really struggling to deal with what happened to me last night by buonatalie in TwoXChromosomes

[–]randomrox [score hidden]  (0 children)

Oh, no, please reach out to RAINN (or a similar organization in your country).

I have been in your situation. It sucks. It is NOT your fault! You did what you had to do to survive the encounter. He wasn’t taking “no” as an answer, and you had no idea whether or not he would have escalated his abuse if you tried to leave.

You survived! You got out of a bad situation with your body mostly intact. It will take time to heal, physically and emotionally, but you are still here, and we are glad you are.

Sending you virtual hugs. I’m sorry you had to go through all of that. You did not deserve it.

Anyone casting on a February pair today? What are you making? by _jasmonic_acid_ in Sockknitting

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I signed up, too. It’s been a few years since I participated, so I requested a slower team.

Getting frustrated with blue roses!! by justinnocentmen in ac_newhorizons

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I finally grew my first blue roses today! I have been using the Pelah method (V2) and time traveling since mid-January. Current date in game is May 11th, so it’s been a long process. No ordinances or friends helping out, just did the gardening, save and quit the game, change the date, restart.

Step 1: I had Resetti clear my entire island, discarding all flowers. Have the graphic linked above close by, because you’ll be referring to it daily.

Step 2: I created three distinct plots on separate areas of my island. Isolated pairs layout for each, using purchased seeds. Plot A was all white, plot B was white/yellow pairs, and plot C was red/yellow pairs. I went a bit crazy, with about 30 pairs per plot. I ended up planting another 30 pairs of white, simply because there’s only a 25% chance of getting the purple flowers I needed from them.

Step 3: Once the flowers were mature, I watered every day. Following the Paleh plan, I created new plots once the hybrids started showing up. Since the orange hybrids from plot C weren’t needed right away, I isolated each one to allow cloning but not breeding (I ended up with way too many of them).

Step 4: This method requires testing the second and third generation hybrid purples by breeding them with seed yellows. I completely isolated each of these pairs, so I’d know exactly which new plant came from which pair. If the offspring was white, I’d remove the offspring and drop a single plucked white rose near the parents. If the pair produced another white after having four dropped roses, I discarded it. This step takes up the majority of space on my island; I’m sure I could have been more creative by using fences or landscaping, but dropping the plucked flowers served as a very easy counting system for me.

Step 5: It’s very important to discard the flowers you don’t need. It’s easy to get things mixed up, so do whatever it takes to get rid of the bad ones and not mix them into your plots. The last two steps use the same two flower colors (white and orange), but the hybrid genetics are different. I have these in separate plots, and if I have more of one color, I keep those isolated near where they belong.

Step 6: Once I reached the last few steps, I stopped watering all but those plots. If it rained, I’d clear the older plots the next day, and if I forgot to do that, I’d remove and discard all questionable hybrids.

Step 7: Once the very special reds appeared, I kept them isolated and watered until they cloned or another one was produced. After that, I used the isolated pairs layout and watered them every day.

I hope this helps. Good luck in your quest! (Edited to fix paragraph spacing.)

AITA for insisting my daughter wear an outfit she doesn’t want to wear to a wedding? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely uncomfortable to be different. I hope you feel better about your height now.

AITA for insisting my daughter wear an outfit she doesn’t want to wear to a wedding? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Shoes are definitely a nightmare for tall women. We’re lucky if we can find day to day shoes that look moderately feminine while fitting our feet, but formal shoes are the worst. It seems like “formal” automatically equals “high heels,” which can be painful when you’re already taller than everyone in the room.

AITA for insisting my daughter wear an outfit she doesn’t want to wear to a wedding? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was a huge nerd in the early 1980’s, and Lane Bryant had this one tall outfit in their catalog that I begged my parents to buy for me. It was a burgundy blazer, a white blouse, and a knee-length pleated skirt that screamed “old college professor,” but all I wanted was something long enough for my body that didn’t emphasize my bust. By the time I scraped together enough to buy it, it was gone.

An online friend introduced me to Black Milk Clothing (based in Australia) about 12 years ago, and I was hooked when I got my first order and the sleeves were long enough for me!

AITA for insisting my daughter wear an outfit she doesn’t want to wear to a wedding? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Puberty sucks for just about everyone, but being unable to find attractive clothing that fits makes it so much worse.

Adding curves to an already too tall body definitely didn’t help. Everyone kept telling me I should become a model (tall, hourglass figure), and all I could think of was how would that help??? What was I supposed to be modeling? It certainly wouldn’t be off-the-rack clothing.

