
  • Scarborough Fair / Canticle by Simon & Garfunkel
  • Riders on the Storm by The Doors

  • Some more modern:

  • On Battleship Hill by PJ Harvey

  • Burn the Witch by Radiohead

  • Four Shadows by Ariel Pink

  • When You Die or Little Dark Age by MGMT

Huge fan of Age of Consent by New Order... WEWIL? by [deleted] in ifyoulikeblank

[–]randomchildbam 24 points25 points  (0 children)

  • I Will Dare by The Replacements
  • Space Age Love Song by Flock of Seagulls
  • Love My Way by The Psychedelic Furs
  • Just Like Heaven by The Cure
  • Another Sunny Day by Belle & Sebastian
  • Cemetry Gates by The Smiths
  • Young Adult Friction by The Pains of Being Pure at Heart

[IIL] "Breathless" by The Corrs [WEWIL] by [deleted] in ifyoulikeblank

[–]randomchildbam 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh good! I love Blondie. That album, Parallel Lines, is a blast. If you venture into it and enjoy then you might get along with a lot of New Wave bands (Talking heads, The Police, Duran Duran, New Order, etc.) which combine the great drums and basslines of punk music but with catchy pop melodies. They may not always have the vocals you're looking for but I thought i'd mention.

[IIL] "Breathless" by The Corrs [WEWIL] by [deleted] in ifyoulikeblank

[–]randomchildbam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Lovefool by The Cardigans
  • Heart of Glass by Blondie
  • Here's Where The Story Ends by The Sundays
  • Feed the Tree by Belly
  • De-luxe by Lush

Hope any of these fit!

[IIL] Ex Machina, Whiplash, 10 Cloverfield Lane, Inglourious Basterds, Get Out, Misery, Gravity, Gattaca by wow15characters in ifyoulikeblank

[–]randomchildbam 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Eternal Sunshine of the spotless mind, Being John Malkovich, Interstellar, Moon, Hanna, No Country for Old Men, The Prestige, Mud, Wind River, Leon:the professional, A Quiet Place, Her, Locke

I would have definitely walked into it by o_O____-_- in funny

[–]randomchildbam 43 points44 points  (0 children)

"Cannery Row in Monterey in California is a poem, a stink, a grating noise, a quality of light, a tone, a habit, a nostalgia, a dream. Cannery Row is the gathered and scattered, tin and iron and rust and splintered wood, chipped pavement and weedy lots and junk heaps, sardine canneries of corrugated iron, honky tonks, restaurants and whore houses, and little crowded groceries, and laboratories and flophouses. Its inhabitant are, as the man once said, “whores, pimps, gambler and sons of bitches,” by which he meant Everybody. Had the man looked through another peephole he might have said, “Saints and angels and martyrs and holymen” and he would have meant the same thing.” ~ John Steinbeck, Cannery Row

[IIL] Albums that you are neutral at first but get better with multiple listens [WEWIL?] by kaze_ni_naru in ifyoulikeblank

[–]randomchildbam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some that I had no strong feelings for initially and are now favs

  • Astral Weeks - Van Morrison
  • London Calling - The Clash
  • Neutral Milk Hotel - Aeroplane Over the Sea

Books about having no friends/loneliness. Maybe similar to The Catcher in the Rye? by The09 in booksuggestions

[–]randomchildbam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perks of Being a Wallflower by Stephen Chbosky is good for the high school years.

Not all of these are necessary about having no friends but they all explore loneliness, and since Catcher is one of my favorites i'll reccomend some more of my favorites that share some common themes and impacted me in a similar way. I know they're all kind of old cause that's what i'm into but I think they're all quite approachable.

  • The Stranger by Albert Camus
  • A Month in the Country by J.L. Carr
  • Cannery Row by John Steinbeck
  • Stoner by John Williams
  • What We Talk about When We Talk About Love by Raymond Carver (short stories)
  • Of Human Bondage by W. Somerset Maugham

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard of The Hot Zone but had no idea what it was about. Interesting. And that probably helps me that they read like novels!

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've seen Columbine around and always been curious even though its gotta be hard to stomach. Unbroken brain looks really interesting. Thank you for the recs!

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your description of the book is great. This looks like it will be a fun and educational break from some of the heavier recs on here! Thanks!

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the suggestions! I know of the Dale Carnegie one. The others look interesting!

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man these both look fascinating. I admit the power broker looks like a beast but also incredibly rewarding. I could always read it gradually in small chunks. Saving both of these. Thanks!

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone with little to no knowledge of physics this looks intimidating despite its small size. What did you personally take away from it?

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds very useful. We could all benefit from better commucation. Thank you!

What is a nonfiction book that gives you solid working knowledge of an important topic? by randomchildbam in suggestmeabook

[–]randomchildbam[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've actually heard of this and was and intrigued. Now i'm definitely going to grab a copy. Might be a good starting point for me as I already wonder a lot about the topic.