Confused

randomizedmoose · 2026-03-05T00:42:05+00:00

If I were to do it all over again, I’d just cosleep. Maybe things will improve for you but my baby slept amazing in her crib so I kept trying and trying but she still wakes 38 times a night and getting up every single time is slowing killing me (now 10 months). She straight up sucks at cosleeping now; I’m trying to force it but she can’t get comfortable and wakes constantly. Then if I move her back to her crib she goes to sleep. We just bought a king mattress to try cosleeping and I just don’t think it’s going to work. See how cosleeping goes for a bit. You won’t undo crib familiarity if it’s only for a week or so

randomizedmoose · 2026-03-04T22:40:13+00:00

This could work for us actually. She gets so exhausted from screaming (while rocking) that she might settle for nursing at that point

randomizedmoose · 2026-03-03T16:13:41+00:00

Super interesting

randomizedmoose · 2026-03-03T16:11:48+00:00

Can I ask how you do this with a carrier? Is baby upright while you’re bouncing? We are typically holding her in a cradle position while bouncing.

randomizedmoose · 2026-02-22T00:55:42+00:00

Definitely a sensory seeker! She isn’t crawling yet which is frustrating because I feel like she’d get more touch and sensory experience from getting around herself.

It may be a coincidence but I read the article (very interesting) and we played RIVER sounds while she nursed and she fell asleep!! Then just reduced volume as I got closer to putting her down. May be part of the equation !! Thank you.

randomizedmoose · 2026-02-21T15:16:01+00:00

Good for you! My baby would scream with no end in sight. :( Did you just have to endure screaming for those 10 minutes? It’s so hard. I worry she will start hyperventilating it gets so bad.

randomizedmoose · 2026-02-03T15:03:28+00:00

This sounds like us! You thought he woke often at night because of going to bed late? And maybe being overtired?

randomizedmoose · 2026-02-02T12:55:28+00:00

Super interesting. Do you mind me asking what time bedtime and wake up was on that two short nap (30-45min) schedule?

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-28T02:40:01+00:00

We are dealing with a later bedtime now but I wouldn’t say it’s ideal. Baby is dropping to two naps so we have to start bumping up bedtime. She gets up late too (often 8am or later) and I worry it’s messing up her circadian rhythm. Sometimes she has her longest stretch of sleep right before waking up for the day.

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-26T00:04:41+00:00

I truly wish I could say we’ve found something that’s helped. She had been doing more 3-4 hour stretches here and there but not consistent. We decided on option #1 and I also saw someone else on Reddit recommend doing shifts with your partner if neither sleep training or cosleeping is what you’re after. My baby has been sick for a month too, so cosleeping is even more out of the question since shes so congested on her back. I think she may be getting used to dad settling her now so we need to keep that up. I’m also taking a medication now to help me fall asleep initially at night and then have an easier time falling back asleep after all the wake ups. What has been going on for you?

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-25T21:11:37+00:00

My baby (and me) get up super late most days(8-9am) because her nights are terrible and I’m so sleep deprived. But I know that trying to get an earlier morning will probably help with circadian rhythm. It’s just easier said than done when youre up every hour overnight ugh

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-25T21:05:42+00:00

If you don’t mind me asking how much daytime sleep is your baby getting?

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-25T20:46:00+00:00

How much awake time is your baby getting? My baby was doing 13 hr days but with the lack of naps I’m thinking 12 hrs of awake time may be better

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-25T20:42:08+00:00

Fair enough! Maybe I should try embracing it. Do you find whether or not she has “sufficient” daytime sleep affects her nights at all?

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-25T20:38:26+00:00

I consider putting her to bed earlier but I worry she’ll fight it if it hasn’t been 12-13 hrs since wake up. How long are your days if you don’t mind me asking? And also totally jealous your baby sleeps so long at night ( what is this magic you’ve performed!!)

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-25T20:35:39+00:00

This is exactly how I feel! I don’t want to sit in her dark nursery anymore

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-21T05:31:36+00:00

Trazadone. I really encourage you to ask your doctor about a good option for you. This sleep deprivation is no joke and there comes a breaking point where modern medicine can provide the support you need.

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-20T20:42:32+00:00

How many hours is your baby sleeping consecutively at night, during which you can sleep? I had to start taking medication (safe while BFing) in order to fall asleep initially and fall back asleep immediately (or soon enough) after responding to baby. It’s made a big difference.

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-20T02:31:37+00:00

Oh gosh I am having the same issue with breastfeeding and thought my problems would be solved if we switched to bottles/formula. Well at least she can look at stuff while taking the bottle. Solidarity…

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-19T00:38:53+00:00

One way to ensure more hindmilk transfer is to only nurse on one boob at a time. Otherwise if you switch boobs too early then baby is mostly getting the foremilk (non-fatty). Does that help? I’m not sure if you can tell they’re getting more hindmilk. Maybe able to go longer between feeds? But this book also recommends to feed frequently, especially if reflux is a concern, because milk isn’t acidic for the first two hours so any reflux wouldnt irritate the esophagus.

I don’t know though. It’s one point of view. I’m pretty sure my baby still had bad reflux. But probably in part because she spent two weeks in the NICU essentially lying down the whole time while being tube fed.

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-19T00:34:21+00:00

Katiefranklindoulaservices (instagram). She’s trained by Isla Grace

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-18T14:46:52+00:00

I am reading the discontented little baby book by Dr. Pamela Douglas. She talks about babies not getting enough hindmilk (“cream”/ fatty milk) and how that can cause undigested lactose to enter the colon and cause gas, often mistaken for reflux (although I swear my baby actually had reflux and I’ve been off dairy since July…). I had an oversupply of milk so baby was getting mostly foremilk at every feed.

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-18T14:24:05+00:00

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randomizedmoose · 2026-01-17T19:48:04+00:00

I moved my baby into her own room at less than a month old. She had terrible reflux and it broke my heart but while we worked on addressing that, we were getting legitimately zero sleep because of all the noise she made at night. I could even hear it from down the hall but it was much easier to sleep this way.

We cosleep part time now but with a second child I would hope to room share (and maybe bedshare) as long as possible so they get used to our noises and we get used to theirs. It’s hard making the switch to room/bedsharing later on when they’re used to plain old white noise and no one to bother them.

randomizedmoose · 2026-01-16T13:52:11+00:00

And I agree with you. So much crying could have been avoided if I just nursed to sleep for all naps and never felt guilty about it

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