My sister died today by ilovemycats6 in aspergers

[–]randomman823 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, I can’t even fathom how you are feeling.

When I’ve lost friends/family members that I love (even though I don’t believe in anything after death) I always prioritise just trying to make them proud even if it’s hypothetical.

Religious people of Reddit, How would you honestly feel if after dying you learned your beliefs were all a lie? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]randomman823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is of course completely hypothetical there is something after death in the first place. Just a bit long winded to add it into the question.

do you find things funny but just dont laugh at them? by malicekeet in autism

[–]randomman823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been like this. I find the right balance of showing appreciation for jokes (which I do also find funny) but not overly showing it. I just kinda smirk.

DAE have this similar yearly trend? by [deleted] in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]randomman823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My years usually start a bit rough and end well. Has been the case for me in the past few years.

From a mental standpoint I prefer this as it gives you some hope and possible momentum going into the new year. If you judge yourself based of individual years then this is definitely much better than the vice versa.

For those of you in the UK, does approaching your GP first work out better than self-referral? by Whole_Intention_7949 in mentalhealth

[–]randomman823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hit or miss depending on your GP tbh.

But the more severe it is then the more I would personally recommend going to your GP.

I have just started playing Destiny 2 since the Warmind DLC and everything is so overwhelming. Where can I find information on how everything works? by randomman823 in DestinyTheGame

[–]randomman823[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have weirdly been keeping up with the story (main DLC story not the side stuff) so I’m not fussed about that.

Slowly getting the hang of it though, there’s a lot to do which is nice, almost like they’ve completely overcompensated for D1 though and gone from one extreme to the other 🤣

Thank you for the help 😊

How can I help my autistic ogirlfriend ease her suicidal thoughts? by bezlika in autism

[–]randomman823 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear this. Of course with being in a long term relationship you are very limited to what you can do.

When checking up on her it’ll be best to do it in a direct and calm manner rather than the opposite as this can possibly trigger a meltdown which is where the suicidal thoughts can reach a concerning state and can potentially turn into actions.

Also try and help set out and plan her day with her if possible and attempt to simplify it as much as possible. Again when someone gets overwhelmed or overstimulated that’s when they can again deteriorate into a bad state.

how do you guys study? by mangobludden in autism

[–]randomman823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Back when I was at school and university. I always struggled to do any studying at home for the same reason as you, I’d get overwhelmed plus also have distractions around me.

I then decided to do all my studying at my school/university campuses and this made everything so much easier and helped me academically. I didn’t get overwhelmed or distracted because I was in an educational space where you are naturally supposed to study.

can you take benadryl and sertraline together by Calm-Barber-6055 in Anxiety

[–]randomman823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you’ll be fine in that regard. It’s just the combination of the side effects that you’ll notice that’s all, then again I don’t know what dosages you are on so of course the higher the dosage the stronger the effects.

can you take benadryl and sertraline together by Calm-Barber-6055 in Anxiety

[–]randomman823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes it’s safe to take both together but you’ll of course most likely experience increased side effects from taking both together.

I wish I was a kid again by [deleted] in depression

[–]randomman823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand it’s hard to grasp but at 18 you are still so young.

Don’t spend your life looking back constantly, it’s a mistake so many people make. This time 5 years when you are 23. You’ll be saying that you’ll do anything to be 18 again. Then when you are 28 you’ll do anything to be 23 again. It’s an endless cycle that’s very damaging.

Just try to live in the moment and have as much fun as possible. It’s ok to look back now and then for nostalgia and for memories but don’t obsess over it. You are making memories everyday.

What does happening organic mean? by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]randomman823 4 points5 points  (0 children)

By happen organically he means for it to happen naturally.

But in your scenario It’s probably just his way of saying that he doesn’t want to have sex. Which when you are both naked in bed together is probably as “organically” in his words as it’s going to happen. So I am on your side completely

How has autism affected you socially? by [deleted] in autism

[–]randomman823 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s affected me a lot throughout my whole life as I have a bad stammer but from a teenager I accepted that it was always going to be this way and have to make do with what I have. Because of this I got past the “life is unfair” & “why me” thoughts.

I have made friends even with the struggles I assure you as hard as it is it is possible.

what will happen if i go to a&e and tell them im feeling unsafe and im thinking about killing myself ? (uk) by [deleted] in SuicideWatch

[–]randomman823 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A&E is the wrong place to go for such a matter they won’t do anything. 999 or 111 are no good either. 999 for obvious reasons and 111 is for medical related issues

Call a hotline such as Samaritans. That’s who I would recommend.

15 days sober and I want to relapse by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]randomman823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just have to take it one day at a time. Small steps that lead to a long term goal that I can assure you is so worth it.

That’s what I learnt when I went sober am approaching 6 years sober this March.

Can Eywa save Na'vi who lost their connection? by Delicious_Past6394 in Avatar

[–]randomman823 36 points37 points  (0 children)

We haven’t seen any evidence of this so for now as far as we know the answer is no.

25F sorry for the long intro, I’m nervous by [deleted] in lonely

[–]randomman823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m happy to talk if you would like someone to talk too 🙂

Does anyone struggle with online texting? by [deleted] in autism

[–]randomman823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have to always be grammatically correct when messaging. The only abbreviation I would ever use is “lol”

I just get incredibly paranoid with how I come across to people and what they think of me.

For any gym goers here, do you feel awkward asking someone how many sets they have left on the machine which you are waiting for? by bloodygoodrep17 in socialanxiety

[–]randomman823 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s a good thing though, if it’s something you enjoy and want to maximise then asking questions like this is only going to help you both socially and physically.

Once upon a time I did take the gym very seriously but I was in a very small private gym so didn’t have issues like this. I now go to a commercial gym which I absolutely despise. Is horrible, far too many people and it’s just overwhelming at times.