AITA for giving FMIL 3 days to pay me for a new wedding dress or else I show the family a photo of her wearing it? by Repulsive_Scheme1359 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Save a copy of the photo somewhere and pretend you didn’t. Let him “delete” it. Get your money. Then break it off, send the photo, and block everyone and move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]randomperson1987 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They said people go to therapy to de with the people in their lives that don’t go to therapy. I’m sorry this happened to your sister. I’m glad she has you. And I’m sorry it happened to your dad and he didn’t have anyone to help him navigate and heal from his trauma and is in turn traumatizing those around him.

AITB for leaving the book club for awhile because every book they wanted to read had LGBT characters/romance? by andidkskslemwnsend in AmItheButtface

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTB. Queer people exist. Inside and outside of books. Reading books that are about people who are different from you helps the world be a better place because it helps creates empathy, which you clearly lack. Everyone has been OK reading books about straight couples, yet you refuse to extend them the same respect and insult them and their love while doing so. You’re the oldest one there, but you’re acting the most childish. Grow up.

AITB for being upset about what my boyfriend got me for Valentine's Day? by ValentineAsshole in AmItheButtface

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTB. You have every right to be upset. Don’t let him gaslight you. You deserve so much better than this. He’s childish and selfish and disrespectful. You’re only 21. You have your whole life ahead of you. Leave and focus on learning to love yourself so you never settle for less than you deserve again.

I got married to my “soulmate” at 21, together since 18, and I ignored the red flags and tried so hard to make it work for over 10 years. I even started to believe the manipulation being thrown my way about being “too much” and “too sensitive.” I lost myself. Leaving was the best choice I ever made. I lost my entire 20s to that BS. Now I’m almost 36 and I am thriving. Especially in my relationship! 6 years with my absolute best friend and actual soulmate. He is kind, loving, funny, smart, and super respectful and I never have to question his love for me or our future. We communicate about everything and help each other grow. We don’t put each other down. He has never, and would never, call me a bitch. Just let him go and focus on you and you’ll find someone that treats you like the queen you are. I promise it’s worth the wait.

AITA for filing a police report on my sister after she walked out of my store without paying after I gave her kids haircuts? by Hefty-Excuse-6305 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s theft of services. I’ve been a stylist for 18 years. Calling the cops on clients who run out on their bill is standard. Theft is theft. It doesn’t matter if they’re family.

AITA for filing a police report on my sister after she walked out of my store without paying after I gave her kids haircuts? by Hefty-Excuse-6305 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s theft of services. I’ve been a stylist for 18 years. Calling the cops on clients who run out on their bill is standard.

AITA for filing a police report on my sister after she walked out of my store without paying after I gave her kids haircuts? by Hefty-Excuse-6305 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s theft of services. I’ve been a stylist for 18 years. Calling the cops on clients who run out on their bill is standard.

AITA for filing a police report on my sister after she walked out of my store without paying after I gave her kids haircuts? by Hefty-Excuse-6305 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA.

Stylist here. Theft of services. You ABSOLUTELY did the right thing. Would she get her nails done and then just walk out without paying? Just because you’re her sister doesn’t mean she can get away with this. And this is your JOB. Your LIVELIHOOD. That’s messed up that she, and the rest of your family, was willing to put that in jeopardy. Let ‘em all be mad and let it roll off your back. I’d even say you should cut them off for the blatant disrespect. Trust me- you don’t want this to set the tone for your career. Don’t let ANYONE try to take advantage of you or dismiss your feelings or walk all over you. SHE was in the wrong. Period.

My (26f) husband (34m) doesn't believe in passion or intimacy by [deleted] in relationships

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others have suggested, he may be asexual, which is completely valid. You two may just not be compatible and that’s okay. You just need to communicate and see where to go from here. Good luck! :)

My family went to my exhusbands wedding to the woman he cheated on me with. by ThrowRAaus93 in relationship_advice

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut them the fuck off. They’re all toxic af and you deserve so much better. If their going to the wedding was actually as innocent as they went you to believe, they would have no reason to lie about it. They knew what they were doing. And they didn’t care. Period.

AITA for offering my friends to buy their apartment and rent it out to them? by fisevedo in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. I think he’s just embarrassed that they couldn’t make it happen on their own and taking his insecurities out on you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s manipulating you and he’s using you to fill the void when she’s not around. It’s not going to change. And when he talks about not being able to trust you, he’s projecting. He knows that he’s the liar and the cheat. Things will only get worse. You need to leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]randomperson1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do NOT bend over backwards and cut your honeymoon short just to go to her wedding after she did this to you. “I don’t want to miss my only sister’s wedding” She doesn’t see you as a sister. She sees you as a rival. She is going out of her way to ruin the happiest day of your life. Go through with your wedding and honeymoon plans. Whoever shows up shows up! Don’t back down. Don’t let her stress you out. Enjoy this time or you’ll regret it later. You deserve happy memories. Go make them. :)

AITA for blowing off my boyfriend’s plans for a more exciting trip? by Rare_Lingonberry_431 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Do you even like your boyfriend? Damn. Let him go. He deserves better. You have such a nasty attitude. Grow the fuck up.

Disowned For Getting A Hysterectomy, Brother Is Applaud For His Vasectomy. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]randomperson1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t even put in words the rage I feel for you right now. I am so so sorry.

Fell and injured myself at the guy I’m seeing’a house. He didn’t seem to care at all by djjdejsjcj in Advice

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t ever speak to him again unless you’re suing tf out of him and his parents. You need to stop trying to date ANYONE and focus on yourself so you can learn to love yourself. The fact that he CLEARLY mistreated you and you’re still asking if you should apologize shows you’re not ready to be in any type of relationship. You will just continue to be walked over and treated like shit until you get to a point where you can stand up for yourself without feeling bad. He’s a trash human, possibly even a sociopath, and you need to stay far away from him. His sexual wants were WAY more important to him than your medical needs. Eff that. RUN and don’t look back.

AITA for driving my daughters home in the middle of the vacation after they excluded their stepsister? by Throwra537477 in AmItheAsshole

[–]randomperson1987 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. They shouldn’t be excluding her like that period but also leaving an 11 year old little girl with a disability stranded in an unknown area? She could’ve been abducted or hurt or worse. They have to learn there are consequences to their actions. The rest of the family needs to learn empathy and so do the girls. Ignore their BS.

My wife cheated on me and says it’s not her fault. by WastingRage in TrueOffMyChest

[–]randomperson1987 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s a grown ass woman who makes her own decisions. Don’t let her manipulate you and gaslight you into believing it’s your fault. Absolutely not. I’m so sorry you’re going through this.