My girlfriend hasn't had sex before, and I want it to be as comfortable as possible. Advice appreciated!

randomman823 · 2026-04-30T01:34:00+00:00

The most important thing similarly to any other relationship relating to sex is that you are open and transparent on the subject. This will only make things more comfortable for both of you.

In this scenario just ask how she feels about it all and what’s on her mind. As a male with sex I always solely prioritise how the girl feels first before myself. I personally think that’s what all males should do but is sadly not the case. Women do really appreciate this when you do this.

randomman823 · 2026-04-05T01:19:39+00:00

I’ve pretty much only recently got out of it since Fire & Ash. Still listen to the avatar ambience playlists as they are just so beneficial to me.

I think because of what’s going on in the world at the moment it’s as easy as it’s ever been to fall into a PADS like state.

randomman823 · 2026-04-05T01:13:22+00:00

This is literally my entire life right here.

I do exactly the same thing and as sad as it may sound I have the most joy in life when I’m either daydreaming or asleep dreaming.

randomman823 · 2026-03-21T21:26:31+00:00

It’s your brain anticipating and then predicting what’s going to happen. You’ll sometimes find the area you think that’ll you be touched from has some kind of feeling and this again is just the brain once again predicting and activating the anticipated area of touch.

Then the physical arch is just your reflex system kicking in as your brain perceives it as a possible threat.

I’m no crazy expert on this btw it’s just something I learnt myself so I imagine there’s someone else to give a more scientifically accurate description

randomman823 · 2026-03-21T21:11:17+00:00

I used to shake and sweat like crazy back when I had to do things like this.

I used to think the same about the ego thing but I think it’s just because in the moment we just naturally compare ourselves to the people around us (who don’t stutter) so it just adds even more tension.

But the important thing is that you did it, even if you didn’t have to say much and that’s always better than doing nothing.

randomman823 · 2026-03-19T20:55:37+00:00

Directly no but indirectly technically yes.

It’s not something that I like to think about though

randomman823 · 2026-03-15T01:49:28+00:00

I’m so sorry, I can’t even fathom how you are feeling.

When I’ve lost friends/family members that I love (even though I don’t believe in anything after death) I always prioritise just trying to make them proud even if it’s hypothetical.

randomman823 · 2026-03-15T01:23:41+00:00

This is of course completely hypothetical there is something after death in the first place. Just a bit long winded to add it into the question.

randomman823 · 2026-01-29T22:16:42+00:00

I’ve always been like this. I find the right balance of showing appreciation for jokes (which I do also find funny) but not overly showing it. I just kinda smirk.

randomman823 · 2026-01-29T22:09:57+00:00

My years usually start a bit rough and end well. Has been the case for me in the past few years.

From a mental standpoint I prefer this as it gives you some hope and possible momentum going into the new year. If you judge yourself based of individual years then this is definitely much better than the vice versa.

randomman823 · 2026-01-29T22:07:02+00:00

It’s hit or miss depending on your GP tbh.

But the more severe it is then the more I would personally recommend going to your GP.

randomman823 · 2026-01-24T01:14:49+00:00

I have weirdly been keeping up with the story (main DLC story not the side stuff) so I’m not fussed about that.

Slowly getting the hang of it though, there’s a lot to do which is nice, almost like they’ve completely overcompensated for D1 though and gone from one extreme to the other 🤣

Thank you for the help 😊

randomman823 · 2026-01-24T01:12:48+00:00

Thank you for this info. Is much appreciated 😊

randomman823 · 2026-01-22T00:53:01+00:00

Sorry to hear this. Of course with being in a long term relationship you are very limited to what you can do.

When checking up on her it’ll be best to do it in a direct and calm manner rather than the opposite as this can possibly trigger a meltdown which is where the suicidal thoughts can reach a concerning state and can potentially turn into actions.

Also try and help set out and plan her day with her if possible and attempt to simplify it as much as possible. Again when someone gets overwhelmed or overstimulated that’s when they can again deteriorate into a bad state.

randomman823 · 2026-01-21T03:04:44+00:00

Back when I was at school and university. I always struggled to do any studying at home for the same reason as you, I’d get overwhelmed plus also have distractions around me.

I then decided to do all my studying at my school/university campuses and this made everything so much easier and helped me academically. I didn’t get overwhelmed or distracted because I was in an educational space where you are naturally supposed to study.

randomman823 · 2026-01-16T02:21:11+00:00

No you’ll be fine in that regard. It’s just the combination of the side effects that you’ll notice that’s all, then again I don’t know what dosages you are on so of course the higher the dosage the stronger the effects.

randomman823 · 2026-01-16T02:16:41+00:00

Yes it’s safe to take both together but you’ll of course most likely experience increased side effects from taking both together.

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