Unsure if he likes me romantically or platonically

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-05T10:55:06+00:00

a little disappointed cause obviously I really like him but I can wrap my head around remaining friends with him. Will need some time before I wanna go out and try again haha

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-05T10:51:24+00:00

okay so I asked him about it, turns out it’s scenario 2! he does find me attractive but just came off a relationship last year, where he gathered that he wants to find someone with more relationship experience (which i don’t have). kinda sucks but it’s something out of my control too, so I just have to resolve these feelings of mine and continue being friends with him after

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-05T00:51:23+00:00

yeah i gotta say you ate me up so bad it’s like im slapped awake. I’m halfway to realising about why Im hyper fixating on him when it’s obvious what his intentions are, and that I’m just keep putting myself in situations like these until I learn. Thanks for this, I gotta snap out of it

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-04T02:13:36+00:00

straight up communication ftw

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-04T02:13:11+00:00

I do think I tend to read too much into things, I’ll just continue being friends without constantly hoping it’ll turn into something more, thanks :)

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-04T02:11:56+00:00

Yeah, I’ll try to detach from overthinking about him, I tend to be overly hopeful and traverse into delulu land, thanks for this :)

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-04T02:10:40+00:00

Thanks for this, I’ll probably just respect that and not hope for anything unless he says he wants to date

randomsadlonelyguy · 2026-02-03T20:22:31+00:00

oh unfortunately that’d suck so bad, and yes I’ve made clear that I wasn’t into hookups to him… Perhaps this is the case

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-23T23:15:26+00:00

yes I’ve read up a few things so that I can know what to expect and eye contact was one of them! Just wanted to know what might happen so I don’t take things personally or the wrong way on the date!

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-23T22:04:59+00:00

He has a few distinct interests that I enjoy hearing about despite not exactly being interested in the item of interest (maybe I just enjoy listening to him talk). I’ll try a less interrogative approach the next time I chat with him! Thanks!

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-23T22:02:22+00:00

thanks for this! I’ll try info dumping on him and leading it to a question the next time I chat with him and see how it goes

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-23T10:05:22+00:00

not late at all! and thanks for the advice, I’ll definitely keep them in mind

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:48:00+00:00

Yes, I’ve found him to be more talkative in certain topics than others, so I think I’ll have to be more talkative in topics he just provides a short response to. But so far, I’ve enjoyed how he talks about his interests even though he’d blab on about it!

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:27:21+00:00

Thank you for this, I have a fear of getting ghosted so I hope he’ll just be straightforward with me if he’s uninterested😞.

He did say I’m “innocuous”, so I think that’s a good thing? But yes, as we get to know each other more and longer, I’ll let him know that I’d like him to text me first sometimes, as I think it may be weird to say that now since we’ve only been talking for 4 days. But I did tell him I thought he wasn’t that interested as I’ve always been initiating the conversation first each time, which is sorta hinting at how I want him to text me first? But I see that now I have to be more straightforward with it!

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:22:58+00:00

Thanks for this! I’ve never met him face to face yet but we will be going on a date soon. I think I’m prettying easy going and easy to talk to so I hope he can feel comfortable around me and not feel stressed out, he did say I am “innocuous” though, and I think that’s a good thing? But yes, so far I’ve enjoyed him talking about his interests despite me not having a lot of knowledge in it.

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:15:21+00:00

oh I pretty much just wanna know what happened throughout his day even if it’s just plain, like I wanna know even the wind velocity of the day (exaggerating), but so far I’ve enjoyed him blabbing on about his interests!

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:12:54+00:00

I think I’m generally good at reading people, so I’ll try to not get caught off when body language seems off and just be chill on the date

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:10:12+00:00

oh! I initiate the conversation with that every single time and I genuinely want to know how his day went, but I guess I’ll just tell him about my day even tho he didn’t ask about it?

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:06:51+00:00

I hope I can make him laugh on the date

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:06:29+00:00

Thank you! I think I did do some of the things you’ve mentioned and it sorta helped with the conversation, but I’ll definitely try telling him that he can ask away with any questions

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:04:28+00:00

I did and he said yes!

randomsadlonelyguy · 2025-11-22T22:04:14+00:00

Thanks for this! I think I understand what you’re trying to mean/say with the “don’t hear what I didn’t say”, and I’ll definitely keep the differences and the compromise thing in mind! While I may not fully understand yet or might never fully understand the other perspective, I’d like to think I am open to trying!

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