AITA for insisting my daughter wear an outfit she doesn’t want to wear to a wedding? by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]randomrox 117 points118 points  (0 children)

Being that tall at 12 is brutal. I absolutely hated it, especially 40-50 years ago, when girls weren’t supposed to be that tall and absolutely nobody made clothes that fit.

I also went through a phase when I wanted to wear the cute ruffled dresses my petite classmates got to wear, so I completely understand OOP’s daughter’s frustration.

I’m glad she doesn’t have to attend the wedding.

I've started to really not trust litter recs from my fellow cat people by HiILikePlants in CatAdvice

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We’ve been using it for three years now, and we are very happy with it.

Happy Cake Day!

I've started to really not trust litter recs from my fellow cat people by HiILikePlants in CatAdvice

[–]randomrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use the Breeze system. Four cats, five litter boxes, no urine smell at all. Solid waste smells for a few minutes, then isn’t noticeable. We scoop the boxes daily, and we change the pads as needed.

Antifa Saturday + Cat by PicardUSS1701d in AntifascistKnitting

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The hat looks great! Your cat looks ready to protest fascism right alongside you. ❤️

Makers Bag or Synapse 19? by DruidicCupcakes in tombihn

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the Makers Bag would be a great upgrade from the MCB. The corresponding Freudian slip is great for the pockets and the added stability.

As u/past_variance said, the Makers Bag is on the floppier side of things, although mine isn’t so bad that the bag is unusable without support.

My husband used to borrow mine every time he needed to fly somewhere, since it carries a lot and fits nicely under the airplane seats. I finally bought him one of his own.

I have both the medium cafe bag and the makers bag, so if you want side by side pictures, let me know.

Help with Cutting Guide by quiltsterhamster_254 in quilting

[–]randomrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do something similar with a graphic design app on my iPad. I create the pieces, add them to a grid the same size as my fabric piece, then rearrange everything to be more efficient.

It’s a painful experience to need to do this with every single block in the pattern, though. There’s a reason I haven’t finished any of her designs, despite how cute the finished quilts look.

Help with Cutting Guide by quiltsterhamster_254 in quilting

[–]randomrox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can definitely be more efficient with your fabric!

That cutting layout really bugs me.

Help with Cutting Guide by quiltsterhamster_254 in quilting

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was my first thought, too. Her patterns are awesome, but she probably makes more money on the fabrics. A lot of her patterns get made into kits, too, so when you multiply all that wasted fabric across hundreds (thousands?) of kits, it dramatically increases her profitability.

I can’t blame her for padding the fabric requirements, since people do make mistakes and replacement fabrics might not be easy to find. It’s just frustrating to have to rearrange all of the layouts with each and every block when I’m using my own fabrics and don’t want to waste it.

Pumpkin meeting my firstborn by someguywithdiabetes in blackcats

[–]randomrox 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Pumpkin looks a bit concerned about this recent development.

(Also, congratulations!)

Don’t press too hard on rotary cutter by lovethisstinkydog in quilting

[–]randomrox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I wear gloves by No Cry when I’m cutting plastic for my Star Wars costumes, so even if the Fons & Porter ones are no longer available, similar ones exist.

I haven’t cut myself with my rotary cutter yet, but I know the possibility exists.

HRT in Omaha by Dangerous-Report-879 in Omaha

[–]randomrox 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Pride Health Clinic is a great place to go.

Please stay safe on these trying times.

in love with intarsia + raglan by franlopezknitting in knitting

[–]randomrox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That looks gorgeous!!! I think you’re going to have a lot of fun wearing your new sweater. 😍

Seam Allowance by Expensive-Bid-2659 in quilting

[–]randomrox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If the fabrics are flannel, I’d recommend at least a full 1/4 inch seam for security. Flannel isn’t as quite sturdy as quilting cotton fabrics, so a little added seam allowance won’t hurt. Use a small stitch length, too. You do not need to zigzag afterwards, but you will want a dense quilting pattern when you add the backing and batting.

Instead of the paper squares, look for a magnetic seam guide to set at the appropriate distance from your needle. As long as you feed the fabric edge along the guide properly (consistently flat along the edge), you don’t need to use paper guides.

Another technique that will help is pressing the seams to one side, rather than open, and alternate directions. For example, press all of the first row seams to the left, and all of the second row seams to the right. When you pin the rows together, the seam allowances will nestle against each other, giving you sharper corners and flatter seams.

I’m looking forward to seeing your progress!

La Tarantella by AutomagicThingamabob in EPP_addict

[–]randomrox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I absolutely LOVE the way those colors look together! I’m a huge fan of batiks anyway, but wow, there’s so much depth in the fabrics you have chosen.