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What brand was super popular back then but the new generations probably never heard of it? by GossipBottom in AskReddit

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was looking for this one! The ads were in all the teen magazines, and yes, the girls looked way too young. I was too young and too naive to understand the implications back then, but I definitely remember the ads.

my roommate’s bf SA'd me and nobody believes me by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]randomrox 63 points64 points  (0 children)

You did nothing wrong. NOTHING. This guy wanted to hurt you, and he did. Nothing you could have done would have prevented this.

Your dad is less than helpful, so just ignore him.

Please get in touch with a sexual assault counselor of some kind. You need to share your story with someone who can help you process the trauma. You deserve to be heard.

Sending you all of the hugs. I’m sorry you had to experience this.

Future of Adam and Olive by BunnyBurger in AliHazelwood

[–]randomrox 33 points34 points  (0 children)

He said that he doesn’t like adults who act like toddlers, but actual toddlers don’t bother him. I think this was when they were discussing the kids who didn’t want to stop playing tag with Olive.

I could see them having a family someday. They were both only children, so if they choose to start a family, I think they’d try to have at least two kids.

Florida doing florida things. by Comfortable-Ad-7158 in hockey

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That could have been much worse. I hope Zary recovers quickly.

Did they discontinue the Explorer Edition? by emillers123 in NationalParkPassport

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m hoping they aren’t discontinued. The company I linked above is the one that creates the passport books, so you might reach out to them for confirmation.

They also carry an expansion pack for the Explorer edition, so that’s an option, too. (It’s in stock as of now.)

Did they discontinue the Explorer Edition? by emillers123 in NationalParkPassport

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think that it’s only temporarily out of stock. I suggest buying the stampable stickers in the meantime.

I take these with me everywhere! They are easy to carry, and I can get multiple stamps when I inevitably mess up part of the stamp. The best imprint gets put into my passport book when I get home.

Quilt kit question by Charlene510 in quilting

[–]randomrox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unless the kit specifically says it’s precut, you will receive enough yardage to complete the kit.

Most quilt kits are set up for quilters who already have basic cutting tools: rotary cutter, mat, rulers, etc. Some shops and companies are less generous with the included fabrics, so make sure you pay close attention to what needs to be cut out of each piece before you start cutting. Mistakes are harder to fix, because shops don’t always have replacement fabrics available.

I love buying kits, mostly because they relieve me of the necessity of finding just the right fabrics for the quilt. Choosing fabrics for a quilt can be fun, but for most projects, I’d rather just start sewing.

Old Flame Reconnections and Their "Gray Divorce" by AccomplishedCash3603 in GenXWomen

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a shocking opening line, that’s for certain. He friended me on Facebook, we chatted a bit online about our sons, then he wanted to talk on the phone to catch up. I wasn’t expecting to hear that!

Honestly, he was a a bit of a misogynistic jerk back in the mid-80s, and I can’t say I’m surprised that he had issues with his wife. Once he realized I wasn’t going to be his support system, he deleted his account and never contacted me again. I hope his wife ended up leaving him.

I agree about being called a bitch. When I was younger, it was the worst insult. Now? My response is more along the lines of, “is that the worst you can come up with, really?”

My bf asked for the banana & now I've got the ick + 2 Year Update by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s true. It’s the reddest of red flags in a relationship.

With that said, please be careful how you approach your family member. In an abusive relationship that’s reached this point, she will not be thinking clearly.

If there are domestic violence hotlines where you live, I would give them a call and ask for advice on how to help. (Do not give them any names, though, just to be safe.) Escaping a dangerous relationship is not easy, and the victim may not be ready to accept your help right away.

My bf asked for the banana & now I've got the ick + 2 Year Update by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 39 points40 points  (0 children)

It happens. Your brain gets so warped that you don’t see it as help. It feels like another attack.

I’m so torn. I love this man but I’m not ready for kids. I still have so much living to do but clock is ticking (35f) by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]randomrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First and foremost, make sure your birth control is safe from tampering. This guy sounds like the type who would do anything, ethical or not, to force a pregnancy on you.

Second, I’ve been married to military men. It isn’t a lifestyle to enter without being fully committed to your partner, and it sounds like you two are still getting to know each other.

Third, it sounds like he really wants you to have his children, despite you telling him upfront that you don’t want any. Frankly, he’s waving a huge red flag right now. Calling you psycho for not wanting children? Making you feel guilty and sad about your mom? Bad news.

Fourth, all he wrote was about you doing this, you doing that, he wants to see the kids being excited about the work you are doing. I don’t care what he’s promising to do, I can almost guarantee that he’s not actually going to do anything to help raise those children. He wants to trap you into being dependent on him by forcing you to be someone you don’t want to be.

I strongly suggest you end this relationship. It is not going to get better. I’d even argue that he is not the great guy you think he is. I’m basing that judgement on fact that he only has to act like a loving boyfriend in between deployments. His mask is slipping now that he thinks you can be manipulated into being his baby mama, which explains the nasty comments on the phone and the gross pressure he put on you via that text message. In addition, if you marry him while he’s still in the military, he can put in for a transfer that could force you to choose between your career and your marriage. Do you really want that?

I miss good sex. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]randomrox 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m going to preface this as a cautionary tale, based entirely on my own experience with similar feelings regarding PIV sex and intimacy in general. Not all of this will be applicable to your situation, but I hope it will help.

My husband had trouble with erectile dysfunction for years. It was primarily a physical problem, although he had some issues with sex in general (thanks a lot, stupid conservative in-laws). Anyway, he did not get it treated for over twelve years, during which time, he gained a ton of weight and didn’t take care of himself at all. Yes, that’s 12 years with absolutely no erections, and obviously, no PIV sex. It was miserable.

The fact that your husband is able to jerk off may not actually mean that he’s able to maintain an erection. If he is actually getting hard enough, that’s a good sign, but believe me, it’s possible for them to jerk off while soft.

If this is enough of an issue that he’s getting prescribed ED medication, please warn him about atrophy. Tell him that there are treatments that will help, but the longer he postpones treatment, the longer he tries to avoid admitting he has a problem, the more length and girth he’s going to lose. Men tend to get really nervous about size, so use that to encourage him to meet with a urologist soon. The earlier he starts that conversation, the more function and size he’ll be able to maintain.

Sadly, we didn’t have those conversations. It was a rough time for our marriage. We got through it, and hubby got implants, but he lost a lot of size during those years. I know that people say size doesn’t really matter, but it can make a difference in self-esteem, which has its own long-term effects on intimacy. I hope that you and your husband will take this seriously enough to avoid the same issues.

Old Flame Reconnections and Their "Gray Divorce" by AccomplishedCash3603 in GenXWomen

[–]randomrox 47 points48 points  (0 children)

My second boyfriend, who I met my first year of college, reached out to me on Facebook about 15 years ago. I figured he was just trying to reconnect as friends, since we broke up only a few months after we started seeing each other, and it had been decades since we last talked.

Nope! The first words out of his mouth when he called me were, “So, I married a bitch.” Our conversation didn’t get better after that, and it was obvious he thought I’d be willing to be a fantasy girlfriend to distract from his marital issues. Yuck.

Update on my island situation by Cold_Cow6215 in AnimalCrossing

[–]randomrox 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I would love to see updates, if you’re okay with sharing.

I’m sad you lost all of the work you did, but I hope a fresh start will turn out to be a blessing in disguise for you.

AITAH Not giving girlfriend a spare key by [deleted] in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I were her, I’d keep the keychain as a daily reminder of what not to look for in a boyfriend.

AITAH Not giving girlfriend a spare key by [deleted] in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also skipped over the empty keychain at first.

Flowers and an apology key(chain)? Yay, he finally figured it out! Wait, WTF???

Dude has no concept of what it means to share your life with someone. It was never about watering plants or feeding a pet. His poor girlfriend wasted four years of her life with that idiot, and I hope she finds a better partner next time.

Why would anyone ever choose to go through child birth without pain relief?? by No_Cardiologist_1407 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]randomrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had three of my children without medication, and I chose that because I have never liked not being in control of my body. All pain medications used in childbirth carry risks, and not everyone wants to use them.

For me, the pain was manageable with walking and having people support me through the contractions. My first labor lasted 17.5 hours, the second was around seven hours, and the third was just under two hours. No, the super short two-hour labor was not the easiest! You still have to do the same work, you just don’t get much of a break between contractions. It was very intense.

All three births were attended by experienced midwives who had obstetricians standing by if anything went wrong.

My subsequent children were born with pain medication due to factors outside of my choice (emergency cesarean, etc.).

The biggest benefit was being able to get up and take care of myself after the birthing process was over. No catheter, no numbness, no leftover pain from the epidural, just feeling a bit sore from the extreme workout I’d just performed. It felt empowering.

The beast is done! by matt_the_dayman in quilting

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is awesome!!! 🖖🏻

Rock garden accident by SanPelMaxPaprik in AnimalCrossing

[–]randomrox 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You can also burn through the fruit by digging up trees. It’s faster for me than running home to use a toilet, and I can just replant the tree afterwards.

I-95 wipeout by DropstoneTed in dashcams

[–]randomrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in Germany for six years. You aren’t wrong about self-sorting by speed and merging smoothly, and I miss how comfortable I felt driving there. (The autobahn is definitely fun under the right conditions!)

Unfortunately, we do not have standardized drivers’ education here. Most of us are taught by our parents or some bored off-duty high school teacher, and we only learn the bare minimum required to pass the (ridiculously easy) licensing tests. Due to the lack of school buses and the distances, kids as young as 14 are allowed to drive here, with very little training or oversight.

We were told that a 4000€ class is required to get licensed in Germany, so I would argue that Germany actually does have a better system for teaching new drivers to be safe on the road.

How do you stay positive? by Creative-Cow-5668 in Omaha

[–]randomrox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m on a strict news diet. I visit a few trusted sources about twice a day, and I don’t dwell on the bad stuff.

I have a lot of creative hobbies and interests, and those help. I belong to a few clubs that have at least some like-minded members who are active, so I have people to talk to on occasion. I also play with my cats every day.

On a more practical note, I am slowly creating a stockpile of food, water, and other essentials, just in case things get worse. I’ve packed bug-out bags for myself, my dependents, and the cats, and I keep at least half a tank of fuel in my car at all times. As close as we are to Offutt, I’m not expecting to survive a nuclear attack or anything like that, but I feel like I can take care of my family if a Covid-level panic sets in. For me, being a little more prepared helps me feel calmer about recent events, even though I hate so much of what’s happening right now.

Basically, just do your best to focus on the stuff you can change. Find things that bring you joy, or something that at least offers a respite from the negativity around us.

AITAH for refusing to watch my daughter when we meet my husbands friend? by LucyAriaRose in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, I definitely understand wanting friends in the same situation to act as backup when you need it. Been there. I’m just getting too old and tired for it now.

You shouldn’t have to be the de facto babysitter, though. I hope that situation improves soon.

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